Ok, I have finally made peace with this and put it to rest, but just wanted to update any knotties who have humored me to follow the drama this long (!!) MOH 1 and I finally talked and cleared the air. She still didn't get it and was still trying to make my wedding about HER. I told her that this wedding wasn't about her and her convenience, blah blah blah. Then the real kicker came in... Wait for it.... She actually ADMITTED that my wedding wasn't that important to her because it was my second wedding!!!! OMG! Who says that to supposedly their BFF? Who does that???? I would have never dreamed of doing something like that or saying it. As hurt as I already was, I said, as sad as that is to hear that is actually true, I appreciate your being honest rather than making up excuses or lies as to why you can't come. She then kept insisting that she was coming to the wedding and that she would make it happen "somehow." I told her that she was welcome to come to the wedding but that we would be making another choice for the MOH. And then she was fired. I did it in the nicest way possible, and told her that we really need people who could commit to being there to stand up, but at the end of the day I actually hope she doesn't even come to the wedding. Anyone who feels comfortable enough to tell their so called BFF how unimportant they are, repeatedly, and then tell me that I am the one being mean does not deserve my friendship. Thanks for listening! FI is definitely tired of this story so I am done now. Rant over. :-)