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anna.oskar
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No new posts in a week? Wow.
What's up ladies?
How's a girl supposed to lurk over here if y'all aren't posting anything? 
Wanna chat? Topics?
*recipes (especially yummy fall ones)
*estrogen
*hobbies (anyone want to teach me to crochet?)
*gifts for hard to buy men
*vents
*what do you judge?
Take your pick. Let's talk.
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Re: No new posts in a week? Wow.
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Or this one: "I didn't have a wedding the first time, we just ran off to the JOP" You did have a wedding, you just didn't have a RECEPTION.
And bad grammar. Oh, I make mistakes, but I think everyone should know that an invitation is the noun, and to invite, is the verb. Hey, Knot gods!!!! You have bad grammar! Invites? NOOOOOO! It's INVITATIONS. Also, we're were, and they're, their, and there, everyone should know the difference by the age of 12. And aisle and isle. Dang ninnies.
::: gets off soapbox for next person's turn:::
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I agree Anna; not just here but SB and E. Even Chit Chat.
Hmmmm...gifts for the hard to buy man? Well, mine golfs so I thought that would be an endless supply of gifts. Wrong. Whatever he wants that pertains to golf, he buys. He knows what he likes. So it's usually a GC for Golfsmith. Now, let's talk about the hard to buy for 80 year old moms. Both MiL and my mother are turning 80 in the next two months. MiL is coming here to celebrate next week with her kids and we are going in Oct to mom's in FL for her 80th bash. MiL is pretty tech savvy so the sibs were thinking about a Kindle or the Think Pad (?). My mom not so much, but she desperately wants a laptop computer. I just can't see letting her go on the internet. We'll be supporting Nigerian princes long after she's gone.
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I judge those who judge me because:
(1) I did not wear a white dress for my wedding (for either wedding, actually). Why must I want to wear the same type of outfit I wore in 2nd grade for my first Holy Communion for my wedding to be valid? Been there, done that. And honestly, brides on TK who mention, "Oh, that's because its your second wedding." Do they know how insulting that is?
(2) I did not change my last name when I married, either time. How does changing one's name reflect a deeper love or stronger commitment? And why, oh why, must the woman change her name and not the man????
(3) I did not include response cards in my invitations. We used the traditional "R.S.V.P." in the lower left corner of the invitation. Yup, we're old school. And guess what? We received responses from 90% - 95% of our guests. I think that's the going reply rate (or a wee bit better) for those who include response cards.
That's all. Oh yeah, the grammar, diction and spelling faux pas on TK drive me insane. OK, there, that's all.
[QUOTE]I'm just in a funk because one of the two major parties now has a publicly stated goal of destroying my marriage. Really, guys? This is your idea of "family values"?
Posted by 2dBride[/QUOTE]
2dBride, I'm with you. H and I are not happy, at all, with where things seem to be moving with regard to what we feel are very personal issues, strongly rooted in fundamental human rights -- marriage equality, reproductive rights, access to health care. Oye!
Don't get me started. And if I hear one more politician proclaim that the US is (was founded as) a Chirstian nation, I may lose my mind. *sigh* Sheesh! Do these people even read the writings of the founding fathers? *sigh*
[QUOTE]I judge those who judge me because: (1) I did not wear a white dress for my wedding (for either wedding, actually). Why must I want to wear the same type of outfit I wore in 2nd grade for my first Holy Communion for my wedding to be valid? Been there, done that. And honestly, brides on TK who mention, "Oh, that's because its your second wedding." Do they know how insulting that is? (2) I did not change my last name when I married, either time. How does changing one's name reflect a deeper love or stronger commitment? And why, oh why, must the woman change her name and not the man???? (3) I did not include response cards in my invitations. We used the traditional "R.S.V.P." in the lower left corner of the invitation. Yup, we're old school. And guess what? We received responses from 90% - 95% of our guests. I think that's the going reply rate (or a wee bit better) for those who include response cards. That's all. Oh yeah, the grammar, diction and spelling faux pas on TK drive me insane. OK, there, that's all.
Posted by Lisa50[/QUOTE](1) I wore a white dress for my first wedding, and an ivory one for my second. And I still think it is ridiculous that people think women "have to" wear a white dress to be married, or that they "can't" wear one if they are not virgins. I love <a href="http://articles.sun-sentinel.com/2007-08-01/features/0707300131_1_wedding-dress-etiquette-manners" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Miss Manners's comments on the issue</a>:
Did you never see anything wrong with the idea that brides should be publicly packaged and labeled according to their purity?
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When the color of the wedding dress came to be considered a declaration that its contents were new or used, Miss Manners cannot say. She only knows how relieved she is that this has ceased - or so she thought, until you spoke up.
(2) I also didn't change my name with either of my marriages. At one point, one of my colleagues asked, "Why don't you and your husband have the same last name?" Without missing a beat, I replied, "He decided to keep his maiden name when we got married."
(3) We had online responses to our wedding, because NotFroofy is a bit of a geek, and was able to set things up so that all the responses got neatly inserted into a Google doc for us. But it drives me nuts when people claim that response cards are mandated by etiquette. Actually, etiquette traditionally frowned on response cards, because they would insult your guests by suggesting that they wouldn't send proper written responses if they didn't get prefilled cards. These days, they are permitted, but they are certainly not required.
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"Well, we're NOT brother and sister! We don't do that in OUR family!" That stops 'em dead. :-)
[QUOTE]I judge people that get upset if another person wears white to a wedding. Like anyone else woudl confuse them with the bride?! I know this is a hot button for others but it really is not something that I have ever thought of or been concerned about. I've been to many weddings where the MOB wore a white gown. Estrogen....? We'll see. Had cryoblade surgery six months ago due to problems with Endometriosis and really heavy periods and cycle is supposed to start on Saturday. I am hoping that I can say b-bye to periods once and for all.
Posted by kikirst33[/QUOTE]Someone wore a white blouse and white skirt to our wedding. But I don't think anyone confused him with either of the brides.
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Kikirst, uh, yeah, I judge those that don't see a problem with wearing white to a wedding. While I don't think anyone would confuse the bride with those wearing white, I take exception to it, and here's why. For my first wedding, my FMIL bought a white dress. I was in a tea length dress, and she had bought a white dress. Yeah, NO. No white at weddings unless it's a shirt on a gentleman, or on the bride(s).
Just wanted to say hi. I have just joined the site as I thought I needed a bit of inspiration for my 3rd wedding. Never thought I would do this again but here goes.lol. Marrying my soul mate next year and would like to chat to other serial wedding planners lmao. Not sure how to use the site and struggling to follow the chat here but anyway hey ho.Have a good day everyone.