Confessions?

mandybear7

I confess that I'm really annoyed with FI's aunt. She asked us several times over the past year of being engaged if we wanted her to do the calligraphy for the envelopes. We said yes and two months ago, gave her the addresses and envelopes. Yesterday, she told me that she still has 40 left, while we need to mail them May 10. She is going on vacation over the next week, so they will not be done next week, either. I really can't push the mailing of these back two weeks, so we are picking them up tonight and I'm going to do my best to finish them. I confess that I'm more upset than I let FI know because I don't want to appear as if I am bashing a family member.

Edit: I'm editing because I am super appreciative of what she has done. I truly am. I just wish I knew earlier than last night that they wouldn't be finished so I could have made better alternative plans.

temerityjane

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[QUOTE]TJ... that's slightly creepy. So, manguy, you really have NO idea what your wife's SN was?
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I think I feel like it's a confession because it SOUNDS creepy, but I don't FEEL creepy. I just haven't had anything to SAY.

BioGirl21

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[QUOTE]Biogirl - I have an idea of how you are feeling.  I have gained close to 40lbs and I have been feeling miserable but I recently started changing things in my life (food and exercise) and I am feeling so much better.   Food is my downfall and DH doesn't help the situation much.
Posted by Kasi80[/QUOTE]

Exactly! What is it with guys? FI knows I'm struggling(and he's not very healthy/in shape either) and yet he continues to make milkshakes and order pizza. He's driving me crazy.

miss.jawright

I confess I have been trying to lose weight for months, but I can't seem to quite drinking so it's not working at all. I have a hard time making it three days with having a drink. It's a problem.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I think I feel like it's a confession because it SOUNDS creepy, but I don't FEEL creepy. I just haven't had anything to SAY.
Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

Nothing wrong with lurking

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]I confess I have been trying to lose weight for months, but I can't seem to quite drinking so it's not working at all. I have a hard time making it three days with having a drink. It's a problem.
Posted by miss.jawright[/QUOTE]
I'm not trying to be snarky---but, isn't that "problem" that you speak of often referred to as alcoholism?

I confess to smoking again also. It's my vice. And, as bad as it is for me, I'm not even sure I <span style="font-style:italic;">want to</span> give it up just yet.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Funny story: Evie had supposedly stopped going on the knot but I hadn't, I just didn't mention it so she didn't really know, and one day she started talking about this debate she'd had with "her girlfriends" and all their different viewpoints etc, and I had just read the exact debate in the thread earlier that day. 
Posted by brosonhubman[/QUOTE]

That's actually kind of cute.  You should really talk to her about being on here tonight so you can post pictures and we can know who your wife is/was and get an idea of who you are.  It'd be cute to have a married couple on here debating.  ;) 

I'd love for T to post here.  I think he'd find it amusing and refreshing all at the same time. 

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]TJ... that's slightly creepy. So, manguy, you really have NO idea what your wife's SN was?
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]


TJ, that is surprising and interesting.

Kiki, he said he used to post with her SN in his other thread.  So yeah he should know what her SN is.

MISSCOURTNEY20

I confess that I don't know what KPS means!!

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? :I confess to smoking again also. It's my vice. And, as bad as it is for me, I'm not even sure I want to give it up just yet.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

I used to be a smoker but haven't been a regular smoker since quitting while pregnant.  I stopped all together for a while, but the past 6 months I smoke one cigarette after I put Jocelyn to bed.  I'd be so embarrassed to have her see me do it, or put any connections to me as a smoker.  And I just tell myself if I only smoke ONE cigarette a day, WTF is the point of doing it at all?  But I can't seem to stop. 

DanielleH910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I confess to smoking again also. It's my vice. And, as bad as it is for me, I'm not even sure I want to give it up just yet.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

I have been thinking about quitting lately but I just don't know that I really want to <em>bad enough</em> that I actually will stick to it. 

brosonhubman

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[QUOTE]I confess that I pretty much hate myself. I weigh 40 pounds more than I did a year ago. I hate the way I look in all my clothes and I'm glad all I wear most days are my uniform for work and workout clothes. FI says it because I'm stressed about the wedding(I am for sure emotional eating) but I worry there's something wrong with me. I actually told him a couple weeks ago that I wish I was pregnant because at least then I'd have an excuse for gaining weight.
Posted by BioGirl21[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Don't hate yourself for something as unimportant as your weight. If you're a biitch and a bad mother? okay.</div><div>
</div><div>Curvy girls are incredibly sexy. My wife is soft and feminine with an ass that won't quit and I would probably be a little disappointed if she lost weight. If you think there might be something wrong make an appointment with your doctor. Better to know than to wonder, right?</div>

Kasi80

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Exactly! What is it with guys? FI knows I'm struggling(and he's not very healthy/in shape either) and yet he continues to make milkshakes and order pizza. He's driving me crazy.
Posted by BioGirl21[/QUOTE]
Mine says he wants to lose weight but he does exactly what you just mentioned.  It's really hard to resist the junk food when it's right in my face.  I've gotten to the point that I am so unhappy with the way I look that it's time to do something about it.  I've been through this before.  I can have motivation when I want it but it's when I'm single and there's no one to influence what I eat. 

ndnikki06

I confess that I have no clue what KPS is. 

FutureMrsDudley55

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Don't hate yourself for something as unimportant as your weight. If you're a biitch and a bad mother? okay. Curvy girls are incredibly sexy. My wife is soft and feminine with an ass that won't quit and I would probably be a little disappointed if she lost weight. If you think there might be something wrong make an appointment with your doctor. Better to know than to wonder, right?
Posted by brosonhubman[/QUOTE]

I'm curvy and my FI loves it =) He makes me feel better about myself all the time.

