So mad

shanding4787

So some of my family went to breakfast this morning and my cousin who got engaged last week, announced her wedding date. I sat there thinking, "hmm that date sounds familiar"...oh yea, that's because it's my date! She knows that that date is the same day we're getting married, but she said her fiancé "had a dream" about the date and they'd are sticking with it... I was rather speechless and needless to say it made for an awkward rest of the meal.

nay1984

SHUT UP!! r u serious!!!???!!! i love my cousin but if she did that KNOWING ..i dont think i could contain myself. thats a selfish move especially to put that on family to what decide what wedding they are going to go to? this is like bride wars all over again...are you able to change your date?

nay1984

send out save the dates now

GinaV0822

Seriously???  I would be furious!  Are you going to stick with your date?  That sucks

shanding4787

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[QUOTE]Seriously???  I would be furious!  Are you going to stick with your date?  That sucks :(
Posted by GinaV0822[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, I am absolutely keeping my date. I've been engaged for 6 months and already have everything booked, there's no way I'm changing it now. </div>

kymalibustacey

I;m with Nay.... Send Save the Date card ASAP!!!!

nay1984

yah i dont blame you! are you able to call them and rationally say like this doesnt make sense to do this, that it will divide the family, adn that you have alreayd paid deposits etc? 

before she makes any more plans try to stop her? or is she not budging at all

Chantizzle 18

Seriously your cousin is so inconsiderate! I totally agree with the others that you need to send out your STDS ASAP!

All the best with your planning.

shanding4787

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[QUOTE]yah i dont blame you! are you able to call them and rationally say like this doesnt make sense to do this, that it will divide the family, adn that you have alreayd paid deposits etc?  before she makes any more plans try to stop her? or is she not budging at all
Posted by nay1984[/QUOTE]



My mom and aunt were trying to handle it but I guess If that doesn't work I'll step in.

Blondy214

WOW!! I can't believe that! I agree with PPs, send out STDs now. 

Yolie622

Wow   wow   wow. Totally wrong. I wouldnt change me date for sure, Yep send out those STD's. All od this because of a dream... Really.... Do u honey!! Best of luck.

ChiGirl2013

That's pretty b@llsy of her!  I would be LIVID! 

Definitely get your Save the Date cards out THIS WEEK.  She'll get over it.  Maybe her FI will have a dream about a different date.  Or maybe his dream meant to stay away from that date because it means she'll have a horrible visit with Aunt Flo that day.  ;-)

She never should have put her Fi's "dream" above a family member's wedding.  What a horrible thing to do to you!

LuckyGirl1713

Your cousin is a b*tch.  I would have flipped out because that really is an inconsiderate thing to do to anybody let alone a family member.  Let's hope that everyone in your family tells her she is rude and crazy for doing that and she will pick a new date.

GinaV0822

Hopefully your family will all consider the fact that you had it booked first and that your cousin is in the wrong.  Does she realize she will not have all the family there???  Sorry you have to deal with that.  

erbear84

Whatabitch.  

Spunky414

That is all kinds of crazy and wrong. Hope it all works out for you.

shanding4787

Update...my cousin text me with a crappy apology and said they are changing their date. I called my aunt to be 100% sure and they are changing it...to the weekend before. Lol....oh well at least it's a different date now.

lpowers1118

That's good news on the update.   )

eddiesgirl11

Thats good that they are changing it but to be honest Id still be pissed they are having the wedding so close! It is just rude..

some people just dont know etiquette!

ChiGirl2013

Glad she changed it, but I'm sorry she's being a passive-aggressive jagoff for doing it the weekend BEFORE yours.  It almost seems like she's trying to beat you at some kind of competition or something. 

What a pregnant dog.

LuckyGirl1713

i repeat your cousin is a b*tch even though she changed the date

kayteak

That's messed up..  Do you have family coming from out of town?  That's my biggest hump, keeping my fingers crossed that everyone can make it!!  On the one hand if people are coming from out of town and can afford it, that would be a fun vacation with two weddings, but on the other hand I agree that it's weird they decided on the week BEFORE.  When I was waiting for my proposal I was in a friend's wedding and she wanted us to get engaged soo bad, but said if I ever got engaged and eloped before hers she'd kinda freak out.  Understandable!!  This is your moment to shine, you should be able to have all the limelight, not have to share it with "a dream".  Unbelievable hun.

Spunky414

Is this cousin otherwise competitive or otherwise weird with you?

nay1984

yah especially the weekend before..unless like pp's you have family out of town and this makes it easier, but thats still a lot to put on family. 

redjellybean128

Ugh, I'm glad she ended up changing the date. But i think it's kind of obnoxious she picked the week before. Better than the same day though. Sorry you had to deal with that

shanding4787

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[QUOTE]That's messed up..  Do you have family coming from out of town?  That's my biggest hump, keeping my fingers crossed that everyone can make it!!  On the one hand if people are coming from out of town and can afford it, that would be a fun vacation with two weddings, but on the other hand I agree that it's weird they decided on the week BEFORE.  When I was waiting for my proposal I was in a friend's wedding and she wanted us to get engaged soo bad, but said if I ever got engaged and eloped before hers she'd kinda freak out.  Understandable!!  This is your moment to shine, you should be able to have all the limelight, not have to share it with "a dream".  Unbelievable hun.
Posted by kayteak[/QUOTE]

No, luckily no family from out of town, at least not on that side of the family.

Blondy214

That's still kind of messed up,but at least she changed it. I agree that it seems like she is trying to beat you. I don't know if anyone else has experienced this, but it really bothers me when people get engaged after I did get married before me! I'll admit its probably just jealousy that they're married and I'm not, but I feel like I've been patiently waiting and planning and other people just rush it.

We had 2 cousins get engaged after we did and are already married. We're pretty convinced that they were trying to beat us down the aisle (they're brothers, and about 10 years older than we are,so they cound't have their little cousin getting married before they did).

ANYway... I'm glad that it worked out for you  and that you don't have to share your day

orangehills

Oh I'd be livid. But good thing it's before yours! And hey- everyone will remember your wedding because it will be the last one, fresh in their memories...

shanding4787

I'm so used to my sister trying to be the one to steal the spotlight, it kind of came out of nowhere when my cousin did it..she's not normally like that.

ChiGirl2013

I would TOTALLY get the FBI to guard the details of your wedding.  Sounds like she's the type to steal all of your ideas so she can make you look like YOU'RE the ones who copied HER wedding.  Ugh!  Can you imagine.... everyone oohing and aahing at how beautiful her wedding is, and then going to your wedding the following weekend and seeing the same thing and wondering why you weren't more original and imaginative?

kayteak

I have a hard enough time comparing myself to others to begin with.  Good thing no out of towners on that side, but I definitely would be thinking my whole day "is that how hers was?" especially with it being soooo close.  I'm doing that about my decisions compared to one of my maids and her wedding will have been a year ago by the time mine comes around.  Oy vey, the drama of family.  Good thing we all get to start our own soon enough :)