Bridal Shower

SarahB0427

Hi girls...My MOH is throwing me a bridal shower for ME.  She asked me for a list and I gave her a small list of my close girlfriends and family members that I would like there (mom, gramma's, close aunts, cousins) and my FMIL.  Now my FMIL is not happy with this and would like to add some of her friends.  I told her that is not possible because I am limited to the amount of people I can have there.  So...She is now throwing a larger shower the weekend before for all her friends to attend.  I told her that it is not proper ettiquite to invite someone to a shower that is not invited to the wedding.  She is doing what she wants.  I am so embarassed.  What do I do.  What do I say to all these people I dont even know?  This is called a bridal shower right?!  Shouldnt the Bride be happy?

sv4338

Awwww Im sorry, your FMIL is being a pain, but you know screw it just make the best of it and enjoy yourself :0) It could be worse. Free gifts for free :0)

hischiquita!

Yeah, don't even worry about it. Try to enjoy yourself and your gifts! lol

 Like you said you don't know these people so don't even worry about not inviting them to the wedding. Your MILon the other hand, knows these people and she's the one who's gonna be looking dumb when her friends don't get to go to the wedding but are invited to the shower!

mrs.payne2010

i would be so irratated!! just hang in there like syl said at least you will get tons of gifts, thats always nice.

desi2002

like the ladies said enjoy the free gifts. i guess you can send them thank you cards so you dont seem ungrateful, but they dont have to come to the wedding. Unless they wanna pay LOL.

emilypeach

ah how rude! but i agree with hischiquita, that your MIL is the one who should be embarassed!!  who knows they might be nice and you might have fun so just try and make the best.

SarahB0427

I know they might be nice...but, I just feel bad...Like she is making this about her..and its not about her and who she can show off too...thats what its about to her...not about doing something nice for me...but, doing something for herself..

amberg321

I agree with the pp.....let her be the one that looks silly. Just enjoy the shower and your gifts Like desi said, be sure to send thank you's so your FMIL wont be able to use anything against you down the road. BTW- she sounds like a mess. Sorry you have to deal with that

Kasi80

Egh...WTH?  She is on e selfish lady it sounds like.  I agree with the others.  Go along with it, enjpy the day and send TY cards.

jojochanti

My MIL wanted to do the same thing and invite people from her work that were not invited. The gesture was sweet because she wanted to "shower" me with lots of gifts. I told her about etiquette and she said that someone at her work did this and no one said anything. I just let it play out and didn't say anything for a while, then one of her collegues told her it was bad etiquette and she changed her mind.. It worked out because we had one big shower instead and didn't invite anyone that wasn't coming to the wedding. BUT, if it ends up happening, just smile and nod and be a good bride and hey, you'll get extra gifts.

SarahB0427

and drink a glass of wine to be able to deal with it LOL...Ok girls Ill just keep my mouth shut :-)