Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question)

FutureWifey4Him

I see that a lot of people have white gold or 'silver'/platinum rings. I think they look beautiful. However, my FI is traditional and he wishes to pick out my ring without my help, which I'm totally fine with. However, we've  had several conversations in the past where he has stated he will get us yellow gold rings.

That is not a problem, except a lot of yellow gold rings I see are unattractive. Some ugly, in my opinion. I have showed my FI pictures of rings that I like (pretty, sparky, and 'silver') but they were rings that he 'didn't like'.

Being a man/husband, I understand it's important for him to pick out the ring (like it was back in the old days).

Does anyone have any beautiful yellow gold rings? Why is it always such a limited selection in stores?

Any feedback will be helpful. Thank you.

Poppy101212

My ring is yellow gold and it is excatly what I wanted. Personally I am not a fan oh white gold in the least, chemically speaking white gold is nothing more that treated or coated yellow gold, which will eventually turn yellow anyhow, gold wants to be yellow, its natural.

Stores carry waaaaay more white gold than yellow gold because it is what is popular, most white gold rings can be ordered in in yellow is that is what you are looking for.

However, it doesn't matter at all what any of us think. This is about  YOU and what YOU (and  your FI want).

FutureWifey4Him

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[QUOTE]My ring is yellow gold and it is excatly what I wanted. Personally I am not a fan oh white gold in the least, chemically speaking white gold is nothing more that treated or coated yellow gold, which will eventually turn yellow anyhow, gold wants to be yellow, its natural. Stores carry waaaaay more white gold than yellow gold because it is what is popular, most white gold rings can be ordered in in yellow is that is what you are looking for. However, it doesn't matter at all what any of us think. This is about  YOU and what YOU (and  your FI want).
Posted by Poppy101212[/QUOTE]

Well, that's a good idea...having the store order the ring in yellow gold. I wonder if that option is available for most rings? We are on a very, tight budget. And honestly, my ring may be just a few hundred dollars.

I would LOVE a white gold ring. But, to be traditional, I will not have any say in my ring. My FI is picking it out solo <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

FutureWifey4Him

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[QUOTE]I would think your fiance would want you to have a ring you love, since you're the one who will be wearing it.  Why does he think that his is the only opinion that counts? Fashion tends to go in cycles, even in bridal jewelry.  White metals (platinum, white gold, and more recently, palladium) have been the most popular for quite some time now; however, yellow gold is making a comeback.  If you look around at the costume jewelry that is in the stores now, there's a lot more yellow metal these days than there used to be. Take a look at the rings thread on this board.  You'll see so many different styles, sizes and colors.  You have lots of options. When we looked at rings, my husband initially was not in favor of white metals.  This is his second marriage, and when he got married the first time, yellow gold was the norm.  He just assumed that our rings would be yellow gold, too, until I told him that I much preferred white metals (I like the look of it, plus my skin tone doesn't work well with yellow gold).  He also thought our wedding bands had to match, because that's how it used to be done.  His wedding band is cobalt (a white metal) with a stripe of a slightly darker "white" metal around the center (can't recall now what the other metal is).  My rings both are white gold with micropave diamonds on the bands and a round diamond in a halo setting.  If my husband had decided he liked yellow gold better, that's what we would have gotten -- for him, anyway.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

Lol!! I love how you ended it saying --for him anyway!

I really appreciate all of your feedback. I've never been engaged before (earlier 20's) and not so sure about the norm. My fiance is really..traditional. I want a ring that I love, but at the same time, I know he wants to pick it out. So, I don't want to step on his toes. He just doesn't believe in the modern way of the bride-to-be picking out her own ring.

I think I will give it one more shot and just tell him again that I do like some while golds & that would be nice too.

I am just soo nervous, to be honest, because some of the accessories he's purchased for me before wasn't exactly my style. But, it was for inexpensive, random gifts, so it didn't matter to much.

