What would you do???

linzcw04

We are debating on when/where to take our HM.....either

1) we are going to leave the day after our wedding in June and go to the Caribbean or someplace fun in the States or......

2) we are going to do a two night stay at a nice hotel in San Antonio, TX (or someplace close) after the wedding and postpone the HM until Winter/Fall and go be snow-bunnies in the mountains.

I know they are two totally separate adventures but...I am nervous about postponing it - I have heard stories of ppl that never went on their HM because they did that. I need a little push to get me off the fence!

emilyinchile

I would probably go for #1 because I'd worry about the HM seeming like just another vacation if we put it off. But as PP said, if you're having a bunch of OOT guests, I'd stick with #2...I'm taking 2 weeks off from work and "only" going on an 8 night HM because with people coming all the way to Chile, I want to actually spend some time with them before we leave!

SuMmErKuTiE

I also vote for option #1. If we waited, it wouldn't feel like a HM, and just as emilyinchile mentioned, it would feel like another vacation. FI and I really wanted to be able to get away right after the wedding and not go right back to our every day hectic lives.

Being snow bunnies is fun! Have you guys considered doing both? Taking your HM right after the wedding and getting some much needed time away for some alone time and relaxation? Then taking a snow trip several months later as a vacation? FI like to take 2 vacations a year, and we have yet to do a snow trip together, but that sounds like a lot of fun!

Do what works best for you guys, and either trip (or both!) sound amazing! But, I always vote for taking your HM after the wedding because things come up and you may not be able to get away as planned.

adamnkel

I vote option #1 we are getting married on a fri night and leaving for the HM on monday so we can spend time with OOT guests. We discussed waiting but things always come up and I would really regret not taking a HM

kdqueen16

Number one for sure! You don't need time to wind down and reflect on it before! That's what the honeymoon is for! You want to be in that blissful high and what a way to start a marriage! Take your dream vacation and don't let anything get in the way! A honeymoon right after your big day is a way to celebrate the new life you will have and spend time reflecting without distractions. It's just the two of you in paradise! 

linzcw04

I found a way that maybe we could have our cake and eat it too.....the middle of June is the very start of snow ski season in Argentina and Chile...maybe that would work??
Thanks for all your opinions! I don't want to wait now!!!

BeadUnique

My husband and I went on a short trip the day after our wedding (we went sunday to tuesday) to a quaint little place that we could spend time together and relax from the craziness of the wedding. then the following summer we went away for a week vacation as our "second honeymoon". we were concerned with the same thing (that we would never go on a real honeymoon), so we did both!

brit_bell90

I'd say whichever you would prefer, don't worry about the time in between. You'll know it's your honeymoon and you'll get to it if you already have it planned out. Maybe you can book the trip before you're wedding to make sure that you don't put it off for too long. I hope that helps.

SuMmErKuTiE

I'm sure we'll be exhausted after the chaos of the wedding, but we're not leaving the next morning. We'll be leaving a few days later. We'll spend time with our OOT guests and have brunch the following morning with everyone who stayed over at the resort. We'll go home and relax for a day and then we'll be skipping town for a romantic get-away that in my opinion is unlike any other get-away you'll take in your life.

Yes, do what's best for you! But I agree with kdqueen16, that blissfull high of being "just married" will be such an amazing feeling and getting away from everyone and everything and it being just us relaxing in paradise is not comparable to anything else. Everyone in my life (older adults, family members, friends who are already married) have done it this way and said they wouldn't trade how they did it for anything. A lot of people can't get away for a while right after the wedding due to jobs and/or school situations, but I would at least try to get away for a few days and have a little romantic getaway that's just the two of you.

To the OP: going skiing in Argentina or Chile sounds absolutely incredible!! That sounds like an experience of a lifetime! Have you researched the mountains and ski resorts down there? Let us know what you find! :0)

dirtymartini

we left the morning after- yes we were tired for the day, but we napped on the plane and relaxed at the resort that night. it was amazing to get away from all the wedding craziness, just the two of us... by that time, after the wedding went so perfectly I was just so happy to be done with it all and get to the tropics with my hubby.  I wouldn't have done it any other way.

lindseroo

I don't really consider it a honeymoon if it's postponed.  The whole point is to get away on a vacation right after your wedding.  If it's put off, it's just a vacation.  Sort of lackluster.  And who wants to go back to work two days after their wedding?  That seems pretty lame.

JMU_Bride09

I would definitely go with option #1.  I personally would not want to wait on the HM bc it would feel like basically any other vacation.  I think that the HM is special bc it is some time for you and your new husband to unwind together and celebrate your recent marriage.

lharri12

If you waited several months, what would you do the week after the wedding? If it were me, I'd just be wishing I was somewhere tropical!!!  Why would you want to unwind at home when you can do it on the beach?!!  Besides, if you take a trip several months after the wedding, it wouldn't feel like a honeymoon!

amy41710

We are waiting to go on our honeymoon, and honestly, I am VERY glad that we are doing it that way.  Of course, we are paying for the wedding ourselves, and by postponing it we will A) have warmer weather and have more money.  You can make sure that you go on your postponed HM by booking things in advance, so you have everything set.

For us, it will be just as romantic and wonderful because it will be the two of us in a place that we would never have gone otherwise.  Just because your HM doesn't start the day after your wedding, doesn't mean you aren't newlyweds!

There are pros and cons to both, obviously.  You just have to do what fits your desires best!

jeffloveslaura

I would go on the HM right away. We were married on a Saturday and left on Monday.  We had family in town as well.  They did not expect us to hang out with them after the wedding!  They expected us to go on our H!.  However, leaving on Monday did allow us to brunch with them on Sunday before they left for home.  Also, we were exhausted after our wedding, too.  But that was what the honeymoon is for -- relaxing and reflecting on the wedding. I agree with PP's that otherwise a HM later is not really your HM, it's a vacation.  Take a vacation and be snow bunnies later.  Your HM is traditionally after your wedding. It's an incredibly romantic time together- do it right away while you're still glowing after your wedding.

krissyg2010

Option 1, sort of. You could spend a day or two at home then take a trip somewhere for a few days. That way you can relax and leave for your HM stress free. We're leaving the day after- our wedding's on a Saturday and FI has the whole following week off work, so we're going somewhere a few hours away and disappearing for as long as possible..