I got engaged a few weeks ago to a wonderful man I've been with for a few years. I'm elated that we'll be together forever:)
The only small wrinkle here is....I am not nuts about my engagement ring:(
I am extremely particular about jewelry- I like simple, contemporary designs. Before we got engaged, when we discussed marriage, I always made sure to tell my fiance that I wanted to be part of the ring selection process and he agreed. Unbeknownst to me, three years ago his grandmother offered him her ring to give to me, and he's planned to use that all along.
The ring is lovely- it's a three stone ring set in platinum- not ugly at all, but it's very outdated and the stones are very small. I think today they would sell it as a promise ring. I was so excited and shocked by the proposal that I told him it was beautiful and he told his family that, but as days went on I realized I had to be honest- I feel funny wearing it because it's so outdated and very different from what I had wanted- a simple solitaire stone on a plain band.
I discussed the possiblity of changing or getting a new ring with him and he was very hurt. He was sure I'd love the ring and I think he feels guilty. I truly am honored that his family chose me to have it, and I'd hate to hurt them, but also can't imagine wearing a ring every single day that I don't love and doesn't feel "me". He told me that I don't have to wear it after we get married, but I don't really feel it's fair to just not have a ring after I'm married.
He's now realized that I don't love the ring and wants to make me happy by figuring out if we can change it or get another one, but I still feel terrible as I decide what I want to do about it. I don't really want to change it because it will still be a three-stone ring, which is the one kind of ring I didn't want at all- I've actually mentioned to him before that I did not like three stone rings at all.
I am a very easygoing person about 99% of things, and I think I got this ring because they thought I was very simple and wouldn't mind not having something new. I hate to think that getting something new would change their opinion of me:(
Has anyone else been in this position, or know someone who has? I'm really beating myself up about this one and would love some advice.