I LOVE this member's engagment ring...it's my ideal ring.
<a href="http://www.theknot.com/profiles/FutureMrsSheeler/mymedia?filter=ShowOnTK~True">http://www.theknot.com/profiles/FutureMrsSheeler/mymedia?filter=ShowOnTK~True</a>

I showed it to my fiance months ago before we were even engaged and he said that he thought it was too flashy & didn't represent wht he believes to be an actual wedding ring. He says the ring he gets me will be 'humble'. What do you think that means? Solitare?

jesslynn1012

My FI and I really like 2-tone rings.  I like yellow gold better but white gold isn't bad either.  Is 2-tone an option for you (both yellow and white gold)?

calliopeia2013

Ok, I have been really debating whether I want to respond to this post or not, but the OP's attitudes are worrying me enough that I feel like I have to say something.  So, OP, you can take this or leave it, because I don't know the details of your relationship, but, like I said, I feel like it at least has to be out there.

Your fiance may be traditional, but he is also controlling.  Those are not inherantly the same thing- a man can be very traditional and still respect and entertain his wife's opinions.  It makes me absolutely terrified for you that you think they are the same thing.  Your opinions have value.  A man who completely disregards your opinions, without even discussing them, and does what he wants regarding things that concern you, is controlling.  And the kind of controlling you're describing is one of the absolute biggest warning signs for future abuse that there is.

Look, I don't know if this kind of behavior extends to other things in your relationship than the wedding ring thing.  All I know is what you posted here.  And what you posted here shows that you have opinions that are important to you, and that your FI has completely dismissed them and declared his intention to do something completely different, without even meaningfully considering your opinion.  That, on its own, would be more than enough to have me running the other way, or at least to a premarital counselor.

My caveat- if you are a member of a religious group that DOES demand not only "tradition," but that a woman be submissive to her husband, and that is something you believe and have freely chosen, then more power to you, I guess.  But I see nothing whatesoever in here about YOU being "traditional," just about your FI being "traditional," which leads me to believe that this is something he's chosen for you, not that you've chosen for yourself.

dewingedpixie

I'm with Calliopea on this. I dont like the way he completely disregards your opinion completely.

peachykeen26

My e-ring is white gold, I wanted yellow, but FI wanted white. We went together to try on rings and pick one out, in the end I chose and fell in love with the white band. I do, however, have a yellow gold wedding band that I will wear with my white gold e-ring. A lot of people are questionable about that, but I love it. It was given to me by some very special people in my life.

Now, I am also concerned about his ignoring your likes and dislikes. I hate hate hate that you said you didn't want to step on his toes. Is he abusive toward you? I know that that's a big question, but if he is you need to get out or get help.
After reading your posts I wonder if you even want to be engaged or married. And, that's concerning too.

Think about you, not him.

DiLynn83

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[QUOTE]Ok, I have been really debating whether I want to respond to this post or not, but the OP's attitudes are worrying me enough that I feel like I have to say something.  So, OP, you can take this or leave it, because I don't know the details of your relationship, but, like I said, I feel like it at least has to be out there. <strong>Your fiance may be traditional, but he is also controlling.</strong>  Those are not inherantly the same thing- a man can be very traditional and still respect and entertain his wife's opinions.  It makes me absolutely terrified for you that you think they are the same thing.  <strong>Your opinions have value.  A man who completely disregards your opinions, without even discussing them, and does what he wants regarding things that concern you, is controlling .</strong>  And the kind of controlling you're describing is one of the absolute biggest warning signs for future abuse that there is. Look, I don't know if this kind of behavior extends to other things in your relationship than the wedding ring thing.  All I know is what you posted here.  <strong>And what you posted here shows that you have opinions that are important to you, and that your FI has completely dismissed them and declared his intention to do something completely different, without even meaningfully considering your opinion.</strong>  That, on its own, would be more than enough to have me running the other way, or at least to a premarital counselor. My caveat- if you are a member of a religious group that DOES demand not only "tradition," but that a woman be submissive to her husband, and that is something you believe and have freely chosen, then more power to you, I guess.  But I see nothing whatesoever in here about YOU being "traditional," just about your FI being "traditional," which leads me to believe that this is something he's chosen for you, not that you've chosen for yourself.
Posted by calliopeia2013[/QUOTE]

