Suggestions: Sharing our "thunder"

ajerome21

So we set the date and put the deposit down - June 4, 2010.  When we set the date, I guess because of all of the excitement, we didn't realize it's FI's mother's birthday. lol!  She really doesn't care, she actually thinks it is kinda cool that we are getting married on her b-day.My mother went back to school a few years ago and is graduating this spring.  I am so PROUD of her, this is such a huge accomplishment.  It takes so much courage for someone to go back to school.  So anyway, she found out yesterday that her graduation will be on June 5, 2010 at 10 a.m.!  She only told my FI because she knows that I always wanted to go on my honeymoon the morning after my wedding.  Obviously, we are changing our honeymoon plans!!!  Watching my mother walk across stage is more important than me rushing off to my honeymoon!!! We almost set the date for June 5th but went for a Friday wedding (the 4th) due to the discount.  Thank God we did that.  She is going to have one crazy week! lol! So I was wondering if we should acknowledge his mom's b-day and my mom's graduation at the reception.  I have no problem sharing my "thunder" - as the show friends would call it. lol! Or should we not.  Suggestions/ideas please.

mmattoon

I think it's fine either way. Your band or deejay could make an announcement to say happy birthday and congratulations but it's totally up to you. If we had decided to have our wedding on my mom's b-day (we were strongly considering it), we would have made that announcement but I don't think my mom would have expected it or cared either way.

Bmore09Bride

I think that would be so nice!! 

tracy_k

I think it would be a lovely gesture -- and very much appreciated -- to recognize both your moms. The DJ could get folks to sing happy birthday, or just offer a round of applause.If you're not doing a bouquet toss, you could present your bouquet to your mom in congratulations on her accomplishment. My niece's birthday is three days before the wedding (she's a junior bridesmaid, and turning 10), so I'm planning to have some sort of recognition for her because I think she'll feel really special (she's also quite the diva, so she'll love being the center of attention just a little bit!).

kelrice81

I am in the same boat too.  We wanted to get married in May and unfortunately due to other bookings and holidays, May 15 was the only day that worked out.  Which is also my mother's birthday.  My mother warned me not to mention her birthday at all during the whole day.  Others have expressed that is a great way for her to celebrate her birthday in honor of her daughter's marriage.  I am up in the air...if anything I would like to possibly have the DJ mention her birthday.  Maybe dedicate a song?  

Lovie 129

That would be awesome! I would do it.

FieryIrishAngel

My wedding was four days after my BFF's 40th birthday.  She didn't get to have a big celebration, so at the reception I had them bring out a cake for her and everyone sang Happy Birthday.  I also had her birthday present and card set at her place setting.

smange10.10

I love the idea of honoring/congratulating them at your wedding.  I know this is a little different, but my Bat Mitzvah was on my grandmother's birthday and the day before my dad's.  We had a little cake come out for the two of them and sang happy birthday.  I think if you had a little cake (like a groom's cake) with Happy Birthday and Congratulations, it would be a nice touch.  And the DJ can say something before or after you do your cake cutting.

summer08bride

We got married on my dad's bday, so we sang happy birthday to him. He loved it and thought it was very nice that we honored him.

ajerome21

oh jesus, my brother is graduating the same day as my mom.  i thought he had another year left. lol!!!! That is going to be one crazy week!!!!! It's probably going to be really hard for my mom.  her oldest daughter's wedding (i am the first to get married), her youngest child's college graduation, and her own college graduation - within 2 days!   Did we choose the wrong date or what? lol. I think I will have the dj announce it and have a little cake come out for them (all three) and ask for a round of applause.should i do cake because we'll have a wedding cake there. maybe each get a fancy cupcake with a candle?

conchgirl

I like tracy's idea of presenting your mom with something as a show of how very proud you are...a framed family photo perhaps? Pictures of all her kids graduations with room for hers and your brothers? I think a large group of people singing 'happy birthday' can be so moving and special. i always get teary at big birthday lovefest

Joanis018

What I did for guests who had a birthday during the week of my wedding was get them a birthday card and have it waiting on their plates (we had a plated meal/assigned seats).  My wedding day was one of my BM's husbands birthhday, so to thank him for giving up his birthday to come to my wedding I had the bakery that made our cake make him a small one, and that was waiting at his seat for him.I also got a congratulations card for my aunt who had just graduated from med school a week or two prior and had that waiting at her seat.  The guests were really appreciative of the recognition and all of them were very thankful.