rude??

Heather8505

My fiance's mom is "kinda sorta talking" to his (my finace's) ex's dad.  Yeah.....  He does not come to any family functions, but we always see him driving up the street as everyone is leaving.  How rude/childish would it be if I asked that his mom's "plus one" on the invite is not that one particular person.  They are not technically dating and I just don't want ex's and ex's families at our wedding.  Plus, my fiance said it would not suprise him at all if his ex tagged along with her dad to the wedding just to be nosey.
Or....can I not include a "and guest" on his mom's invite??

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]My fiance's mom is "kinda sorta talking" to his (my finace's) ex's dad.  Yeah.....  He does not come to any family functions, but we always see him driving up the street as everyone is leaving.  How rude/childish would it be if I asked that his mom's "plus one" on the invite is not that one particular person.  They are not technically dating and <strong>I just don't want ex's and ex's families at our wedding.</strong>  Plus, my fiance said it would not suprise him at all if his ex tagged along with her dad to the wedding just to be nosey. Or....can I not include a "and guest" on his mom's invite??
Posted by Heather8505[/QUOTE]
I guess I kind of get why you wouldn't want ex's there, but not really. Just by virtue of the fact that this chick used to date your FI, you don't want her dad there? Please clarify why you don't want her dad there.

I'd say it's pretty rude not to let your FI's mom bring a date, and it's even more rude to try to tell her who that date can or can't be. If they RSVP with the daughter's name on there, have your FI call his mom and explain that the invitation was only for her and her date.

tpender13

You either offer a plus one or you don't. You don't get to dictate who the +1's can and can't be.

katiewhompus

I would hope that your Fi could talk to his mom and explain his reservations about the ex's dad coming. This is something he needs to deal with, not you.