guests dress code

Bubbalub

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: guests dress code : I am having a served cocktail hour with 11+ different hors dorvs (sp) and then having a buffet with 4 entrees, sides and salad bar and have decided to have an open bar with wine beer champagne and alcohol(dont kno what is considered top shelf exactly but we are having grey goose vodka, jack daniels, henessy, the regular club liquor I guess you can say) its a buffet but we are having servers serving at the buffet and replenishing drinks around the tables.... im not asking anyone to wear a tux and fancy dress I just dont want some guests to feel uncomfortable if they are under dressed like jeans and tshirts but i guess thats there deal if they are uncomfortable or not and I will try and emphasis that its semi formal on the invitations
Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Sine this is not a black tie affair here is what I suggest: DO NOT actually write anything on the invitation in regards to what to wear (like putting "semi-formal attire"). On your wedding website give a nice description with pictures of your venue and let the guests know if it will likely be very hot or chilly weather in case they need to be aware of either. Other than that, leave it up to the guests to decide what to wear. They are adults and have likely attended weddings before. They will wear whatever they are comfortable with.</div><div>

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noodle_oo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: guests dress code : I am having a served cocktail hour with 11+ different hors dorvs (sp) and then having a buffet with 4 entrees, sides and salad bar and have decided to have an open bar with wine beer champagne and alcohol(dont kno what is considered top shelf exactly but we are having grey goose vodka, jack daniels, henessy, the regular club liquor I guess you can say) its a buffet but we are having servers serving at the buffet and replenishing drinks around the tables.... im not asking anyone to wear a tux and fancy dress I just dont want some guests to feel uncomfortable if they are under dressed like jeans and tshirts but i guess thats there deal if they are uncomfortable or not and I will try and emphasis that its semi formal on the invitations
Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]

I would not consider a buffet a black tie event anyway.

BRITTANY143dsl

I dont come on here as often as I would like to so when I do is when I post so thats why I have 3 at once .. lurking gets tiring when everyones subject gives no detail about the post...I was thrown off by your post... so can you and how do you change your name? I see a few people put dsl with d*ck sucking lips and thats not a good name for people to think of you with lol and I still couldnt find what LL means...

opalsky007

Brittany, there's no way to change your username--you just have to set up an account under another email address.

LL refers to a troll (a fake poster intended to stir up drama) who was around earlier today.

BRITTANY143dsl

I dont consider it a black tie event either and never said it was but yea guests are going to wear what they want and if they feel embarrassed thats them! I havent made a wedding website yet but I will use all of your advice in what to put on there! thanks ladies!

missy68

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guests-dress-code?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0c83dbf5-943e-467b-9215-bcde541b20d3Post:c6a9fa36-fb33-479a-8bf6-2bc156ec5f65">Re: guests dress code</a>:
[QUOTE]I wonder if LL came back as BRITTANY
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

Too many words in her posts.

LDYGTR13

Opal - PM

LDYGTR13

BRITTANY, I apologize for coming off rude. It wasn't my intention.

Birdie1483

OP, one thing I've found myself doing is worrying about things that are outside of my control. I have to force myself to take a deep breath and tell myself it's out of my control, nothing I can do about it, so there's no use worrying.

I think the dress code is one of those things. Really, it won't ruin your wedding or the day if someone shoes up in khakies and a Hawaiian t-shirt. You probably won't even notice! You'll be so busy running around and wishing you could sit down and have a glass of champagne like everyone else. 

Meg1979

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: guests dress code : I am having a served cocktail hour with 11+ different hors dorvs (sp) and then having a buffet with 4 entrees, sides and salad bar and have decided to have an open bar with wine beer champagne and alcohol(dont kno what is considered top shelf exactly but we are having grey goose vodka, jack daniels, henessy, the regular club liquor I guess you can say) its a buffet but we are having servers serving at the buffet and replenishing drinks around the tables.... <strong>im not asking anyone to wear a tux and fancy dress I just dont want some guests to feel uncomfortable if they are under dressed like jeans and tshirts but i guess thats there deal if they are uncomfortable or not and I will try and emphasis that its semi formal on the invitations</strong>
Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]

Please don't do this.  You do not have to tell adults what to wear.  If they don't realize that wedding=amped up fashion then that's on them.  Choose a more formal invitation, but do not indicate any fashion requirements on it. 

mica178

OP -- I had one guest show up to the wedding in khakis and tennis shoes.  I didn't notice until I saw pictures from guests.  It wasn't a big deal to H and me, it might have been mildly embarrassing to the guest to realize everyone else was wearing a suit or dress.

