We are not getting married til next year. We are planning a small ceremony mostly for family and a few close friends.The reception however would be open to those that attended the weddiing plus other friends.My question is....in order to avoid unwanted guest and party crashers,how should invitations be addressed( most are going to be sent here on theknot or Facebook,some via reg,mail) .There are a few people that I am afraid that may show up uninvited and really spoil things.Should I have a list at the door for the wedding and have someone check those guest off as they come in and should i also have a check list of those that are invited to the reception as well to avoid this poss. situation or is that not considered proper?
Re: Guest list etiquette
Sharon, we have been as close to etiquette as possible with our wedding but sometimes etiquette has went out the window cause everyone can't be pleased. If you are worried about having unwanted guests, have your list at the door. You would know best if your unwanted guests are connected to anyone that is invited to the either celebration. Our wedding is small with the ceremony and reception in the same location. So I understand what your feelings are. I am still going to have a list at make sure everyone is there. But there is a really interesting piece of information about my location, you would really have to know where you are going to find it. Its eay to pass by it and most people don't know that the road its on is also a highway.
To be honest if i was invited to a reception and not the ceremony (that took place the same day right before) I would look at it as gift grabby. Unless, as PPs have mentioned you were married at a destination wedding with only family, or had a small only immediate family wedding and then wanted to have a reception at a later date.
I also agree that if i walked in to a wedding and they had a bouncer with a guest list checking off names I would feel awkward and it just wouldn't sit well with me.