Confessions/Vents

MishGettingMarried

zulamay & MMRoberts11 thank you so much for your advice!!! 

I will definetly try out some of the places you suggested in the area. We know two people that live here, but aren't close to either.

I am going back to Michigan in August for one of my FSIL's baby shower. FI's younger sister is driving out here to visit us and is taking me back with her. Shortly after my parent's plan to visit (early september) so I should feel better knowing that I'm going to get to see my family plenty. 

I definetly don't deal with change well. I'm a very routine person and I need a routine to keep me comforatble. I think I just really need to get involed in a new job and build a new routine here in order to move on. It's nice to know that I'm not the only person who's gone through something like this. Thanks again for the advice ladies!!

emarston1

Mish - I grew up in Minnesota and came to MIchigan to go to college.  I knew NO ONE when I moved to East Lansing.  The best way to combat homesickness is to get acclamated to your new surroundings.  Learn your way around so you aren't constantly feeling that "lost" feeling.

My other piece of advice is just stop pining for home.  My roommate freshman year was extremely homesick and part of the problem was that she constantly talked about home, and would go home every other weekend.  She never allowed MSU to become her new home because she was too busy thinking about home-home.  On the other hand, I didn't have the option to go home so I just stopped thinking about it.  Once it got through my head that it wasn't an option to just go home when I felt like it, I started to feel a lot better.

But the overwhelming feeling is completely normal.  Hopefully your fiance is extremely understanding   And hopefully he's a great tour guide!

matuofm

Aw, Mish - I'm sorry things are so rough right now.  I don't have a ton of experience in this area, but I can back up what Meg just said - I was the girl who kept going home freshman year in college, and I never really developed that group of friends and family at UofM because of it.  It's really important to dive right in.  I'm sure that things will get better soon, but just know that the rest of us will rooting for you until then. 

To everyone who had dress ideas - thanks so much!  I'm going to check some of them out right now, and I've got an appointment at B.Ella's here in town on Friday.  I'll keep you all posted. 

larzhope

oh Mish!!! hugs!

I think you know I moved out to Seattle not knowing a soul.  My mom helped me move out, but it was just me and the pup after 3 days.  I cried the entire way back from dropping my mom off at the airport.  and had a very breakdowns my first few weeks of work.

Get involved... make sure you don't sit around the house.  Explore, put yourself out there (so so hard for me - but it led me to meeting FI!) and know that it's okay to be homesick.  I cried over a lot of really stupid stuff my first year here.  Just be patient with yourself, know that it WILL get better.  Liz's advice is great - if you put yourself in the mindset that Raleigh is your new home, you will get used to the idea much faster.  Now Dave and I dread coming home (but obviously still love seeing the fam).

MishGettingMarried

Thanks, Laura!!

Yeah, I'm doing a lot better now that all of our things are here and we are almost unpacked. I think that the idea that I'm more than just a few hours from home is really getting to me. Pat told me that if I wanted to fly home once a month for a few days it would be fine, but I told him I really don't think that'll be the case. 

Once I start working I'll be perfectly fine I just need something to keep my mind off of Michigan. THIS is our new home and to be honest, it's quite fantastic! The only thing I'm really missing about Michgan right now are the people, but I'll be able to deal with that in time no problem. 

larzhope

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[QUOTE]Thanks, Laura!! Yeah, I'm doing a lot better now that all of our things are here and we are almost unpacked. I think that the idea that I'm more than just a few hours from home is really getting to me. Pat told me that if I wanted to fly home once a month for a few days it would be fine, but I told him I really don't think that'll be the case.  Once I start working I'll be perfectly fine :) I just need something to keep my mind off of Michigan. <strong>THIS is our new home and to be honest, it's quite fantastic! </strong>The only thing I'm really missing about Michgan right now are the people, but I'll be able to deal with that in time no problem. 
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i hope there will soon be pics! i want to see the inside of that gorgeous house!

PhoneCardLady

Mom is driving me crazy.  I stopped in a local venue today jjust get prices and came home with the packet.  It was $33 for Fri/Sun and $35/Sat for all inclusive (including tax/tips).

"I" knew this was out of my budget but mom then started in on how my parents couldn't afford it, then started to make a "guest list" which included my four step cousins!  Excuse me, but I wasn't planning on inviting ANY of my cousins (I have 17 living just on one side) and most are out of state.

I wanted Dan to know that I had checked out the venue but unless we hit the lottery, this one is a positve no!