Boyfriend getting me a ring I am not crazy about... :-(

Marth85

I am honestly nauseous over this, he is spending so much money on a ring and I am not even wild about the one he's getting me.

It's one we looked at together, it's really highly detailed and it is beautiful but its not the style I like. I'm starting to like something a little more simple.

I showed him  several pictures of ones I like from the internet and every once in a while I'd show him again and ooh and aah over it. I think what happened is he got sick of looking and just settled.

I showed a friend and she didn't like an aspect of it (the kind of side stones)... And if I am not wild about it either then it is kind of a bummer. 

I don't think anyone can really help me with this but it sure felt good to vent, so thank you for listening if you made it this far (I know this is probably running on and on). I appreciate any advice you could give me or words of wisdom especially. Thank you :-)

LadyArkham

If he has not yet bought the ring, talk to him now! But don't nag him about it - if he knows what kind of ring you want, trust him to buy it. If he already bought the ring, then you'll know better than other people whether your relationship is such that you can tell him "I don't like this, let's return it and get something I like better" or to suck it up and learn to love your ring.

redheadfsu

Could it be a price difference? Settings can cost thousands. 

 But talk to him before he buys it. You need to handle this carefully, just explain that you are not sure about that ring any more. Try to not hurt his feelings. But, he needs to know before he buys it that you are unsure. Once he buys it & asks you to marry him, it is too late. (unless he brings up upgrading later)

coastiegrl25

....and who knows, once you wear it you may love it! 

HoneyBee+26

I agree, you will probably adore the one he proposes with no matter what it is! But if he hasn't yet bought it, I'd maybe gently explain to him that you don't want him to spend that much money on something you aren't wild about. I wouldn't make a huge deal about it, but maybe you could show him a picture of what you do like and tell him that a ring like that would be more your style.