Bride keeps flower girl dress?

StephBeanWed61502

I'm not really on board with all of this "ask her why she wants it" stuff - I get that the bride's request is a little weird, but since when is it appropriate to ask someone why they are choosing to keep property that they paid for themselves?  Besides, OP already tried that, and the bride gave her a vague answer, indicating that the bride isn't interested in sharing the inner workings of her decisions regarding what to do with her own personal property with the OP.  OP, get your panties out of that twist and leave the poor bride alone.

ggirl2001

Maybe she split the cost with another bride who is using the dress for her flower girl as well? Who cares? She's paying for it. I don't get the big deal over her wanting to keep it. I think its a nice gesture for her to even buy it. How about being grateful that she did that instead of complaining that she wants to keep it. 

StephanieM22

While yes it would be nice if she gave your granddaughter the dress she bought it so she doesnt have to. Since it upset you that you couldnt keep the dress what were your plans for it?

harpsdesire

There are multiple levels of strange going on here.

Bride doesn't usually pay for the FG dress, and definately doesn't usually keep it.

On the other hand, how upsetting is it that someone wants to keep something they paid for, and can't really be reused except for playing dressup anyhow?  Seems like not that big a deal.  If you really really want the dress, maybe offer to buy it from her/pay her back for it?

But really, I would chalk this one up to temporary wedding-induced insanity and just try to let it go.

toothpastechica

This thread kinda makes me laugh....seriously, who cares who keeps the dress...if the bride who PAID for it wants to keep it, let her keep it. If the flower girl (and/or her family) are that attatched to it, go buy the same dress yourselves, pay for the alterations and have her wear the one you bought, letting the bride know that you appriciate that she was willing to pay for it, but that they really wanted a dress the FG could keep.  I am having an hard time understanding why sending a small child on a plane by herself (since you mentioned none of her family can afford to fly) is a good idea in the first place. Who is going to watch her for the days before and after? A logical solution might be, don't send a child on a plane to be in a wedding as a prop since the family isn't going. Then bride can keep her dress, the poor girl isnt being used, the family is not out any money and the issue is dead.
 
Theres no right way to tell someone that they shouldn't be allowed to keep something THEY paid for that was for THIER weddding.