Got engaged at prom!

Sugarplum97

Hi I have been looking on here for a month now and finally sat down to make an account. I got engaged last month on May fourth my brothers in law said I was cool because I got engaged on star wars day. Haha, I got engaged at prom it was so sweet! My FH is the best I wouldn't trade him for the world!

Annas2013

Okay.  That wasn't necessary.  There's no need to be rude just because someone got engaged in high school.  OP, just letting you know, that makes you sound really young and not everyone on these boards is supportive of young marriages.  

GoodLuckBear14

Please tell me that you are having a long engagement.

Annas2013

According to her profile, she kind of is.  Actually, that depends on whether you consider a year and a half a long engagement.  I could see a 2 or 3 year engagement for that age, to be honest.  Nothing against getting engaged young, trust me, but a long engagement helps you figure out if it's really what you want.  And if you two can really make it through college and everything else that's gonna come up.

FreeSpirit666

Lots of young marriages make it as well, don't worry

GoodLuckBear14

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[QUOTE]Lots of young marriages make it as well, don't worry =)
Posted by FreeSpirit666[/QUOTE]

And the majority don't.  That is why people on here caution against getting married at a young age.  It's one of the biggest indicators of divorce. 

Helsy85

You must be very excited so im going to say something that no one else on here has said to you yet CONGRATULATIONS!!

RamonaFlowers

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[QUOTE]Hi I have been looking on here for a month now and finally sat down to make an account. I got engaged last month on May fourth my brothers in law said I was cool because I got engaged on star wars day. Haha, I got engaged at prom it was so sweet! My FH is the best I wouldn't trade him for the world!
Posted by Sugarplum97[/QUOTE]

If you're really careful with your weight, you can save money by just wearing your prom dress for your wedding gown. Just an FYI.

So how did he propose? You can't just lead in with "I got engaged at prom" and not give any details!

nextrightthing

Gotta say, there is something distinctly immature about making fun of a high school kid. OP, congrats on your engagement!

peachykeen26

I got engaged young and have had a decent engagement length. It's worth waiting instead of rushing around.
It helps you really mature and become your own individual.
So, congrats and don't rush! Enjoy it.

skurtz04

Congrats! I was also engaged young and had a 3 year engagement. Yes, the odds are against you but it does happen!

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]You must be very excited so im going to say something that no one else on here has said to you yet CONGRATULATIONS!!
Posted by Helsy85[/QUOTE]

Thank you so much!!! :)

RamonaFlowers

But how did he propose? I really want to know! Shouldn't you be all excited to dish the details?

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]In Response to Got engaged at prom! : If you're really careful with your weight, you can save money by just wearing your prom dress for your wedding gown. Just an FYI. So how did he propose? You can't just lead in with "I got engaged at prom" and not give any details!
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

My school is a private Christian school and we try to change the whole prom experience to something that you will remember for the rest of your life, so we all went to this really expensive restaurant. My school rented out one of the big Party rooms.
Anyway, he asked me to step out of the room for a few minute, he held my hand and said he had to ask me something and I said I think I know what it is and I think you already know the answer. Then he got down on a knee and asked me. We hugged and kissed then walked back in to the room holding hands and simling. The DJ played a song for us and we danced. It was so romantic!

RamonaFlowers

Also want to know: was this Junior or Senior prom?

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got engaged at prom! : And the majority don't.  That is why people on here caution against getting married at a young age.  It's one of the biggest indicators of divorce. 
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

Not always all of  my sisters and my parents were engaged and married young. They all have kids and have been married for a long time. It is not about age it is about majority. In the old days and now days even in some countries there are planned marriages and they get married young. When you get married young you grow and change together, you don't go in to it with past.

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]Gotta say, there is something distinctly immature about making fun of a high school kid. OP, congrats on your engagement!
Posted by nextrightthing[/QUOTE]

I am thinking the same thing as I am reading these. Thank you so much!

flowerpetalss2

CONGRATULATIONS!!! That is so romantic! I'm younger than you (if you're 17/18) and I'm engaged, it's nice to have support from people who understand that young people can fall in love too.

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]I got engaged young and have had a decent engagement length. It's worth waiting instead of rushing around. It helps you really mature and become your own individual. So, congrats and don't rush! Enjoy it.
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

Thank you, and we plan on getting married in December next year, but I wish it was longer because I am already enjoying the whole wedding planning experience!

chelsandmont35

Congrats!!!  YES there will be haters and being young it won't be easy, I think the reason young marriages don't last is because being young and figuring out who you are throws (yet another) wrench into the mix.  However, if you are able to grow and support each other mutually there is no reason that it wouldn't work but be prepared not only for harsh judgement but also for difficulty in your relationship (because there always is)!

