Confessions/vents 8/1

MMRoberts11

What do you have to share?

entropicbeauty

Confession: I am totally not into the wedding right now at all. I wish we had just eloped and forgone all this BS. I'm super stressed out with work right now and trying to get all the final details figured out is just adding more stress on top.

spartybride3

Confession: As I write out my thank you's, sometimes I really want to be honest and write "Hey thanks for not RSVP-ing to our wedding, showing up with 5 people, & not giving us a gift. We really enjoyed spending all that money on you!" 

or "Thanks for being the worst bridesmaid ever by not attending my shower that was 3 minutes from you. Its ok that you bailied on my bach party 2 days before because you were complaining about money, but then you bough a brand new jeep & posted pics all over facebook the same day. My favorite part about the wedding was when you sat in a corner watching the time so you could leave." 

I know I sound spoiled, bitter, and ungrateful, but sometimes you just gotta let it out. 

PhoneCardLady

I want to strangle my mom who thinks $7000 for a wedding is outrageous!  My mom said that her and dad could do about $2000, so that leaves $5000 between his parents and ourselves.

I'm not asking for the moon and stars by no means.  Isn't the average wedding about $25,000 or something like that?

My sister had 10 the first time, 20 the second and didn't have a lot of things.  That was her decision.  I should have the wedding "I" want and I say that not in a greedy and/or bridezilla way.

If my parents (and/or FI's parents) can help out, that's great but I am not begging them for money.  If I have to scale back then I will.

aloisk57

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-81-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:73693aaf-02f4-459f-8985-e89fb9d5ec34Post:3785f74a-fc0e-46c1-820f-f872a0f9a1a5">Re: Confessions/vents 8/1</a>:
[QUOTE]I want to strangle my mom who thinks $7000 for a wedding is outrageous!  My mom said that her and dad could do about $2000, so that leaves $5000 between his parents and ourselves. I'm not asking for the moon and stars by no means.  Isn't the average wedding about $25,000 or something like that? My sister had 10 the first time, 20 the second and didn't have a lot of things.  That was her decision.  I should have the wedding "I" want and I say that not in a greedy and/or bridezilla way. If my parents (and/or FI's parents) can help out, that's great but I am not begging them for money.  If I have to scale back then I will.
Posted by PhoneCardLady[/QUOTE]

No one owes you anything - plan the wedding YOU can afford.  Money from your parents is a gift and you are not entitled to it at all.  It doesn't matter if the average wedding cost is $100K - if you can afford $2000, that's what you use.  Who cares what other people are doing?

StephLove12

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-81-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:73693aaf-02f4-459f-8985-e89fb9d5ec34Post:6fa9cd70-ce24-46d7-90a6-163117094e5a">Re: Confessions/vents 8/1</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/vents 8/1 : No one owes you anything - plan the wedding YOU can afford.  Money from your parents is a gift and you are not entitled to it at all.  It doesn't matter if the average wedding cost is $100K - if you can afford $2000, that's what you use.  Who cares what other people are doing?
Posted by aloisk57[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div>

PhoneCardLady

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-81-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:73693aaf-02f4-459f-8985-e89fb9d5ec34Post:6fa9cd70-ce24-46d7-90a6-163117094e5a">Re: Confessions/vents 8/1</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/vents 8/1 : No one owes you anything - plan the wedding YOU can afford.  Money from your parents is a gift and you are not entitled to it at all.  It doesn't matter if the average wedding cost is $100K - if you can afford $2000, that's what you use.  Who cares what other people are doing?
Posted by aloisk57[/QUOTE]

Let me clarify - mom said they would kick in $2000.  IF his parents can kick in $2000 (but not counting on it) that means we only have to come up with $3000.

Do they owe me anything - NO and if they decide <strong>not </strong>to help I am ok with that.  What gets me is I mention a number and she gets all bent out of shape.

My sister had the wedding she wanted (and paid for), which was much less that $7000.  So if mine is more expensive and I can afford it, why shouldn't I??