I got engaged Febuary 14, planning a wedding next year. I've been planning a wedding way before I even got engaged. My fiance' sister got engaged in December of last year and now all of a sudden wants a wedding in 2013 too. Great I think. (kidding) now everytime I turn around she's coming up with ideas that I already am planning with. Like a teal wedding, and wedding dates three months different..
I just want to know if this happens to other people or what? His sister is so spoilled she wants everything, seems to come up with the ideas I am using. I will be the one getting married first. So if anyone one also went threw this and how did you over come it?
Re: COMPITION??
Unfortunately, all you can do is make the best of it. You are in a better position if your date is before hers anyway. Just don't share any of your plans or ideas with her, and don't make your decisions based on what she does. It's up to you to be the bigger person and try to focus on you and your FI, because that should be all that matters.
I would just avoid discussion of your details with her. Even if a lot of things are similar, I totally wouldn't notice. No one will probably remember your wedding as well as you and your DH, so as long as it's at least a different venue, I wouldn't worry. And like tiffany said, it could work to your advantage!
Six of FI's college friends are getting married in a 4 month period this year AND we're getting married during that timeframe too. One is a week after ours. A lot of the same people will be at all of them. So it could always be worse!
Similar thing happened with me. My fiance's brother knew he was planning to propose to me and rushed out to get a ring and propose to his gf of a year, simply because he didn't want his younger brother beating him to the punch. We thought we would want a summer 2012 wedding, but when they set their date for 2012- we said forget it, we'll just wait until 2013. My fiance's brother is just like your fiance's sister in that he gets everything he wants- so we did whatever we could to avoid even the thought of it being a competition. We also avoid any wedding talk with my fiance's brother and his fiancee- it's not worth the time, or the anger if they ended up taking any of our ideas.