Nickname or knot???

youknowreno

My real name is Tiffany but was given the nickname Tiffareno by my grandfather (who has passed on) when I was about 5. Over the years it got shortened to Reno, which is what 90% of my guests call me. My fiance has NEVER once called me by my real name, and it would sound weird if he did.What is the etiquette on invites? Is it OK to have nicknames on save-the-dates?I want my fiance & myself to look back on the day & remember "US"...not a stranger named "Tiffany"...yes that is how awkward it will be to see my real name everywhere!Sincerely,Self Identity Crisis in San Diego!ps...his name is Ryan & we are having a destination wedding...hence the initials R & R...too cute...I know!!!

atobias1

I would think about doing Ryan to marry Tiffany (reno)

atobias1

or Ryan to marry Reno ( Tiffany)

lpstl

I go by a nick name too, we used my given name on the invitation but everywhere else we used the name people know me by.

Brie2010

We used our nicknames (Brie & Tim) on our save the dates, but will use our full names (Brieanne & Timothy) on our invites and wedding vows. Invites are more formal so I think you should use your full names.  STDs are more casual so I would think a nickname would be fine.

niffycat

I go by Cat. The majority of the people who know me do not even know what my full name is. So, on the invites, STD's and even during the ceremony I went by the name I was most comfortable with, and the one everyone knew me by.No one commented on how weird, tacky, etc it was and I was much more comfortable with being called Cat then by my full name (whenever anyone calls me that, I think I am in trouble, not a good feeling while getting married).

ffmaid

I would call it the marriage of Tiffany (Reno) Simpson and Ryan Millhouselast names  imaginary

nvdmeulen

I think you should have your legal name on the invites. and when saying your vows, is he going to say your legal name or your nickname? also (on a completely unrelated to you note), my mom and dad would be livid if I didn't use the name they gave me. my dad doesn't even like people calling my twin Tim, "his name is Timothy, not this Tim BS".

ggmae

Save the Dates: Ryan & Reno Invites: Tiffany "Reno" Lastname & Ryan MiddleName LastName

zippityb

I begged my friend whose married name became VanHouten to name her son Millhouse. Also, on video games, I always enter my name as Thrillho.

kdcwedding

Not to totally threadjack, but ggmae I love your new siggy pic - you look gorgeous!

twinkie757

I'm so glad you brought this up! When people say Nicole it doesn't even register that they are talking to me. I'd love to do all my wedding stuff in my nickname b/c FI's sister has the same name. We don't exactly get along so she makes me dislike Nicole even more than I did before. Anyways...I think for aesthetics I would use Tiffany on the formal invitations, but on the STDs use Reno. I would also use Reno throughout the ceremony and reception. If you're having an informal ceremony you could use Reno on the invitations, I don't think it would be bad b/c it would fit the feel of the wedding.

ggmae

kdc: Thank you!

robinmsw

My fiance has not gone by his given name since high school, and I have never called him by his given name.  After lots of talk, we finally decided to go by his nickname (Jay...from Jason) on both the STDs and the invites.  We figured that, since his last name is on it, people will know who it is.  Besides (like you said) Jason is not him, it's a stranger.  Granted, we're not big on etiquette and are doing what we want with everything.  But I would recommend going with Reno.  That's who you are and always have been.