just engaged and having mom issues :(

vanwagenen61606

I couldn't agree more with gilmore...
This situation has absolutely nothing to do with age. It has more to do with maturity. I think people confuse the two.
My parents were married when they were 20 and they will be celebrating their 25th anniversary in a few weeks. I should also mention that they were married before they even knew each other for nine months! My grandparents were married when my gma was 19 and my poppy was 21 and they are celebrating their 50th anniversary in a few months.
Congratulations! and I think things will be better once you're married, but don't let it ruin your wedding.

emjohn1019

Like another poster, I'm a bit torn. I was engaged at 22.  We had known each other for a few years, were friends, and then started dating. I really thought he was "The One" and truly thought I was ready to be a wife. Needless to say, we did not get married and I am so grateful. I am now 28 and with the man who truly is "The One". Our relationship is different - stronger, more mature. And I am stronger, more mature. I know, without a doubt, that I am ready to be his wife. In the last 6 years, I've been through a lot - being dumped by my fiance, a life-changing hurricane that send me across the country, first job out of college, grad school, another long-term relationship, another move across country, working any job just to make ends meet. After all I've been through, I finally feel like I'm mature enough to handle being a wife. Looking back, I can't imagine that I ever considered being married at 22.

That being said, if you and your FI have a stable, loving, and financially secure relationship and you are certain he's The One, then I say, go for it. But, like other posters, I definitely recommend sitting down with your mom and communicating to her why her public comments bother you. Tell her in a reasonable, calm, and mature fashion, that you are committed to this marriage and that you love her and you would like her support, but that your engagement is a time of joy and encouragement. And if she can't get behind your choices (whether or not she agrees with them) then she should not have a part in the planning process.

Whatever you decide to do, congrats and best of luck!