<div>This.  All of this, especially the bolded parts.</div><div>Well said.</div>

saacjw

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : Lol!! I love how you ended it saying --for him anyway! I really appreciate all of your feedback. I've never been engaged before (earlier 20's) and not so sure about the norm. My fiance is really..traditional. I want a ring that I love, but at the same time, I know he wants to pick it out. So, I don't want to step on his toes. <strong>He just doesn't believe in the modern way of the bride-to-be picking out her own ring.</strong> I think I will give it one more shot and just tell him again that I do like some while golds & that would be nice too. I am just soo nervous, to be honest, because some of the accessories he's purchased for me before wasn't exactly my style. But, it was for inexpensive, random gifts, so it didn't matter to much. I LOVE this member's engagment ring...it's my ideal ring. <a href="http://www.theknot.com/profiles/FutureMrsSheeler/mymedia?filter=ShowOnTK~True">http://www.theknot.com/profiles/FutureMrsSheeler/mymedia?filter=ShowOnTK~True</a> I showed it to my fiance months ago before we were even engaged and he said that he thought it was too flashy & didn't represent wht he believes to be an actual wedding ring. <strong>He says the ring he gets me will be 'humble'. What do you think that means? Solitare?</strong>
Posted by FutureWifey4Him[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>So, I have to say, I agree with some of the PPs concern here. I would say my fiance is also fairly "traditional" in that he felt that it was his duty to pick out my ring by himself and that he even prefered the yellow gold style to white gold because that's what he thought "all wedding rings were supposed to be" because that's what the women in his family have always had. </div><div>
</div><div>That being said- my opinion did matter, even though he did pick out the ring by himself. He didn't ask me what I wanted exactly, but he probed a bit and cross referenced rings with things that he knew that I already wore so that what he picked out was very fitting for me. I think that if your FI can't narrow down something you'd like (with or without some help) based off of your style and personality, then there's something off.  </div><div>
</div><div>The second bolded part- I'm also really not sure what a "humble ring" means either. Maybe a solitaire, but a lot of solitaires I've seen are pretty "flashy" as well. Honestly something about the wording of "humble" unnerves me, but I can't lay my finger on what... 

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redheadfsu

OP you are talking about the wedding ring, right? (As your other thread below says you don't have the money for the engagement ring & will likely get an E ring after the wedding).

I'm assuming "humble" means he can't afford much. So for the wedding band a plain gold ring is probably what he is thinking (that is as traditional & humble as you can get).

RamonaFlowers

If you don't like yellow gold, your ring shouldn't be yellow gold. DH wanted my e-ring to be a "surprise", so he did pick it out himself ... however, he also wanted me to love my ring, so he asked  for my preferences (White gold vs. yellow gold, multiple stones vs. solitare, gemstone vs. diamond, etc). Based on what I told him, he picked a ring that I loved, that he could afford and that was a complete surprise. It's more than possible for your FI to do the same for you if he makes just a little effort.

If your FI prefers yellow gold, there's nothing wrong with him having a yellow gold ring and yours being "silver" colored. But he shouldn't pick out a ring for you based on what he likes and act like your opinion doesn't matter. That's pretty disrespectful of him and I find disturbing that you're trying to resign yourself to a ring that he's not willing to consider your feelings on.

rlavach

Like PP said, I'd be more concerned about the fact that your FI doesn't care about your opinion. I am of a religious faith where wives are submissive and in subjection to their husbands. That does NOT mean that their opinions have no value and shouldn't be considered highly. 

We went ring shopping together to two stores. I tried on a few in styles that I liked, namely white gold solitaires. My DH then went to another store by himself to buy the ring. He bought something that had similar qualities, reflected his style, my style & was in his budget. It is really perfect. So, while I didn't go to the store and say 'buy me this one, style #XXX,' I definitely had a large part in the decision. My mother (of the same faith) picked out her exact ring. She didn't trust my dad would know what to do...haha.

RamonaFlowers

I know money is an issue here, but there really are nice rings that can fit you budget.

