When do you/don't you wear your e-ring?

misscarolb

I'm sure this has been posted a million times before...but when do you where your e-ring? Is it all the time, do you sleep in it? Or only when you leave the house?

I ask because I'm in a weird situation and am hoping my attitude changes, here's the back story...FI proposed, I wore the ring a few days, it was huge so we sent it back to get size. Then he tells me that there were some other things he meant to say when he proposed that he didn't, I told him that when we got the ring back he could re-propose. He thought that was perfect. Well the ring was about a week late. I got it back in and he's away at an Army school for the next few weeks. He joked before he left that I should wear it while he was gone so people would know I was taken, I told him I'd have to at least make sure it fit but I wanted him to put it back on.

Well, it shows up and I just can't resist. After wearing it that day, I was kind of over it. I have that skinny finger problem where the ring has to be big enough to fit over my knuckle but then spins on my finger. I have those little ring snuggies but they aren't much more comfy than a spinning ring. I wore it out to dinner and to a party but when I'm home I just find that it's easier to not wear it. I even bought cute gloves so that I could wash dishes with it on, but I haven't had to use them.

Is there something wrong with me? I mean...I love my ring, and sometimes I just need to look at it but wearing it all the time seems rather annoying. I'm hoping once he's back I'll be so excited and wear it all the time....but what if I don't want to? What do you do?

alecat9

I haven't had my ring sized yet so it's still really big and I have one of those ring snuggies as well. It was really annoying the first two days but I slept in it and after a few days, i got used to it. It takes time but now the only time I take it off is if I go to the gym. I shower in it and wear gloves to garden or wash dishes. My advice is wear it and let yourself get used to it. It takes time but gradually you stop noticing it.

karmellah

i wear my ring 24/7. its part of me. ive only taken it off twice since getting ti and it was to wash dishes

Julz629

The only time I take mine off is when I'm showering and getting ready so I don't get the lotion/hair gel/other product on it.  Other than that, I wear it to work out, sleep, clean, etc. 

It definitely took some time getting used to -- I have a very thin band and this ring has a heavier setting than anything else I've worn so I had to get used to it spinning.  I got it resized and that helped...not it only spins when my hands are cold and my fingers are small.  Besides that, I just wasn't used to wearing a ring like that on my left hand.  But now I feel naked without it...and if I forget to put it back on after showering, I have to stop whatever I'm doing and put it back on as soon as I realize it.

Wear it for a bit...it may be too big if its still moving around a lot.  My sister has fingers like you where her knuckles are big and then the rest of her fingers are small -- so she ended up soldering her e-ring and wedding band together after she got married and that helped her out a lot.  The ring is thicker so it doesn't spin as much.

I'm sure you'll get used to it, and you'll hate to go without it!

sparklingdiamond

I take mine off when I shower, sleep, eat anything messy, or clean the house.  I just want to take good care of it! :-) 

bbyckes

I never take it off.  The only times I have taken it off was to have it cleaned. 

Islamorada14

I don't really see what the big deal is. There are lots of people out there who only wear their rings when they go out.  As soon as they get home, the ring comes off.  It doesn't make you any less engaged/married.  As the years pass those people will probably have rings in much better condition than those who wear them 24/7.

I wear my rings most of the time, but I absolutely will not wear them when cooking, cleaning, or washing dishes or when sleeping or showering. 

luckyme502

I wear my ring most of the time.  I never sleep in it or shower with it on.  According to some, it is bad for the diamond, or any gem for that matter, to sleep with it on, so I don't.  I take it off to some cleaning and when I am working in the flower beds. 

kjs08

I wear mine most of the time, but I take it off to sleep, workout, shower, clean, do dishes, and work (I'm a lifeguard and swim instructor). I want to take good care of it so when I know I'm going to be rough on my hands I take it off. I feel naked when it's not on, but that reminds me to put it back on when I'm done. 

nikkic3

I wear mine all the time.  Only take it off when putting on lotion.  I sleep and shower in it.  However, the ring was a REALLY big deal to me.  I know for other girls it's not.  If it's not for you, don't stress about it.  Just wear it when you feel like it. 

