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Unhappy Family Members

My Fiance and I have been engaged 1 year as of last month. We are planning our wedding for August 12 2011. Ive told my parents and they refuse to talk to me about the engagement or wedding. They say they believe I will regret the decision in years to come even if I am happy today. Our wedding is less than a year away and I try to talk to my mom about it but she avoids the topic or plain ignores it. I'm not sure what I can do, or what I should do. I'm 22 and we've been dating for over 2 years, and by the time we get married it will be over 3. I'm so happy and have been. We've known we wanted to get married almost our whole relationship. We're best friends. I don't see how I will become unhappy. I've tried talking to them, my Fi has tried.. Any advice would be appreciated or anyone with a similar situation to help me deal with this would be great. I just don't know what we are supposed to do.

Re: Unhappy Family Members

  • Are you in school?

     Are you still financial dependent on your parents? 

    Do you both live on your own and have jobs?

    Who is paying for the wedding?

    Were your parents against your relationship before you two were engaged?
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  • I will be graduated before we are married. We live on our own and have our own jobs. We are wiling to pay for the wedding ourselves and as far as i know they weren't against it before we wer engaged but who knows. We're in the process of buying a house currently. I am not financially dependant on my parents.
  • I don't understand why your parents are against it? Have you discussed it with them, like actually sat down with them and asked them their reasons? If they don't have a reason then you are just going to have to move on with your plans without them.


  • I have tried to sit down with them. I told them whenever they want to talk about it, just let us know and we will be there. They said they only would talk to me and I said "Ok, whenever you're ready, i'll come over". And that was 1.5 months ago..
  • I think maybe it's time for you to take full initative and go over there and talk to them.  Try to get to the root of the problem.  And express to them how happy you are, how you're ready to take on this responsibility and how happy FI makes you.  Tell them you would love for them to be involved and even more so, for them to be happy FOR you. 

    Hopefully as it gets closer they will have a change of heart, GL!
  • Why don't they want you to get married? Are they against your relationship in general? What is the real issue here?

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