My bad experience with The Knot South Florida Board.

Jessi312

I got engaged on July 17th of this year (about 6 weeks ago). Since that time, I have created a knot account (about 5 weeks ago) and posted and made comments to posts on the Knot iphone application (Ask Carley and 911's). As you can see, I am pretty new to the Knot, but that is because I have been engaged for such a small amount of time. I did not even KNOW that there was a place to post local comments/ questions/ advice on this site. When I found out there was, I thought it would be a great idea to post about a contest I am in to win a free honeymoon. SO BACKFIRED! Not only did I get 100% negative responses, but I have never felt such rudeness and hostility in my LIFE! As a fellow bride-to-be, I was very pleased to see a site where you can chit-chat with other girls going through the same wonderful moments. Unfortunately for me, one of the girls in the contest that I am in is a regular on this board. I respect everyones right to choose, but I have not gotten the same respect back from many of the girls on this board. I WILL NOT sink to their level and answer to any of their negative comments. I am a positive person and I wish them all (and you) nothing but happiness and a PERFECT wedding. Jessica

JillianLL

Jessica, everyone on here wishes you nothing but the best and a wonderful wedding. I think you have misread the comments. Its customary for girls to introduce themselves on the board before they start posting multiple times asking for help with something free. It just seemed a little selfish to come on posting 3 times asking for help when no one knows who you are. I'm sure the girls would have voted for both of you had you made your presence known before you started asking for help, which honestly came off as (and I dont mean to be rude, buttttt) a little annoying since you had not posted ANYTHING else but "please vote for me." Good luck with your planning.

rclnd83

just introduce yourself. Create a bio, post a siggy, and post regular. That would be the first thing I would do, and its recommended as the the FIRST thing to do as a knottie.

goldie3474

Respect is earned. Shannon and all the other girls on here earned our respect by offering advice, tips and giving support. It's hard to be respectful of someone who only posts to win a contest. Using people to win something isn't going to win you brownie points here on the HOSTILE knot board or anywhere else in life.

tylerandrem

Jessica, I am sorry you had such a negative first experience, however you will see if you hang around longer, that we are always having "random" (i realize in our own way we all are pretty random on here!!!) girls logging in and asking us to vote and then they disappear.The girls on this board value the relationships we develop over time, to the point that we try to meet up with eachother in the area and develop true friendships.  This is important as we are all planning the most important days of our lives and need to trust the people we are working so closely with to plan this.If you decide to stick around I think you will find this board VERY valuable and the friends you make on it, but I also think you will have a better understanding as to why you got the reaction you did.Best of luck planning and I hope you stick around.Tyler

bisabelm

I just think it's unnecessary to blow up the board asking people to vote for you when we don't even know you. You haven't contributed to anything even after discovering us. Perhaps if you took the time to post something other then the contest, or maybe if your responded to something then people would be more receptive to you. Shannon has been on the board for a long time and of course we want someone who has taken the time to share her thoughts and ideas with us to win the contest. She got engaged before you and thus has had more time on here...oh well. Life isn't fair but I'm sure there are other ways to get people to vote for you. There are other boards on here, not just the South Florida one. You just have to learn to market yourself better. Posting the same thing everyday is no way to make friends. It's about give and take, you have to give a little of yourself (ideas, thoughts, advice, etc) in order to take something.

rrive008

I didn't reply to any of your posts, but coming here without introducing yourself just to ask for something, didn't necessarily come off too well. it's as if you walk up to a random bunch of girls and say, "hey, vote for me", without an intro or any sign of activity before. and then continue to do so repeatedly, expecting to get something out of us. wierd, don't you think?this board is for help, suggestions, or just plain old girl talk about weddings. Not to solely get free stuff out of us.i'm not trying to be rude, but I really don't see how the girls on this board did anything wrong.Good luck in your planning, may your wedding be as you expect it!

Jessi312

Well, as you guys already know, my name is Jessica. Im 27 and my fiance will be 30 (this Sunday=))We've been dating a little over five years and we got engaged at Epcot on our 5 year anniversary. We both went to FIU and I recently graduated. I am trying to get a job as an elementary school teacher, but you know how that is right now. In the mean time, I make due with subbing and working at Publix. NOTHING is planned as of yet for the wedding (which will probably be late Summer next year) because we are prety much on our own as far as paying for it. We were thinking to have a destination wedding because its SUPPOSED to be less expensive, but... less expensive to us is still TOO expensive. Whats a siggy? Sorry! Believe me that I am not one of those people who is just here to post for this, honestly! I need as much help as i can get to plan this wedding! I just found this board and I read through it a little before posting. I thought it was FABULOUS! Talk more soon and thanks!

cinthia122

Welcome to the board!

goldie3474

that's the spirit the girls here ARE truly awesome and you will get a lot from it - ideas, friendships, entertainment ... our moderator courtnet has a link in her bio with all the info you need to set up a bio, siggy etc.