Here's are links to the bridal "sets" (So e-ring and wedding band) and the engagement rings on Overstock that all cost less than $500

http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/Bridal-Sets/(,500),/price,/14656/subcat.html?TID=VS:BridalSets:A1

http://www.overstock.com/Jewelry-Watches/Engagement-Rings/(,500),/price,/14657/subcat.html?sort=Top+Sellers

If you play around with the search options on Overstock, you can also find rings that are sterling silver, or have stones that aren't diamonds, which could work out to be much cheaper. I just would like you to know that there are options out there that are your style AND budget friendly.

[Deleted User]

You can always have your gold ring rhodium dipped later on.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I see that a lot of people have white gold or 'silver'/platinum rings. I think they look beautiful. However, my FI is traditional and he wishes to pick out my ring without my help, which I'm totally fine with. However, we've  had several conversations in the past where he has stated he will get us yellow gold rings. That is not a problem, except a lot of yellow gold rings I see are unattractive. Some ugly, in my opinion. I have showed my FI pictures of rings that I like (pretty, sparky, and 'silver') but they were rings that he 'didn't like'. Being a man/husband, I understand it's important for him to pick out the ring (like it was back in the old days). Does anyone have any beautiful yellow gold rings? Why is it always such a limited selection in stores? Any feedback will be helpful. Thank you.
Posted by FutureWifey4Him[/QUOTE]

I have a yellow gold band with a round 1.3 carat diamond, . pear shape 3 carat size diamonds on either side, then channel set round diamonds around the rest of the band.
Then on either side of that ring I wear channel set diamond bands, also yellow gold.

HTH!

FutureWifey4Him

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[QUOTE]Ok, I have been really debating whether I want to respond to this post or not, but the OP's attitudes are worrying me enough that I feel like I have to say something.  So, OP, you can take this or leave it, because I don't know the details of your relationship, but, like I said, I feel like it at least has to be out there. Your fiance may be traditional, but he is also controlling.  Those are not inherantly the same thing- a man can be very traditional and still respect and entertain his wife's opinions.  It makes me absolutely terrified for you that you think they are the same thing.  Your opinions have value.  A man who completely disregards your opinions, without even discussing them, and does what he wants regarding things that concern you, is controlling .  And the kind of controlling you're describing is one of the absolute biggest warning signs for future abuse that there is. Look, I don't know if this kind of behavior extends to other things in your relationship than the wedding ring thing.  All I know is what you posted here.  And what you posted here shows that you have opinions that are important to you, and that your FI has completely dismissed them and declared his intention to do something completely different, without even meaningfully considering your opinion.  That, on its own, would be more than enough to have me running the other way, or at least to a premarital counselor. My caveat- if you are a member of a religious group that DOES demand not only "tradition," but that a woman be submissive to her husband, and that is something you believe and have freely chosen, then more power to you, I guess.  But I see nothing whatesoever in here about YOU being "traditional," just about your FI being "traditional," which leads me to believe that this is something he's chosen for you, not that you've chosen for yourself.
Posted by calliopeia2013[/QUOTE]

No, he's def. NOT controlling! He's sweet to me, to be honest. We've been together for a while, so in the past, he's actually asked me to show him some of the rings I like and he was interested in seeing. They were all white gold, btw.

But as we are now actually engaged, he has in his head what's the 'perfect' ring to get me and I don't know what it'll actually look like. I've showed him pictures. But lately when I showed him a ring I was in LOVE with, he said that it looked like a fashion ring and was much too flashy for him to consider it a wedding ring he would like to get me.

But to be honest, I want a flashy ring. I want a bright, big, sparkly ring! I don't know how to actually get that across any other way since I've shown him numerous pictures.