Pick simple, understated invitations, put up pictures of your venue on your wedding website, and allow information to spread by word of mouth by telling your mother, FMIL and MOH that your wedding will be semiformal (or whatever).  Most of your guests will be able to figure things out.

J&K10910

Holy sig, Meg.

Ghoti

BRITTANY is your thread on chitchat inspired by this one?

LDYGTR13

OP, since Opal made me feel like shiit and because I'm not used to being considered mean, here; i used the search bar (below, at the bottom...) and searched "dress code" Here's what I found. Good luck with your wedding planning.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette?plckForumPage=ForumSearchSpecificForumPaginate&plckSearchText=Dress%20code&plckForumId=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9&plckCurrentPage=0

Ghoti

LDY, you are so not mean. Do NOT feel like sh!t. 

BRITTANY143dsl

LADYGATOR I wasnt using the search option I didnt even see that there was one..when I was lurking I was going threw page by page and didnt see anything with the subject of what I asked but thanks for showing me the search button it will make it sooo much easier on me! and now i wont have to post repeat posts lol thanks for apologizing Im sorry to if i came off rude i was confused and its hard to tell peoples personalities and jokingly via text lol

anayajami

Not that anyone cares but I think everyone is being rude!! I too have been confused when I read a post that says "Help"? what does that mean. I think we should ALL grow up. Brittany I feel your pain. There's my two cents worth. Now bring on the negativity!!

ahhhitsshannyn

Oh, thanks for the input. I am so grown up now.

Ghoti

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_guests-dress-code?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0c83dbf5-943e-467b-9215-bcde541b20d3Post:f3e831a9-b8d2-4829-925f-c9166241a8de">Re: guests dress code</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh, thanks for the input. I am so grown up now.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]
It's sad being a grown up. I miss having a cubby with my name on it. And playing 4-square. 

LDYGTR13

I dont think I'm allowed to play in this thread anymore. ::kicks dirt::

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]I don't even remember what most people wore to our wedding.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

This made me laugh because you're wedding was like last week.

See OP - If J&K can't even remember what guests were wearing. I promise you won't either.

salt78

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[QUOTE]Not that anyone cares but I think everyone is being rude!! I too have been confused when I read a post that says "Help"? what does that mean. I think we should ALL grow up. Brittany I feel your pain. There's my two cents worth. Now bring on the negativity!!
Posted by anayajami[/QUOTE]

Well thank goodness you came along to everyone straight. I think I can speak for all the women here when I say that my life has been enriched by your profound words of wisdom.

mkrupar

ZOMG a Salt spotting!!
::hugs::

salt78

HI, FRIEND!!!! *hugs*

aleighk1

Salt!! Congrats on babysalt!

salt78

Thanks, doll! Hopefully I'll have lots of good news after my billion upcoming doctor visits.

mkrupar

I miss you chica. YGPM

anayajami

?? I thought this was an etiquette board?

brookelynpaisley

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[QUOTE]ok I have been to weddings where its a formal black tie event super gorgeous venue decor etc then theres guests dressed all kinds of ways all kinds of colors some in cocktail dresses some in sun dresses some in jeans and a collared shirt some in slacks and a tie...how do you "SUGGEST" a type of attire to the guest so that nobody is extremely over or under dressed and that no one particular will sand out in the events photos?<strong> I dont want to be rude but my main concern is for the guests.</strong> I hate when I go somewhere under dressed when if someone informed me i could have wore something more appropriate. also my wedding is waterside I dont want people assuming its a casual outdoor wedding and come in shorts or jeans or something backyard party type...
Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]

I haven't read this whole thread after you told people not to post, but I wanted to point out that the bolded part is a lie. You're not concerned about your guests, you're concerned about your pictures, as evidenced by the sentence right before it.