FutureMrsMcDaniel

I love wearing my ring and how it feels on my finger, but it does take some getting used to.  FI gave me a tiny promise ring while in college and I wore a ring guard because it was a little too big.  It's weird at first, but I got used to it after a day or so.  Once you wear something for so long, it will begin to feel natural.

I always take my rings off while I'm cooking, cleaning, showering, and sleeping.  Sleeping in your rings is pretty bad for the stone since it can catch on sheets.  Many women scoff at that, but they only learn otherwise after years of abuse to their ring.  My mother wore her rings 24/7 and they are in terrible condition now.  I am so so so proud of my ring and take very good care of it.  When I'm not wearing it, the ring goes into a special holder in my drawer. 

And to PP, my ring was a big deal to me too, that's why I take the ultimate care in handling my ring.

sosie&fangman

 But I guess it's like a thong (TMI) you eventually don't even realize it's there...
Posted by misscarolb[/QUOTE]

OMG, that's too funny. I take mine off doing dishes or taking a shower. I got mine in December, so i am waiting til the summer to decide if i need to get it resized...here in TX, the summers are hot and i swell, so i don't want it to get too small...otherwise, it took a LOT of getting used to...at first, i was taking it off when i did anything,but then i i kept forgetting it...so i started sleeping in it and everything and now it's a part of me...i can't stand to be without it.

Bottom line, it's a pain to get used to, but once you do, you may find that you won't want to be without it...

ashbash10

geesh now I feel bad, but I only put mine on to go out in public or if people are visiting me. when im alone at home I put it in my jewlery box. I dont sleep with it on, or shower, or clean with it. I love my ring, its just I guess i see it as a way to show the public im taken. I plan on wearing my wedding band at all times though and never take that off.
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amianne420

i wear mine all the time.  i only take it off to put it in my cleaner maybe once a week.  i don't look at it as jewelry.  it's a symbol for me.  our bond, i guess.  i felt it on my finger the first week or so, but now i don't even feel it anymore!  you'll get used to it.

mrose12

 because of my job, i only wear mine on my weekends. i'm a chef so it's really not practical to wear it during the week. i wear a plain white gold band the rest of the time. other than that it stays in the safe. 

WFH

I wear my ring all the time.
 Except when sleeping. I think I would hurt myself when sleeping on my hand:D
I had almost the same issue, but I got over it:) He just had to tell me his feelings again:)

SarahRuthG

I wear mine most of the time. Not when cleaning or showering and I dont sleep in it... but most of the time.

It feels really strange not to have it on! Like right now... it's at the jewelers so the wedding band can be made. AGAIN! I didn't have it for a month the first time - but the band was ALL wrong so now I am without it again while I wait! I'm not good at waiting

Yeah... I like to have mine on! It takes getting used to NOT having it on.

lemken

I take it off when I sleep, do dishes and apply lotions. But, I'm kind of OC about it. It is only allowed in one spot when it's off. If it can't get to that spot, it doesn't come off.

lindseroo

I wear mine all the time, but I know that not everyone does.  I have the problem with the ring spinning as well.  It is SO annoying!  I want to get it sized down further, but it DOES fit me snugly when it's warmer outside.  So if during summer it is still too small a lot I will get it sized again.  But anyway, I know what you mean that it can be annoying, but I love it and love wearing it!  I take mine off to shower and put it back on when I'm leaving the house in the morning, but otherwise I always have it on.  Try to force yourself to wear it 24/7 for a few days, otherwise you'll never get used to it!

alewpanda

I love my engagement ring, but I've never worn anything with a stone in it, so I worry about it occasionally.  I don't wear it when I sleep or shower, or when I was dishes or put on lotion/hair gel/ect.

Once I'm married I assume I will wear my wedding band all the time.  I may, however, only wear my engagement ring on special occasions or when I'm dressed up.

a_spinhirne

I really only wear mine when I go out or when people come over, etc.  I don't wear it for showering, cleaning, cooking, anything like that.  It is insured of course, but I just can't imagine damaging such an expensive piece of jewelry.  I want it to look gorgeous for years to come.  Oh and I don't wear it to work either, I'm an RN, the stone would just catch on gloves everytime I put them on and take them which is of course constantly, and since I have to constantly wash and gel my hands at work that would be exposing it to even more damaging effects.   It certainly doesn't mean that I love my fiance' any less.  These things all depend on each person's individual circumstances.

