Did you think your FI would be "the one"?

DaisyBoo36

I'm sure we all have our ideal man of our dreams who fits a particular set of characteristics and yet, sometimes we fall in love with someone who may fit the description we have in mind or is somewhat different.

Did you think your FI would be the guy you would be marrying based on personality, likes, and looks?

Renaect

Yep, totally realized my love was the one when I was 16 years old. I didn't have a dream0guy type, so it was totally based on personality. His personality then (and now) won (and continues to win) me over. 

 I couldn't see myself spending the rest of my life with anyone but him. Even after we'd broken up for 4 years and were seriously dating other people, I always knew that the man at the end of the aisle, and the one holding my hand when I'm old and grey would be my fiance. 

annieoldfield

I really haddnt ever thought about things like that. I was 22 when I met my FI and at that time I didnt see myself marrying anyone. But of course I love his personality, likes and looks and as time went on I definitely thought about wanting to marry him and asking myself if this is the guy I can spend my life with and he is!! 

jfox113

Yes, actually it scared me. I was 19, having the time of my life in the clubs, out with girlfriends, just living the life (not looking for love!) and my Fiance and I worked together. We clicked and became instant friends. We began to confide in each other and just felt great around each other all the time. We always tried to make sure our schedules were the same at work so we could see each other more and more. It just grew and grew. After some time, people around us kept saying "when are you two going to date already!". After about a year, we did and 8 years later, we will be husband and wife! I remember saying back in the day to my mom "I could marry this man".

Mademoiselle D

When I first met my FI and got a whiff of his personality, he absolutely was not the guy I'd picture myself getting married to, lol! When I tell the story of FI and I, people laugh because I couldn't stand FI and had a strong dislike for him. I thought he was an ass$#&@, lol! It wasn't until I really got to know himthat I realized he wasn't a bad guy just going through a lot of hardships (his dad was battling cancer and had a close family member pass). Shortly after we started dating I realized he would be the man I would marry.

ohthatshari

yes and no. the first time i met my FI was in 2007 when he came to visit his friend (aka my boyfriend at the time) at the college we went to. we only met for one day and i was with my ex, so obviously i didn't think so then lol we met again three years later at a poker game arranged by said ex-boyfriend, who i have stayed friends with after we broke up. from that poker game on, we started hanging out like every day becoming best best friends. i knew after about 6 months of being best friends that he was the guy that i wanted to marry. 6 months later we moved in together and then started to date (in that order lol but that's a different story!), a year and a half later we got engaged and now we are less than 14 months away from our wedding!

STBMrsDio

I was scared at how quickly I realized my FI was the one. We had met about a month before but I'd known his brother for over 6 years. After our first conversation at Happy hour I was immediately attracted to him (looks wise) and after we'd had one facebook/phone conversation I knew he could be the one. His personality is so much like mine it's scary and the more he talked to me about his dreams and future family and goals, the more I relaized he was everything I had ever been looking for. We were engaged in 8 months...I guess when you know, you know lol

LaMaFa

I'm a yes and no on this also. When I first met FI, it was our first year of college, he was still with his ex from high school, and I didn't really want to be dating anyone at the time. Fast forward to a bit more than a year later, he & I had remained friends, we were chatting after his break up and hung out a few times as friends before we went on our first date (unless you ask him. long story. lol). It was only a couple weeks after we started dating that I realized he could be the one. It freaked me out, because I didn't feel like I was ready to be that serious with someone, but we kinda took it one day at a time, and it was about 11 months after my realization that he actually proposed- by that point I was totally ready and so excited when he popped the question. Next month will be 4 years since we started dating (the wedding is almost exactly a month after. lol), and it feels like we've known each other & been together for so much longer than that, we sometimes slip up and say "Remember that time in high school when.... oh no, you wouldn't!" It's crazy and awesome.

LaMaFa

LaMaFa's groom here. I just want to clear one little thing up from her last post. Our 1st date was actually the 1st time we hung out after me and my ex broke up. I remember the date well it was October 8th 2008, a Wednesday. I asked her to meet up and spend time together, she accepted, we played Mario Kart on Wii, we talked for a few hours, she cooked dinner (Mac and cheese with hotdogs mixed in) and she changed into a dress she wore to homecoming for some reason. After this 1st date we had nicer ones and more traditional ones but no this was our very 1st. That was our 1st date and if she says other wise she is lying.

Why was this our 1st date? Because there was a proposition (asking to see each/spending time together), there was entertainment (the Wii), we talked about our families (personal exchange of information), she made dinner (the mac), she got naked (I did not see her but she did change when I was in the room), and there was touching (a long hug good bye).

In conlusion we never hung out we went straight to dating.

That is all. Thank you for your time. I hope you all have a great day, good luck with planning your weddings, and have a blessed marriage.

Sincerely

Chris

eaelrod

Yes...even though I was young when we met and had just come off the heels of a bad breakup, I knew. We met in late of 2007, but he was still involved with someone, I was moving away to finish school, and he was moving away, too, for work. We kept in touch for about a year until we both moved back home, so we were able to establish a friendship of sorts and a foundation. Once we started dating regularly, it just became clear that we had so much in common and were on the same wavelength - the true finish-each-other's-sentences kind. Just to illustrate...in the early dating stage, we were out one night for dinner and were (for some reason) talking about strange names people give their kids. He mentioned a boy's name he loved and then said he had a second favorite...and honest to goodness, those were my top two favorite names. I asked him if he was joking and if he had seen my phone (because at the time, I had a list of names that I liked saved in my phone - I know, I know, I'm weird)...he said no, but to show him. I pulled up the list - and lo and behold, there were those two names. And they're not super common names, so as corny as it sounds, I just knew. Things like that don't just happen! 

missv19732000

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[QUOTE]LaMaFa's groom here. I just want to clear one little thing up from her last post. Our 1st date was actually the 1st time we hung out after me and my ex broke up. I remember the date well it was October 8th 2008, a Wednesday. I asked her to meet up and spend time together, she accepted, we played Mario Kart on Wii, we talked for a few hours, she cooked dinner (Mac and cheese with hotdogs mixed in) and she changed into a dress she wore to homecoming for some reason. After this 1st date we had nicer ones and more traditional ones but no this was our very 1st. That was our 1st date and if she says other wise she is lying. Why was this our 1st date? Because there was a proposition (asking to see each/spending time together), there was entertainment (the Wii), we talked about our families (personal exchange of information), she made dinner (the mac), she got naked (I did not see her but she did change when I was in the room), and there was touching (a long hug good bye). In conlusion we never hung out we went straight to dating. That is all. Thank you for your time. I hope you all have a great day, good luck with planning your weddings, and have a blessed marriage. Sincerely Chris
Posted by LaMaFa[/QUOTE]

LOL!  Thanks for clearing that up!  Very cute.