RamonaFlowers

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : I can definitely see how this would help.  Since OP's fiance is planning to get her a 'humble' ring and all.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]


Pssh, Lucy,<strong> everybody</strong> knows that anything less than 2 ct. doesn't even count as an engagement ring.

dewingedpixie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : Pssh, Lucy, everybody knows that anything less than 2 ct. doesn't even count as an engagement ring.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

This sounds like my fiance actually LOL. We actually had a disagreement over stone size. He wanted bigger is better I was ok to a point I'm a petite girl, anything over about 2 carats was just going to make me fall over. Compromise came with a stone just under 2 carats.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : I can definitely see how this would help.  Since OP's fiance is planning to get her a 'humble' ring and all.
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

oooh snarky there aren't you???  lol

I was trying to describe it in as best detail as possible since there is not pic.  Sorry you missed the point.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : Pssh, Lucy, everybody knows that anything less than 2 ct. doesn't even count as an engagement ring.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

meoooow man !
i guess you misunderstood OP....she was asking for descriptions of gold rings

rlavach

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : meoooow man ! i guess you misunderstood OP....she was asking for descriptions of gold rings
Posted by IamTheMommaOfTheBride[/QUOTE]
Right, but later on she added the detail that her FI wants to get her a 'humble' ring and thought that all of the pictures she showed him were too 'flashy.' We know how to read too.

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Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

from the OP:
"Any feedback will be helpful. Thank you"

that's what i followed

RamonaFlowers

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : meoooow man ! <strong>i guess you misunderstood OP</strong>....she was asking for descriptions of gold rings
Posted by IamTheMommaOfTheBride[/QUOTE]


I misunderstood nothing. OP <strong>said</strong> she didn't really care for yellow gold, but her FI seems to be under the impression that since he's buying the ring, her preference doesn't actually matter . She then went on to say that she wants a big sparkly ring, but her FI will probably get her something more "humble" that's both to <strong>his</strong> taste (Which I don't agree with) and within his budget (Which I can understand).

In my PP I provided the OP with links to the <$500 bridal sets/engagement rings on Overstock as well as advised her that if she tweaked the search settings a bit she could find rings that cost way less and were to <strong>her</strong> taste.

So yeah. I'm pretty sure me giving her advice on a reasonable compromise (Finding a ring that <strong>she</strong> likes that fits his "humble" budget) was way more helpful than your description of a yellow gold ring that isn't even remotely within the budget her FI is most likely looking at.

But thanks for playing.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : I misunderstood nothing. OP said she didn't really care for yellow gold, but her FI seems to be under the impression that since he's buying the ring, her preference doesn't actually matter . She then went on to say that she wants a big sparkly ring, but her FI will probably get her something more "humble" that's both to his taste (Which I don't agree with) and within his budget (Which I can understand). In my PP I provided the OP with links to the <$500 bridal sets/engagement rings on Overstock as well as advised her that if she tweaked the search settings a bit she could find rings that cost way less and were to her taste. So yeah. I'm pretty sure me giving her advice on a reasonable compromise (Finding a ring that  she likes that fits his "humble" budget) was way more helpful than your description of a yellow gold ring that isn't even remotely within the budget her FI is most likely looking at. But thanks for playing.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

Your snarkiness and judgemental attitude does not contribute to the post.  ALL opinions, not just yours s/b welcomed.
You're welcome, I'll continue "playing" and i suggest to YOU that you "play" a little nicer.

Respond away, I posted a note to the OP, I am finished with your rantings

rlavach

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : I misunderstood nothing. OP said she didn't really care for yellow gold, but her FI seems to be under the impression that since he's buying the ring, her preference doesn't actually matter . She then went on to say that she wants a big sparkly ring, but her FI will probably get her something more "humble" that's both to his taste (Which I don't agree with) and within his budget (Which I can understand). In my PP I provided the OP with links to the <$500 bridal sets/engagement rings on Overstock as well as advised her that if she tweaked the search settings a bit she could find rings that cost way less and were to her taste. So yeah. I'm pretty sure me giving her advice on a reasonable compromise (Finding a ring that  she likes that fits his "humble" budget) was way more helpful than your description of a yellow gold ring that isn't even remotely within the budget her FI is most likely looking at. But thanks for playing.
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]
*LIKE*

peachykeen26

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Yellow Gold Rings? (Sorry for another post, but 1 more question) : Jeez.  I haven't seen any rantings.  Did something get deleted?
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>No, no. I ate them. Sorry Lucy!</div>

AETS26

So... getting past these last few points to add my 2 cents. Originally I really wanted my fiance and my rings to match (both yellow gold), but now I don't care as much. It's way more important that we both love our rings -- we will, after all, be wearing them every day for the rest of our lives. None of my friends who have gotten married in the past few years have rings that match, and many are completely different styles. 

