Any helpful Advice?

squiggle09

I am recently engaged to the man of my dreams!!  He asked me to marry him over the weekend in Michigan.  I live in Ohio due to finishing up my nursing degree.  He is in Michigan because of the Navy.  I am beyond words excited to be engaged to this man but...... 

My parents are very much against he and I being together.  They do not care for him or the fact that he is enlisted in the Navy and poor.  They have never given him a fair chance and I think they never will.  Due to this, I have yet to inform my parents of our engagement.  I keep lying to myself and saying I am waiting for the "right" time to tell them, but the truth is there really isnt a "right" time.  

His entire family knows and could not be more happy for the two of us!  They have all been there from the start and have gone through and seen first hand the harsh and cruel ways of my parents when it comes to he and I.  

So, any helpful advice on how to break the news to my parents?  Oh did I mention the small fact that just 2 months ago my older brother asked his girlfriend to marry him?  I fear that if I share my news, it will eclipse there happy and joyful news.  My brother has always been the preferred child of the family (aka not the black sheep like me).  

Any advice would be helpful.  I am still young and am new to all of this.  22 years old will be 23 in only a few months, and never thought that I would be getting married well that is until I met the love of my life almost a year and a half ago!   

Birdie1483

First of all, your engagement won't overshadow your brother's engagement by any means. You have just has much right to get married and to celebrate as he does. I wouldn't worry about that at all.

As far as your parents go, I think you just need to rip it off like a bandaid. The longer you wait, the more anxious you will become and the more upset they might become because you waited so long. I think you need to be upfront with your parents about your relationship and how you feel towards your FI. Don't act like you have anything to hide. They're adults and hopefully they can be mature about it and support you. Hopefully they will come around when they see how happy you are.

loop0406

Only advice is that since you're 22, you're grown and should act like it. Regardless of your parents liking him or not, if you're 100% sure of your decision and there's no changing your mind/doubts, then be straight forward, say you're engaged, don't feel bad or cry if they don't act too excited because you know in advance that they're not going to be thrilled. It doesn't matter if your brother got engaged recently, you did too and you should be able to share the news, whether they agree or not. You can either call your parents or wait to do it in person but you shouldn't wait and wait to do it because then it appears you're not mature enough to face them