need honest opinion

oburrell

Hello,I actually want to know what is "correct" so all honest answers are appreciated. 1. There are a few OOT guests coming to my wedding. Some are coming Friday and some on Saturday. (the wedding is on Sunday) Do I have to greet them at the hotel or meet them there sometime before the wedding? (I don't have OOT boxes) 2. I planned on giving my DOC a guest list of who is invited and who RSVP'd. Anyone who is not on that list is not allowed to go to the reception. Do you think this is worth the hassle. TIA!

conanabanana02

2. I planned on giving my DOC a guest list of who is invited and who RSVP'd. Anyone who is not on that list is not allowed to go to the reception. Do you think this is worth the hassle. TIA! So...you'd have, like, a bouncer? O_o That does not sound very friendly. -->

ffmaid

1. No although nice not needed at all 2. uhm you talked to any guests that did not RSVP right. Because if their card got lost in the mail and they traveldd to your wedding you must still be hospitable and host them. As long as you have RSVPs from everyone this is not an issue nobody will crash

torontobride17

1. It's nice if you can do some kind of informal dinner for the OOT guests, but it's not required. Often OOT guests are extended family, so parents or whatever host something. You don't have to greet them at the hotel (that would be kind of weird). The OOT boxes are nice, so I think you're covered. Include a personal note if you can.2. Are you concerned that random people will crash your wedding? Or are you trying to punish people who were invited but didn't RSVP?

oburrell

About the guest list: Yes, we have and continue to keep calling people to find out if they are coming or not. And during those calls I had many family members tell me they were coming plus bringing people who weren't invited. I told them all about our space restrictions, but I don't put it past a few of them to still bring someone. I'm thinking I might tell the DOC to have the uninvited person wait and if there are extra seats, then they are welcome to join. I don't know what will happen if every seat is filled...

C W

1. No. It would be nice to visit with your oot guests before the wedding if you have time, but do it because you want to spend time with them, not because you 'have' to. 2. Do you really think people will crash your wedding? I think it would be weird to have to 'check in' with the DOC when going into the reception.

oburrell

I have told them and I'm hoping they listen because the venue can literally only hold 150 so it's just going to be SOL for any extras. I also do think a few people will try to crash because they are insulted they weren't invited.

ffmaid

Then do table cards Guests will be assigned specific tables and those not invited will have nowhere to sit and when they ask the DOc where to sit she can gracefully escort them out  

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

What on earth would you do if they brought someone? Just turn them away? I can't imagine being that rude, no matter how full the reception is.You will have some people decline, most likely. So, you should have room for an open table in the back where you could put extras who show up. If no one shows up, great. If they do, you're prepared. If you invited more than capacity already and are hoping for declines, you've got bigger problems than an extra person showing up (like 100% of your guest list showing up).Doesn't your DOC have better things to be doing with his/her time?

kissybee

I had many family members tell me they were coming plus bringing people who weren't invited. I told them all about our space restrictionsYou have to say - "YOU CAN NOT BRING YOUR friend/neighbour/mailman.  If they come they will not be sitting down, and I wouldn't want you to be embarassed like that."Also, I get what pps are saying about the messiness of the if-there's-room-you-can-stay plan, but I think it would be messier if invited guests have to leave just because they weren't early birds.

oburrell

Thanks for your advice. I didn't invite more than 150 people-I learned that from TK! I won't go and see the guests on Friday because I am working 1/2 day and I will be way too busy. As for the guest list I (or FI) will re-call people to make sure it's the invited guests coming and nobody else. I'll keep my fingers crossed and prayers going up. At least this is some advice I can pass on to future brides.

pumpkinpumpkin

I'm thinking I might tell the DOC to have the uninvited person wait and if there are extra seats, then they are welcome to join. I don't know what will happen if every seat is filled...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Fillers at a wedding, now that's classy.

aryl

We had some single elderly people that are bringing their adult child becuase they don't want to travel by themselves sometimes people have a reason for bringing an extra person.