BTW very cute story and I am very happy for you!

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]Congrats! I was also engaged young and had a 3 year engagement. Yes, the odds are against you but it does happen!
Posted by skurtz04[/QUOTE]
 
Thank you, the odds may be against me but my sisters and my parents all got married young and all have very strong marriages.

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]Also want to know: was this Junior or Senior prom?
Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

My school is so small so everyone that is in high school gets to go. Everyone at my school really likes it that way because if their friend is a year younger they can still go.

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]CONGRATULATIONS!!! :D That is so romantic! I'm younger than you (if you're 17/18) and I'm engaged, it's nice to have support from people who understand that young people can fall in love too.
Posted by flowerpetalss2[/QUOTE]

 Thank you so much, I am so glad to have someone else that is young and engaged!

RamonaFlowers

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got engaged at prom! : My school is so small so everyone that is in high school gets to go. Everyone at my school really likes it that way because if their friend is a year younger they can still go.
Posted by Sugarplum97[/QUOTE]

Oh, that's neat. So, then how old are you and your FI? What grade are you guys in?

flowerpetalss2

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got engaged at prom! :  Thank you so much, I am so glad to have someone else that is young and engaged!
Posted by Sugarplum97[/QUOTE]

You're lucky, to have supporting family and friends. I havent told my parents yet. Can I see your ring? :) I love looking at everybody's beautiful rings

Sugarplum97

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got engaged at prom! : You're lucky, to have supporting family and friends. I havent told my parents yet. Can I see your ring? :) I love looking at everybody's beautiful rings
Posted by flowerpetalss2[/QUOTE]

Thanks, I am going to post a picture as soon as I get a good one, the ones I have from prom have the wrong ring. He had sent the real one off to get sized they said it would be done in time but it was not back yet. So my mom gave him her promise ring my dad had given her! I have the real one now but I enjoyed having hers to it was special.

FreeSpirit666

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got engaged at prom! : And the majority don't.  That is why people on here caution against getting married at a young age.  It's one of the biggest indicators of divorce. 
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]
 
Wow, pessimistic much? We can all hope for the best, I always do & things have a way of working themselves out.

vbandell

Congrats!!!!

I am kind of at a point where I agree with some people about getting engaged young and how I think some people should wait, but at the same time I just graduated from high school and my fiance asked me to marry him the day after my hs graduation. It really is about just being ready to take the next step and I hate it when people tell me I am to young to get married because, no im not, i am almost 19 and just because we are engaged the wedding is a little over 2 years away.

The only thing that I am against with people getting engaged in high school is for the attention. I can not tell you how many stupid girls there were that just wanted attention from everyone so they would date a guy for 2 weeks, she would put on a $5 ring from walmart and said they were engaged and then the next week her whole life was ruined because the guy didnt love them anymore.

How can you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them when you date for 2 weeks. Ugh, again thats the ONLY thing that pisses me off about being engaged in high school , because it isnt real half the time. So for me it ruined my excitement of telling all the people from hs cause i know they were all thinking the same thing about me.

But again, congrats and good luck! I hope everything works out! Also, think about waiting a few years to get married, 1. gives you two time to make sure this is what you want 2. makes sure you will have the wedding that you want!!!!

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]Gotta say, there is something distinctly immature about making fun of a <strong>high school kid</strong>. OP, congrats on your engagement!
Posted by nextrightthing[/QUOTE]

That's the entire point of what PP's are saying.  Duhhhhhh......

runpipparun

I mean, I've known some people who have been together since junionr high, but they didn't get engaged or married until after they were both done with their BS's. They are also both SUUUUUUPER religious, so I think that helped.

FI's boss and his late wife were together from 14 on. Last December we sat together at the clinic Christmas party and she laughed at how silly they were to get married so young (19) and how amazed she was that it worked out. (We were all devastated when she was killed this spring in a freak hiking accident with her husband and their grandkids. He is LOST without her.)

On the other hand, I've known lots of friends who have married at 19, 20, 21, had kids, and are already divorced single parents. FSIL got married at 19 and again at 21; we aren't sure if we think the second one will stick, but she's thinking about getting a tattoo, so *fingers crossed*!! FI's also got a co-worker who is in her mid-30s and has been married 3 times, and has 2 teenage kids. Her response to our engagement? (We're 29 and 27, btw.) "Make sure this is what you really want." Thanks...

Just be sure that your will-be spouse is willing to let you grow and change, and will love you no matter what kind of woman you'll become. At 18, you ain't done growin' yet. And neither is he.

michellesean

Congrats on your engagement.  I agree that you should have a long engagement.  I'm 24 and originally planned a short one (6 months), but it had to be pushed back and now I have a little over a year.  Enjoy your engagement Sugarplum and flowerpetals!