J and I are having a discussion and we've come to a roadblock because we don't know the proper etiquette to continue. I have always wanted a VERY small wedding, and J has always wanted a large one (read: everyone from his church, which on average is about 200 people, not including my family). We had originally planned to just invite 100 people between the both of us, but my mom brought up the suggestion of an "immediate family only" wedding with a larger reception to follow, to appease us both.
I know from other posts on the board that this can be acceptable, but here is our question: what consitutes immediate family? I say just our parents and siblings and he says our grandparents and aunts/uncles/cousins should be included in that number. I'm not sure what the etiquette rules dictate and I don't want to offend anyone if this is what we decide to do. So...halp?
***raise your glass if you are wrong in all the right ways***
oh noes, sweetpea UPDATED her planning bio
Re: What constitutes immediate family?
One reason I say grandparents is at work we can get bereavement pay only for immediate family and their list includes grandparents, but not aunt/uncles, etc.
RAWR!
My Bio **Updated 6/28/10**
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Also, if we only do immediate family, are we required/allowed to give "plus ones" to the siblings? I know that J's brother's LTR girlfriend would need to be invited, but the others are all currently very single.
***raise your glass if you are wrong in all the right ways***
oh noes, sweetpea UPDATED her planning bio
~My Married Bio~
That being said, if I invited my grandparents to my wedding, and not my aunts and uncles, I would have never been forgiven.
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