FutureMrsDudley55

KPS = Knottie Post Secret

buddhagouda

I've pushed beyond curvy to bulbous. 

lizziemoopsc

I confess that I've gained weight to the point that I don't even fit into my wedding dress let alone feel beautiful in it. My drs can't figure anything out other than I'm "sick" (don't know with what) and that despite strict diet and exercise I probably won't be able to lose weight and if I stop diet and exercise I'm going to gain weight. I put a corset in my dress that I'll get back from alterations May 12, and I don't know what I'm going to do if it still doesn't fit. I feel like such a disappointment that I don't fit into my dress.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I'm curvy and my FI loves it =) He makes me feel better about myself all the time.
Posted by FutureMrsDudley55[/QUOTE]

This is how T is.  He saw a picture of me from high school and said if he met me and I was THAT skinny he'd have never, ever tried to date me.  He loves a nice bottom.....lucky for him I have a pretty big one! 

strawberrycrz

lizzie - If it makes you feel any better, I can't fit into my dress right now either.  I've gained 35 pounds since I bought it.

AlmostSt.Laurent

I confess that I keep the bottom drawer of my desk at work locked... I would really hate for a co-worker to open it and see how much junk food is in it. Haha! I truly don't have anything in it except for junk food. Sometimes I just get so stressed out here that I need to eat some comfort food.

lizziemoopsc

I just honestly don't know what I'm going to do in the 9 days between the fitting and the wedding if it doesn't fit. I'll feel like such a failure if I can't fit into my original wedding dress (that fit when I bought it).

ETA: but thanks, I just always thought I was the only one that has this problem, and everybody else either loses weight during engagement, but certainly doesn't gain any. I felt like I was the only one.

brosonhubman

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[QUOTE]TJ... that's slightly creepy. So, manguy, you really have NO idea what your wife's SN was?
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>I know what her sn is I just have talked about her a lot today and I should prob check to see if it's okay with her before I out her. </div><div>
</div><div>I would love to have her on here posting, especially when she's out of town. That would be cool. She's introverted though and after seeing a bunch of new posters get flamed she got trigger-shy last time. I'll let you know!</div>

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]I just honestly don't know what I'm going to do in the 9 days between the fitting and the wedding if it doesn't fit. I'll feel like such a failure if I can't fit into my original wedding dress (that fit when I bought it). ETA: but thanks, I just always thought I was the only one that has this problem, and everybody else either loses weight during engagement, but certainly doesn't gain any. I felt like I was the only one.
Posted by lizziemoopsc[/QUOTE]

Lizzie, you shouldn't feel like a failure, especially being sick.  You didn't "fail" at anything.

BioGirl21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Don't hate yourself for something as unimportant as your weight. If you're a biitch and a bad mother? okay. Curvy girls are incredibly sexy. My wife is soft and feminine with an ass that won't quit and I would probably be a little disappointed if she lost weight. If you think there might be something wrong make an appointment with your doctor. Better to know than to wonder, right?
Posted by brosonhubman[/QUOTE]

I agree, but there's a difference between curvy and fat. I would love to be curvy, I don't want to be stick skinny. I just want to get rid of the tire around my waist.
And I would love to go to the doctor, but I'm currently laking insurance, so that's a no-go.

mmdpm

I confess that I am little mad my brother and his girlfriend just told me yesterday that she is pregnant and due right around our wedding.  I know I only get one day and all but he's always been the one to get the attention and such from my parents despite never finishing college, getting into an truckload of debt, mooching, and the like. 

Just for once I thought I was going to be special and now it's already all abou the baby.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Damon!  ::swoon::
Posted by SnShne322[/QUOTE]

^ I agree with this.

lizziemoopsc

Both my mom and sister are stick thin, and my mom is constantly asking me if I'm working out enough, or why I can't lose weight, or why I needed to put in a corset in the first place. 

Thank you for the encouragement. I feel like it's all stuff I know, but something I can't bring myself to really believe about myself. If it were anybody else I would be saying (and believing!) the exact same things, but for some reason it doesn't count for me?

BioGirl21

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[QUOTE]I just honestly don't know what I'm going to do in the 9 days between the fitting and the wedding if it doesn't fit. I'll feel like such a failure if I can't fit into my original wedding dress (that fit when I bought it). ETA: but thanks, I just always thought I was the only one that has this problem, and everybody else either loses weight during engagement, but certainly doesn't gain any. I felt like I was the only one.
Posted by lizziemoopsc[/QUOTE]

My dress that I bought a year ago doesn't fit anymore. I purchased a new one about a month ago off David's Bridal's online store. It's one size bigger than my orginal and is precariously close to not fitting. It was sad to get a new one because I love my first dress, but I felt better getting a new one that was bigger than forcing myself to fit into my old one and being stressed about HAVING to lose weight on top of all my other stress.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I used to be a smoker but haven't been a regular smoker since quitting while pregnant.  I stopped all together for a while, but the past 6 months I smoke one cigarette after I put Jocelyn to bed.  I'd be so embarrassed to have her see me do it, or put any connections to me as a smoker.  And I just tell myself if I only smoke ONE cigarette a day, WTF is the point of doing it at all?  But I can't seem to stop. 
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

I know exactly what you mean---I'm not smoking nearly as much as I was over the winter, and I feel like I could walk away from them just like I did in January---but, I'm not sure I want to, so I don't. But? At the same time, I'm not sure why I bother doing it if I can limit myself to two a day, or something like that.

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I have been thinking about quitting lately but I just don't know that I really want to bad enough  that I actually will stick to it. 
Posted by DanielleH910[/QUOTE]

And yup, I am just not sure I want to give it up right now---so, even if I told myself I would walk away from them, I doubt I would stick with it. Not because I can't. But because I'm not sure I want to.