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Not sure how to feel...

And I don't expect any of you to tell me, but I need to get this off my chest. Sorry if this gets long...My shower and bachelorette party are this Saturday. Two of my girlfriends offered to throw the events so they could be a part of things (my BP is all family). I accepted and just told my BM's I didn't need a 2nd event. Well the invites just went out 2 weeks ago and I have recieved emails and calls that it was just too short notice and people can't make it. I will get over that, people are busy, not big deal, but I am disappointed a bit that they went out so late.Moving on to what hurts my feelings, I guess, is one of the girls that is helping to put on the party is not coming now. She has known about it for 6 months, will be there at 12:30 with the shower at 1:00 and then is not going to go to the bachelorette party part. She hasn't told me this yet... the other friend throwing the shower told me last night as she said she didn't want me to be hurt the day of when I found out. I guess my friend was going to come to dinner and when we all get on the bus to go out, just leave and not tell me. I don't know what to think of it. I know that not everyone can make every event, but she is helping to throw the events. I find it strange. The worst is just her not telling me. And I feel a little guilty that one friend is stuck doing everything. Anyway, I am surprised by it and didn't know what to think. Needed to vent!

Re: Not sure how to feel...

  • edited December 2011
    That is so frustrating ... did your friend say why this girl is leaving?? 
  • edited December 2011
    There is a festival in the town she is now living in and she wants to go to that...At least that is what is being said. She is even bringing her little sister with her. The whole thing is weird and I can't help but wonder if there isn't something deeper. She told my friend that she is helping that she would be at my wedding which was "the really important part anyway". True, but still strange. How do you throw a bachelorette party for someone and not be there?
  • edited December 2011
    This isn't what you should hear (don't mean to add fuel to your fire) but I would be pissed!  There has to be an underlying issue but hopefully it works out.  I had to put on my big girl panties and deal with an issue kinda like this, it sucks to be the bigger person and just let her deal with her own actions, but sometimes it just needs to be done.  Please don't let her actions hurt your wedding and let yourself have fun.  I wish you the best! 
  • edited December 2011
    Thanks! I am trying not to be p*ssed, but it is hard. I don't want to be ungrateful and I certainly don't want it to ruin my girls night with all my other friends that are coming in to Des Moines from 2 hours away or more. So I refuse to let it. I am just racking my brain trying to think if there was a time I would have upset her, but I can't think of one. We haven't talked in a couple months. Anytime I would email both girls, the other would respond an say "I talked to so and so". She must have known for a couple months now she wasn't coming. I just feel lied to.
  • edited December 2011
    Keep your chin up!  Try to keep your mind off of it and not let it get to you ... If I'm around that night I'll come out and buy you a shot ;) 
  • edited December 2011
    Well atleast you find out who your true friends are.  That's the way I would look at it.
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