BIG problem

kstirton

I am having a huge dilemma here and It's tearing me up inside! A have twin sisters - one of which I asked to be a bridesmaid and the other I shortly replaced with my fiance's sister. I replaced her b/c she was going through a difficult time in her life - just really unpredictable and I wasn't sure if she'd be responsible to make it and pay for her dress, etc. I realize how selfish that was now. I talked to her about being the guestbook attendant instead and she went along w/ my idea ... but has since expressed that her feelings are hurt that she won't be standing up there w/ everyone else. The bridesmaids have already ordered their dresses and there isn't an extra groomsman that my fiance can add ... and we are already up to 5 each which is already bigger then we anticipated for a wedding party. He brought up the idea of asking his sister to be guestbook attendant instead and putting my sister back in, but I can't stand the thought of demoting a bridesmaid like that. I feel like I won't be able to live w/ myself without both my sisters standing w/ me ... I need advice DESPERATELY! 

MrsF0831

you can have 6 and 5. you dont need equal sides at all

kstirton

How would you have them walk down? Alone? Or have the MOH walk alone so she's not at the end and everyone else has partners?

cinderella+red

I've been in a lopsided wedding and one of the groomsman walked in with two bridesmaids on his arms. It was fine

Meghannsix

First off, this is an odd board to post this, you'll get way more responses from the wedding party board, or moms and maids, pretty much any other board than this one.

Second, I'm sorry to be blunt, but you've really made a mess of this!  Guest books do not need an attendant, it is in no way an honor to ask someone to stand next to a book.  Your wedding party is not a set of props, ask those closest to you to participate.  Don't replace anyone who cannot participate, don't kick anyone out.  If they can't afford it or decide they don't want to be involved, they'll take themselves out.  Uneven sides is NO BIG DEAL.  They can walk individually, or in groups of two or three.  Honestly, your marriage will still be valid, no one will even care.  We are having two on my side and three on his, one of the girls I wanted is not available, and I can't imagine figuring out someone to be a place filler. 

misssunshine17

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[QUOTE]<strong>First off, this is an odd board to post this, you'll get way more responses from the wedding party board, or moms and maids, pretty much any other board than this one. Second, I'm sorry to be blunt, but you've really made a mess of this!  Guest books do not need an attendant, it is in no way an honor to ask someone to stand next to a book.  Your wedding party is not a set of props, ask those closest to you to participate.  Don't replace anyone who cannot participate, don't kick anyone out.  If they can't afford it or decide they don't want to be involved, they'll take themselves out.  Uneven sides is NO BIG DEAL.  They can walk individually, or in groups of two or three.  Honestly, your marriage will still be valid, no one will even care.  We are having two on my side and three on his, one of the girls I wanted is not available, and I can't imagine figuring out someone to be a place filler. </strong>
Posted by Meghannsix[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ditto this. You seem very concerned about even sides- these are people you're talking about, not props. 

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peachykeen26

Rush order shipping a dress or buy a used one and add her.

TexasTandJohnnyB

Uneven sides are fine. Have one of the groomsmen walk with two girls. Try to rush order her dress... or let hers be a little different. Mistakes happen, we all make them And, I disagree, depending on the type of guestbook you are going with, you may need an attendant... but this can usaually be handled by a younger person who you would like to include. I know for my wedding, I am having someone due this, and also hand out the programs and direct people where to go, since our wedding is outdoors. It's your wedding, do whatever you would like. NOWHERE does it say it HAS to be done a certin way. Best of luck to you!!

alhoffman10

My sides aren't equal.. i have 9 bridesmaids but my fiance only wanted 8 groomsmen.  This was really hard for us at first because we couldn't agree, 9.. or 8..? but then we realized we didn't need to decide.  He could have 8 and I could have 9.  We're going to have the bridesmaids walk in alone, and then, on the way out the last groomsmen will walk with two bridesmaids. (What man wouldn't want to escort two lovely women? )

It's your wedding - do it your way!

.. I think you should do whatever you want but put yourself in her shoes, I would be really bummed if I were her.  Anyway, if she flakes and doesn't buy a dress or whatever, then you are back to your original 8 and 8 so no problem!  I think you'd probably be better off asking her though, it might save you some wedding day-drama... but then again, I don't know you or your situation.

jencleary1

What's more important - your sister standing for you, or even sides and a matching dress?  

nostaw73

Why cant you have the twins walk with the same guy?  jencleary1 is right which is more important to you having your sister stand there or having uneven sides. Your guest are supposed to be watching you not counting your bridesmaids and groomsmen, it will be fine. Dont stress yourself out over this, get her a dress and call it a day.  Planning a wedding is way to stressful already dont create a reason to stress yourself out more.  Good luck.