SweetLaura286

I take it off to do dishes & to shower, but that's it. I do sleep with it on, however the other day my fingers were really swollen so i had it off for 2 days and I didnt feel bad about it, a bit weird maybe but I wasn't any less 'taken' for those two days
 
I suggest in your case you pick out a wedding band you really love and feels great on you, and you mostly wear that when you are married, and save the engagement ring for special occassions.

tiffersnc

I wear mine all the time, except when working out, showering, sleeping, cleaning with chemicals, using lotions/make-up and some cooking (when it's messy). I always have it on other than that. But not everyone's like that and it doesn't make you a bad fiancee if you don't wear your ring as much as some other girls do. Don't stress it. You'll either get used to it spinning (I finally have) or you'll only wear it in public/with friends. Both are absolutely fine.

starshine985

I've had my ring for well over a year now (married almost a year actually) and I take my rings of all the time.  Although some people may get used to it, others do not.  When I first got the ring, I did try sleeping with it on and realized that I was never comfortable.  The ring was constantly catching on the blankets and I was also nervous about the stone popping out. 

I always take my rings off when showering (or anything involving water really) and sleeping.  My rings also spin constantly, so if they get really annoying, I do take them off.  Depending on what type of cleaning and/or yard work I'm doing, the rings may come off then as well.  I do, however, always make sure to have it on when I'm out and about.

There is nothing wrong with not wanting to wear it all the time -- just don't get upset with your future husband if he does the same thing once he gets his ring.  Sometimes it's just not good to have the ring on -- it's better to keep it in good condition then to ruin it by doing heavy duty yardwork with it on, right?  I will admit though, if I take it to get cleaned, it's really strange when I don't even have the option to put it on because it's in someone else's possession!!

SLSimmons

I take mine off alot..don't get me wrong I love my ring but I'm a nursing student and work in the hospital and my rings prongs are super sharp! So i really only wear in when we go out, however when we get married I will wear my band all the time.

eighthstarr

I don't think you should feel bad about this kind of thing. I don't waer a lot of glitzy jewelry so I know once i'm married, I will rely on wearing my wedding ring and put on the engagement ring when we go out to dinner and in dressier situations. That's me, I like to keep it simple, and with my job, it's just easier to not have it in the way catching on things.

JennaV26

I pretty much only wear it out or when I'm hanging around the house. I don't wear it when I'm sleeping, working out, getting ready or cleaning. I love wearing it and after reading some of your posts I realize I'm also lucky to find it comfortable to wear. I'm just paranoid of hurting it so I don't wear it 24/7.

Sarawalls

It certainly doesn't make you a bad person.  I don't wear jewelry in general, except for special occasions, so it took me FOREVER to get used to it.  Now, 6 months later, I still play with it and spin it on my finger. 

I don't wear it when I sleep, because my hands seem to swell then, or when I'm doing heavy duty cleaning or gardening.  I wear it to work everyday, but on weekends I'll leave it off unless I'm going out.  My mom has been married for 37 years and still takes her rings off and forgets to put them back on until she leaves the house.

This is really a personal preference.  Don't feel bad about it.  You'll decide what is right for you and develop your own "ring habits" in your own time!

jlbunce

Mine spun, too, so we had our jeweler add these two little button-like dots on the inside of the band.  Still fits over my man-knuckles, and spinning, solved!

fairy_diva

I don't wear mine for lots of things:

1.  to sleep, my fingers swell in my sleep and frankly it hurts
2.  cleaning, most cleaning solutions are not good for the gold
3.  cooking,  who wants meat and whatever else I've got my hands in stuck in my ring
4.  a lot of wedding DYI, esp painting.
5.  yard work, esp digging in the dirt
6.  showering
7.  doing my makeup or my hair

Wow, I take that thing off a lot during the day!

akasper16

I take my ring off when I sleep and shower.  I have the same problem as you-- skinny fingers and big knucles! My jeweler tried multiple things & nothing worked.  The only thing that's working is a ring guard..which I don't find uncomfortable at all.  I got mine from ringguardsplus.com if that helps- maybe its the kind you're wearing or you just have to get used to it.  I also think it's personal preference.  Like pp's said, some girls take their rings off as soon as they get home from work, some never take their's off.  Don't feel bad!