My fiance really wanted to pick out and surprise me with my ring, but I knew *exactly* what I wanted so I wanted to pick it out myself. We went and picked it out together. So it wasn't a big surprise, but I LOVE my ring, love that my fiance was willing to let me play a part in picking it out, and wouldn't have done it any differently.

GoodLuckBear14

OP:

Reasonable: Staying within his budget.

Unreasonable: Him deciding what ring you are going to live with for the rest of your life because he is "a man."

FTR - DH gave a jeweler his budget and them told him to work with me on designing my ring.  His theory was that while he was paying for it, I was going to wear it for the rest of my life so he wanted to be sure that I loved it.

FutureWifey4Him

Just to make it perfectly clear, I understand that we're on a budget. So, when I posted a picture of a ring I adored and said I was a 'Big, Sparkly, ring' I was simply saying that I want a style similar to what I posted, but of course within our budget. The budget isn't an issue to me.

The issue is: I prefer white gold.

When my FI and I became engaged, he informed me that he didn't have a ring (due to budget) so we, at the time, decided that I didn't need an engagment ring and that we would just get wedding bands. After that point, my FI wanted to design my wedding band himself, which is no problem.
Then we talked and I told him I DID want an engagement ring. So, now, he will be getting me one. But because he originally wanted to design my wedding band, which he told me will be yellow gold, when he goes to design my e-ring, it will also match. Which of course is gonna be yellow gold! Everything I showed him is white gold, NOT yellow. So, I never gave him any impression that I wanted yellow.

And I don't like it. He was really hurt when I told him I was disappointed because I wanted to help pick out/give input about my ring. He said he was really excited to design it himself. He says he know I'll love it.

I'm fine with that. I would LOVE for him to design the ring. I just don't want it to be yellow gold! Who knows, maybe I will LOVE the way it looks. But, in general, yellow gold doesn't look good to me at all. It looks cheap, to be honest. And that's just my opinion/preference....not to offend any of you ladies on here!

saacjw

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[QUOTE]Just to make it perfectly clear, I understand that we're on a budget. So, when I posted a picture of a ring I adored and said I was a 'Big, Sparkly, ring' I was simply saying that I want a style similar to what I posted, but of course within our budget. The budget isn't an issue to me. The issue is: I prefer white gold. When my FI and I became engaged, he informed me that he didn't have a ring (due to budget) so we, at the time, decided that I didn't need an engagment ring and that we would just get wedding bands. After that point, my FI wanted to design my wedding band himself, which is no problem. Then we talked and I told him I DID want an engagement ring. So, now, he will be getting me one. But because he originally wanted to design my wedding band, which he told me will be yellow gold, when he goes to design my e-ring, it will also match. Which of course is gonna be yellow gold! Everything I showed him is white gold, NOT yellow. So, I never gave him any impression that I wanted yellow. And I don't like it. He was really hurt when I told him I was disappointed because I wanted to help pick out/give input about my ring. He said he was really excited to design it himself. He says he know I'll love it. I'm fine with that. I would LOVE for him to design the ring. <strong>I just don't want it to be yellow gold!</strong> Who knows, maybe I will LOVE the way it looks. <strong>But, in general, yellow gold doesn't look good to me at all. It looks cheap, to be honest. And that's just my opinion/preference....not to offend</strong> any of you ladies on here!
Posted by FutureWifey4Him[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>No offense taken because I agree. I can wear yellow gold (but don't) but someone like my best friend can't and when I wear it it looks fine because it works with my skin tone but when she does it looks weird because it stands out so much. </div><div>
</div><div>I think it's important to just keep telling him that. It is YOUR hand that it will be on and there's also no need to the bands to match. Maybe even emphazize that part about the yellow gold not looking good on you, it just looks better on some skin tones than others. If he still really thinks it needs to be gold, maybe find some sort of mixed metal for himself? My stepfather has a band that is siver and gold toned because my mom has yellow gold rings and he thought they should match but didn't like yellow gold. 

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