Are bpics too risky?

anyalee

My boss saw some of my b-pics.  I was showing a few of the girls at work (3 of who went to have them done after seeing mine) and my boss wanted to peak.  My mom also helped me choose the photos for my album.  Boudoir pictures are not supposed to be nude.  They are tastefully done in lingerie or "implied" nude.  Nude pics are nude pics.  I'm less covered up in some of my bathing suits than in some of my boudoir outfits.  If they get in the wrong hands..yeah that stinks but there's nothing in there that you can see on the beach with me anyway.  And my FI is going to freakin LOVE them! 

foolforfood

I don't really think alot of employers would terminate an employee because of it. A lot of our industries are client-based.  Even if your boss is ok with it, what if our client isn't?  What if the client doesn't think the pictures are an exercise of professional judgement and ask that you are removed from the account? If your client has issues with your after work activities, I am 90% sure your boss' loyalty to you will be thrown out the window in favor of the client's preference.

Jaclyn619

I agree...I think I'm going to get them. I'm not so much worried about my work. If any one found them..as some of your said....it's not porn! They are classy - elegant photos of yourself posing for your husband!!! Also, A professional knows the risks of posting your pictures and know they will get sued, they make PLENTY of money of it - without selling them to the general public.

FtMrskram

If you are damn good at your job and doing everything possible for your client, do you think they are going to want you off the account because of a picture and risk everything on their end.If I found pictures of my broker, I certainly would not go running.  She is good at what she does...and that is all that matters!!!

EKobrenski

I think the point is that there is some risk associated with it, and some have more tolerance for that risk than others. As far as the work reaction: I 100% agree that they are usually really tasteful, but your 50 year old boss/client might not feel the same way.  Also, there is a degree of intimacy, independent of clothing or lack of clothing, there that I'm not comfortable with my co-workers seeing, if that makes sense.  I feel like I have a very different demeanor at work than I do with my fiance/friends/family.  Not sure if I'm along on this one?

Shazzie116

I have also seen many different styles of boudoir, some a bit more risque, some more demure, some more artistically styled. I think it comes down to personal preference of whether or not to do them, and how you choose to style and pose for them. Is there risk? Yes. Personally, I worry more about my family and coworkers seeing drunken debauchery pictures on Facebook that my friends have tagged me in.

Krystalynne21

Fool, I understand your point, but have to say this. If my boss were to somehow see a picture of me in a bra and underwear or a lace cami, its the exact same as them seeing me pose "seductively" in a bikini.  On the afterwork activity note...firing for someone taking b-pics would be a bit ridiculous to me.  If I am a drunkard, a drug addict, prostitute, criminal, by all means get rid of me.  But fire me because I took a sexy picture in lingerie? I have real issues with viewing that as constitutional.  If a boss fired every person who ever took a sexy pic, then probably 80% of the workforce would be out the window.

foolforfood

Krysta, I agree that bpics can be akin to seductive bikini shots.  But that doesn't mean that a boss should be privy to the latter. Also, aren't you a law grad?  Most of us are at will employees, which means that your employer can terminate you w/out cause, as long as the termination does not violate equal protection and due process laws (e.g. termination based on race, gender, etc).  It's awful, but it happens every day.

Wishin986

Especially if you don't post them yourself somewhere - I don't see why someone should worry so much about a boss finding the pictures.  You can ask the photographer not to blog them.  In the off chances they get stolen chances are the person who steals the photographer's photos isn't going to post your pictures with your name everywhere - it may not even be listed.  And the likelihood of your boss finding them after some creep who stole photos posts them is not likely because its probably on some sketchy site in which case they couldn't really admit they found them. I just don't see how work factors in.  If you give your husband a personal gift who cares?  Say if you bought something online to spice up your sex life like sexy lingerie -- that information is out there somewhere in their records and could get hacked into -- so there's a chance that someone could find out -- but its slim and who cares what two adults who are married do is up to them. Work is work in my opinion.  Your personal life stays out of it.  And most likely your boss isn't going to be doing enough digging around to find something that deep - and if they are that's a red flag to begin with.  I can see the facebook/linkedin thing to check people out - but anything past a straight google of a name would be pretty intense.  I personally haven't done them.  But work hasn't factored into that decision.  Maybe if I all of the sudden become famous or become a politician where there are people who's specific job is to find dirt on you - then I would factor it in - but right now its not an issue.

Krystalynne21

Yes, I am and I know that at will employees can be fired for any reason.  That being said, my comment about having a hard time seeing that as constitutional is that its a total double standard for men.  One could argue an equal protection violation here as well....if my FI took pics of himself in tighty whities and they were posted online by a photog, this would be a non-issue.  My underlying point was that any employer who is going to fire you for taking pictures where you are fully clothed should make sure their hands are clean.  Hopefully there are no pics of them in bathing suits floating around the internet, because as Erilou said....there's bits and pieces of it everywhere.  I just can't fathom anyone actually using that as their sole motivation to fire an employee. 

LucyD1029

A little late on this. I actually didn't expose anything in my photos, so I'm not too concerned about them leaking out. They would hardly tarnish my career as a scientist. My photographer did a great job. The photos were very tasteful and my DH loved them. Yes, he sees me all the time, but this was something a little different.

backbaybride

I think it depends on your career.  I am on the fence about doing these, but I think FI would really love them.  I work in finance.  But luckily our clients are large enough institutions that they do not have time to worry that someone analyzing their investments gave slightly scandalous photos to their husband as a wedding gift.