Okay, now where do I begin? Last night I had a long conversation with one of my BFF's/bridesmaid and it slowly turned into an awkward situation.I told her that I had to switch the date of our wedding because it would save us almost 3,000.00. She kind of went of the deep end wondering why and that most people do it on a weekend. (Keep in mind folks, I only moved it a day up...not a month, not a year... A DAY!) So anyway, I explained to her again that it is best for us financially because we are footing the bills ourselves, so we have to do what's best for us! She then goes on to say that she has to figure out how she is going to get her boyfriend(1 of our groomsmen) up here the week of with her, because she plans on being with me the week of. I still really didn't understand what the issue was or is seeing as though I am telling you both a YEAR in advance???
Then we move on to the jewelry for the bridal party. She showed me some lovely jewelry sets that I actually fell in love with, so I'm like yes, those would be beautiful. My husband and I will order them. She then asks for what? Ummmmmm, because those are going to be a part of the bridal party thank you gifts! She then goes on to say, well I never heard of any bride having to do that. I then say that it is customary for the bride and groom to present the bridal party with thank you gifts at the rehearsal dinner. Those will be our Thank You's!!!! She then says, well I never heard of that, but okay.
Moving on and by this time I'm getting a bit agitated... she then brings up the conversation of shoes. I tell her that each of my ladies will pick their own shoes, but they will be the same color. WHY DID I SAY THAT???? She asked me REPEATEDLY, why would you let them do that, it's gonna look different! I think that was the plan in the first place, lol. I said why are you so upset about people's shoes being different? She then says that it's just going to throw everything off and it's going to be too different. I told her that the women in my bridal party are grown women that know how to pick out a pair of shoes! I am not holding anyone's hand in picking out a shoe. I want everyone to be comfortable and stylish. EVERYONE KNOWS THIS!!!! She insist that someone is going to show up in flip flops. For one, my friends would NEVER do that and secondly I am going to be with you all ALL DAY, I am going to see each lady and guy before and after everyone is dressed. That's not going to be a problem!
After trying to hold on to what bit of religion I had left in me, she then brings up hair! YOU READY PEOPLE??? I tell her that each lady will be responsible for their own hairstyles (provided that I get to see a pic of the styles first, which no one else had a problem with). She then yells into the phone, ERYNNNNNNNNNNNN, Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy???? Some people might show up looking crazy and and different??? In my head, I am trying to not explode, but again I tell her that it will not be an issue and that the ladies that are in my bp don't have that issue AT ALL!!!! They know what I expect and that's the bottom line! I said every style is NOT for everyone, so I want you to look your own personal best!!!! She then senses my anguish and says, I understand that, okay.
On to the lastand final piece of this "conversation". I've always stated from the beginning of this planning that I wanted this wedding to be packed with twists and turns, entertaining, and just fun all around. I begin telling her about the contortionist, the strolling tables and fire eaters and she then says t me, OH NO NO NO NO... EXCUSE ME????????? WTH... I've met my tolerance point about two points ago.
What do you mean oh no? She then explains that she invisioned my day to be perfect and just clean cut and absolute. I tell her that it isn't the vision me and my husband are going for. We want the exact opposite!!!! I could hear her heart breaking over the phone! My husband and I are high school sweethearts and have been through a lot together. We are a fun couple, that like to go where the wind takes us, so we would like our big day to reflect that! Shesaid she understood, but I still feel as though she really doesn't get it! WHAT TO DO??? She's a good person, but when she has her mind set on something, it's like that's all she sees! P.S. She's and aspiring wedding planner, but she isn't the planner for our wedding. My mother is a professional planner and will be handling all of that! I don't mind opinions, but when you tell me yes or no on my decisions, that's where the problems come in! SORRY LADIES, BUT I'VE BEEN HOLDING THIS IN ALL NIGHT AND HAD TO TELL SOMEONE!!!