Suggestions for second wedding

AMYH40

I am 40 yrs. old and am going to be getting married the second time around in June.
I don't want an elaborate wedding (did that the first time and the marriage failed BADLY), but I don't know what is acceeptable, what isn't and I'm stressing out over it!  Any help out there???

saacjw

I think it depends on your family and friends what would be acceptable. I think some people would think it was more appropriate to do something very quiet, while others would rather have a massive affair. I can tell you what people I know have done, but it totally depends.

My mother's second wedding was great and fit the way our family approaches things. It was at our church, but she had to get a special dispensation from the bishop because she and my stepdad had been divorced (something to consider if you want a religous ceremony- hoops, I didn't even realize how many). It was definately a lower key affair than her first wedding, the reception was a cake and punch affair followed by a nice dinner for just family. She wore a very pretty gold dress and my stepdad and brothers wore tuxes, my sisters and I got pretty bridesmaids dresses. My dad's was a much smaller affair, mid afternoon only my grandparents, aunt, brother, and myself in attendence, followed by a nice dinner. I attended another second wedding which was very much the big elaborate affair. Quick ceremony followed by dinner and dancing. The bride wore a big white poufy dress, her daughters were bridesmaids, etc. 

I say, do what you want and what you're comfortable with. 

Westerman100

Your second wedding can be as elaborate or as informal as you desire.  I have officiated many weddings for couples who are getting married the second or even third time.  Often, they want a ceremony which includes the children.  Sometimes they want something formal.  Other times, they are looking for something exotic.  It totally depends on you.  Usually, they choose to have a wedding for themselves as opposed to making their family members happy.  My suggestion would be to talk with your future husband to determine exactly what would make BOTH of you happy.  Then let 'er rip.

Good Luck

Rev. Greg Gordon

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