Family MUD

kann2559

My bridal shower is on Saturday.  My sisters were frustrated that none of my dad's family RSVP'ed.  My older sister called my aunts on Saturday to find out if they are coming or not so they can plan for food.  They didn't want to bother me with any of this MUD, but my younger sister let it spill.  I have a bratty 16 yr old cousin, who I never see, talk to, talk about, or anything.  Since my grandpa passed away last year, my family hasn't gotten together or done anything.  For some strange reason, this cousin told everyone in my dad's family that my FI is having an affair (she's never even met him) and the wedding is off.  They all believed her, and so they assumed the bridal was off as well and didn't RSVP.  FI is definately NOT having an affair, and the wedding is still ON!I decided to just ignore her and the situation, or try to.  I just needed to vent about it, but I don't want to let my sisters know how much it bothers me.  She's an inmature high school girl who needs to make up things about others to make herself look better.  She is coming to my shower on Saturday, and I am going to kill her will kindness, even if it kills me.Sorry for the long vent!

sucrets4

If this is true, then how is it MUD?MUD = made up drama

mandysmear

I don't MUD means what you think it means.

NicoleSahara

sucrets, the MUD is what the 16-year-old started. I couldn't be nice to this girl. Who does that?

julie22685

I agree not to dignify her story. I would talk privately to her parents though because that is some disturbing behavior.

kann2559

My dad asked FI last night if he should call and find out who he's having the affair with.  FI wants to know if it's worth it.  My BM said we should all just go along with it at the shower and see what she says then.  I should tell them that I'm okay with the "affair" because he invites me sometimes.When my sister called my other aunts, one of whom is a nun, they actually told her not to lie and cover it up.  "Things like this happen when you least expect it."  They are now coming to the shower to "support" me. 

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

I'm sorry, but that's ridiculous. If your family really believes the 16 year old, is there anything you're going to be able to do to convince them she's lying? I would doubt it. And if that's the case, why would you want to have a shower where they're coming to "support you"? That would be awful. I would cancel it (or at least, tell those members of the family that it's cancelled). Putting up with that crap isn't worth a gift.

TheSaltyPeanut

Unreal! What a prize this girl is... I don't think I could even be in the same room with her, regardless if she is a relative or not. What a brat.

banana468

"Thank you SO much for telling me what's going on.  I really owe it to you for opening my eyes."If one of my 16 yo cousins did this, I'd laugh at them.   

kann2559

I told my sister that she should have told them that everything was true, no wedding or shower.  Then we wouldn't have to see them!  Too late for that now!  I can't ignore them since it's my shower, but I really don't think I can be nice.  I'm worried one of them will bring it up in front of FI's family, in which case I would have to say something! Her mom won't care.  She is very rude and probably thinks it's funny that her daughter made up this story.  My dad wants to call them, but I don't want anyone to acknowledge this ridiculous story.  I just want it to go away!

vallyhoo

You are a bigger person than I am. Normally, I follow the 'kill 'em with kindness' mantra, but in this instance I would not sit idly by. I think everyone pacifying her only encourages the behavior. For example, by her making up this story she was probably expecting a huge blow-out, but since no one is reacting she might get to thinking that she has to make up an even bigger lie in order to get the reactions and the attention she seeks.Best of luck to you dealing with this nitwit.

BecW2be

I would uninvite her and whoever believes her to the shower, and if they pitch a fit, uninvite them to the wedding. This is uncalled for, and her mother should be the one bitchslapping her instead of reinforcing this horrible behavior. WTF takes a 16yr old that seriously? Really. Good luck with this one. That's a great big basket of crazy.

kissybee

When my sister called my other aunts, one of whom is a nun, they actually told her not to lie and cover it up. "Things like this happen when you least expect it." They are now coming to the shower to "support" me.Now see, that's a whole other issue.  If it were me, and since your dad is clearly willing, I would have him call and say that "He's sorry they think so ill of his family.  He understands that they will obviously not want to come to either the shower or the wedding so he won't expect to see them."

thesuninherhead

I am wondering how she had such a convincing story? Does she know someone who she thinks is having this affair with your FI? Why would anyone believe her?