Jessi312

Thanks ladies...

photonbug

You already sunk to "our level" by posting this.What you did is equivalent to spam in my mail box and it was annoying plain and simple. 

[Deleted User]

Welcome Jessica!!!

jennej24

Welcome, siggy=signature. If you want to know how to put a picture or whatever in your signater check out Courtney's Bio (the moderator). http://candj.weebly.com/inforules.htmlWhere are you thinking of having it? I don't know your budget, but if you want to look around the area there are some affordable places, let us know your budget and area (broward, dade, palm beach) if you want some ideas.

photonbug

Much better I hit post late Welcome!  Good luck with planning

YHFoxtrot

While I will agree that some of the responses to you were a tad rude -  you have to understand where they came from.As everyone else here has stated, we have a very friendly and helpful community here and are ALWAYS welcoming "newbies" to the board... but when your way of introducing yourself is to beg for votes... it doesn't look very good...Naturally we are going to vote for someone we already know  - a friend - someone some of us have met in real life and someone who has contributed to our board for months... While I can appreciate your "Pitch" - "read the stories and then decide" - which is basically saying, vote for who you think deserves it and not just for your friends... I think your approach to it could use some work.To double post in one day... asking people to vote for you comes off as rude..... we all saw the first request, and then to make a second one like 5 posts above it just makes it annoying and makes it hard to want to vote for you!Ya gotta be a lil more smooth. Ease into it. Don't come out triple posting begging for votes from strangers. And you don't have to be a TOTAL REGULAR to earn respect here BUT at least make SOME contribution to our board before asking for something in return... ESPECIALLY when you are competing against someone we all know and love.If you WERE to hang around here more, you'd likely find we are generally a very nice group of girls always looking to help one another and you probably WOULD be able to solicit votes from all of us... as well as maybe get some helpful wedding advice.Should you chose not to post here anymore, that's up to you, but perhaps you should try and take a step back and think about it and I am SURE you will  realize why the girls reacted the way they did.

YHFoxtrot

So I guess while I was composing my novel... you were coming out and giving us your proper introduction.Glad you have decided to join the community. I promise you will like it here if you stick around. And if you are a budget bride, the info you will gather here is priceless! Welcome...

SaraandBenjamin

Welcome, welcome! I am sorry that your first experience was negative, but I can assure you that the group of girls here are wonderful. They are loyal to their regulars, but are always welcoming to new comers who make an effort. I hope you post more often!

aitirone

i think everybody said it perfectly... thats all we wanted. an introduction. not just...hi my names amy vote for me. you will find like everybody also said, we are a great group of girls! As you will read by the posts also, you will find alot of awesome information on here and it will make wedding planning that much easier! welcome and good luck!

JillianLL

That was a great intro. Welcome Jessica! The girls on here have been so helpful and I have made some amazing friends. You'll have a lot of luck finding budget friendly vendors through suggestions here and you'll have a wedding of your dreams. FYI My brother got married aboard a cruise ship in February and he and his wife paid for everything. They did not have a big budget AT ALL and they had a beautiful wedding. Maybe check that option out

eagles.fan1234

Hi and welcome! you will find that the girls on this board are very nice and super supportive.  good luck planning!

Jessi312

Ok, so I set up my bio and I uploaded a pic. I guess when I post this I will see if its set as my "siggy". If not, how do Iset it? Ladies, again thanks for showing me love and again sorry for the bad first impression. P.S. Has anyone thought of a dummy cake for their wedding? Is it worth it?

photonbug

Jessica you might not want to put your full name in your siggy.  Not really safe.

1CharluvsDee1

Welcome!

Jessi312

Thanks for the name advise... very true!

Jessi312

OMG... how do i make the pic smaller... way smaller!

latinachica29

Welcome Jessica!I love Disney, where in Epcot and how did he propose? I love reading proposals.Happy planning!

Jessi312

We had been there all day and it was the end of the night. The fireworks were flying off in the sky and we were talking some about our future. I started looking at the end of the fireworks and when I turned around he was down on one knee. He "says" people were all around us but I was sooo in the moment that i dont remember anyone else. It was packed though so I know its true! It was amazing! How did you girls get engaged?

Anagloria83

Congratulations and welcome to the board, Jessica  :-)

TheJennius

Frankly I was about to spaz on you and then I read what happened after your original post.Welcome and happy planning, I'm glad you redeemed yourself in a way or another, lol. You'll find it it's awesome in here

mikki75

Jessica,you need to resize your picture and re-upload it.I am also a budget bride, everybody is very nice here, so many good advices! : )