So I think I spoiled my proposal. I've had a ring since November, and was waiting until Valentine's Day to ask (V-Day also happens to be our anniversary). But, my GF of 4.5 years is suddenly leaving for a last-minute family reunion in Canada tomorrow, and she'll be gone for 1.5 weeks, meaning she's gonna get back home after V-day.
It's really less about me wanting to get it over with and more about me wanting her to be my fiance ASAP, bc I love her so much and life is short, and we both know we're meant to be together. So anyway, I really didn't have any plans on making a big proposal production to begin with for V-day, so I thought tonight we could just go out to a nice dinner and then come home, she can finish packing, and I can pop the question and give her the ring (she's flying out tomorrow). I thought maybe she would also want to have a ring when she sees her family!
So we're in bed, talking with the lights out like we usually do every night, and I mention that I bought "us" something for our anniversary and V-day. I purposefully said "us" because I do believe the ring is for "us," not just "her." She caught on immediately. She starts asking silly questions, like, "Is it a pony??" Then I told her I actually bought this "gift" back in November. Before I could go any further, she quickly said she'd rather wait until she got back from her trip. I took the hint immediately. Then suddenly I felt very sheepish for even having said anything in the first place, and now I can't sleep over it. The entire element of surprise is lost, and I fear I may have ruined one of the major stories of her life.
Is there anyway to fix this? I realize now that I shouldn't have said anything. I mean, what woman in her right mind would want to tell all her friends that her BF proposed to her right before bedtime on a Monday night?!?
So now, she knows that I bought something, and that it was purchased in November. I can't even lie and pretend I had gotten us plane tickets somewhere because it wouldn't make sense (why would I have needed to purchase it back in November?!?). So stupid.
PLEASE HELP ME. And please don't tell me to buy a pony. Thanks.