Sensitive Topic/ Question- LONG

RoxyRuby

I think this is pretty much covered and Court knows what to do, but I do want to add that I do think that the internet isn't a place to be expecting every one to support you or to not be harsh.  In general (and definitely not just this senario) there are simply going to be times where people tell it to you straight. There is a difference between calling names and telling some one they are being ridiculous, yes, but in that vein I know I would want some one to tell me I was being stupid if I was. And they have and I get miffed but in the end I know I was the one who put myself out there and I get a much more truthful perspective for it.

That's one reason why I like it here. There is a nice completely objective perspective to be had here.

teddygurl28

so i guess i can give a different perspective, i have a member of my wedding party that i know is trying to get pregnant, but we havent ever talked about it (and she is family) Yet i keep it in the back of my head and i keep pushing off looking at BM dresses because of it ( my wedding isnt until September anyways)  more so because i dont want her to be put out later down the line.
but i do have to say it does throw a wrench into the plans...as far as her being your MOH if she does happen to be pregnant right now and is around 7 mo. at the time, maybe another member of your weddng party will be willing to step up and help her with some of her duties.
i dont think you meant anything offensive as how can anyone not be happy about a friend being pregnant-but at the same time its already an overwhelmng time and its more news that you just need to take in and handle....i think your friend would be appreciative that you sought advice before going to her (as that would easily turn unpleasant)

i think like others have said, finding a different dress shouldnt be an issue-j.crew im sure will have something in the same color that she will be comfortable in, and everyones pregnancy is different, so she may want to wait to see how she feels and what she thinks will work for her.  just remember its still your day, but it shouldnt be hard to accomodate her as well

best of luck

LucyD1029

I haven't read all of the responses... 

DH and I are TTC and I wouldn't alter those plans for anything, including my best friend's wedding.  I think you're overly concerned with the dresses.  Getting pregnant can take awhile, so she won't be any more than 7 months along at your wedding.  I don't see that as being a problem at all. 

JCrew will let you return anything at any time, so she can always exchange her dress for another one.