At my dad's request (and because she's a hoot), I'm sending a wedding invitation to his ex-wife (he's still married to my mom, but everyone gets along and there's no drama). Two of my nephews are staying with Vera this summer, so I'm sending one invitation for the three of them.My dilemma is that Dad asked me to be sure to put "no gifts, please" on Vera's invitation. We don't want gifts anyway, and haven't done a registry, so I woud be fine with this--except that every etiquette book I've read so far has said it's tacky to mention gifts on a wedding invitation.I'm going to enclose a personal note to Vera anyway, mainly to subtly indicate that we do, indeed, wish she could come (she's a bit sensitive, and I want to make sure it's clear that her name isn't just on the invite because my nephews are staying at her house), so I am trying to figure out a delicate way to indicate that we're not trolling for gifts. Any suggestions? All the other invitations have been mailed, and here I am obsessing over this one!