Hello ladies!
I'm in a difficult situation? I am close to th groom's family, his mother is more of a mom to me than my own. Here lately she doesnt seem very interested or excited to help plan wedding things? And, she offered to buy the wedding invitations, had me return the ones I already bought and is now not paying for new ones? Do I approach her and ask what is going on or just sweep it under the rug and continue planning with my bridesmaids?
Re: how to deal with mom in law?
Personally I would just let it go for now. Are you including her in your planning and sharing ideas? Maybe she feels left out and thats why she wanted to pick the invitations?
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[QUOTE]Personally I would just let it go for now. Are you including her in your planning and sharing ideas? Maybe she feels left out and thats why she wanted to pick the invitations?
Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]
Invite her, offer, etc but don't stop the planning just because she wants to throw an adult-sized temper tantrum.
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2013-weddings_how-to-deal-with-mom-in-law?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:820178d7-4f43-4671-bcab-c5c2c01eef1eDiscussion:f9f5c8a2-9222-497a-b106-0d2e2fdc8360Post:ca0f921c-9f28-4e1b-9bbf-4c65d7c7a859">Re: how to deal with mom in law?</a>:
[QUOTE]All you can do is tell her when your appointmens are, ask her to go, and ask for her opinions. If she gets her undies in a wad, that's HER issue, not yours. She is a grown woman and if she's not mature enough to tell you if/when you do something that upsets her, that's HER problem. Include her as much as you can and if she CHOOSES not to participate, she can't say it's because you never asked. Whatever bug she has up her butt will either eventually make its way out, or she will realize that her attitude is causing her to miss out on a lot of the planning. Invite her, offer, etc but don't stop the planning just because she wants to throw an adult-sized temper tantrum.
Posted by ChiGirl2013[/QUOTE]
People have different ways of showing their enthusiasm. Keep including her in your plans and if she starts to act up again let your FI deal with her. Good Luck!
[QUOTE]totally there with you, I just hate stepping on people's toes.. wedding planning should be exciting and a time to be happy and I've been trying to find that "happy median" for us to agree on things but I feel like shes bucking me every step of the way! :
Posted by court4608[/QUOTE]
My mom has not shown a single ounce of happiness or excitement about our wedding plans, so I get ya. It hurts.... a lot. In fact, although my family ADORES FI, there are very few people who are supportive or showing any excitement at all about the wedding. Nobody asks me how things are going or anything like that. When I offer info, all they do is complain. So yeah, I hear ya.
A good friend of mine, who has been married about 5 years, told me something that helps me feel at least a little better. She told me "There is nobody on this earth who cares about your wedding as much as you do, so don't expect them to match your level of excitement." I keep reminding myself of that when I get down about not having support.
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