Which is rudest?

tlv204

I had to look up and make sure rudest is a word. No wonder I don't have a teaching job. Anyway...which do you think is the worst? 1. Cash bars2. Gaps3. Dress requirements4. Not inviting significant others5. Asking parents for money6. Registry info in invites or other gift asking7. Other? I guess it's too late for me, but I'm just curious what others think is the worst.

LarissaAnn

Not inviting SOs. The rest may annoy me, but I can deal. You don't invite my husband, it's a dealbreaker.

sucrets4

2.  Gaps.  Because, imho, you're leaving your guests stranded and often they'll have to find someplace to go in between, and those places usually charge money.On #4, do you mean more casual sig others?  We're assuming all serious s/o's are invited?

anna.oskar

Not inviting significant others

ggmae

4.

MissSarah786

Gaps. Not inviting SO's when married or engaged is rude too.

Betsy Boo

Asking Parents for $$.. unless they offer.. you shouldn't ask.

tlv204

I mean not inviting serious sig. others. I'm going to vote 6 actually.  I don't know why it bothers me so much more, but it does.

ring_pop

If I had to pick... 4 or 3.But it's all in the execution, really.

bobbileighb

Not inviting significant others and then cash bar.

ggmae

I chose 4 because the others are laughable. 4 is just plain rude.

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Gaps b/c of the inconvenience to your guests.

suedoe

asking parents for money and not inviting SO's

Brie2010

2.  It just smacks of "our time is more important than yours and I'm unwilling to compromise."  I revoke this if there is a hosted event during the gap.3 and 4 I can see reasons for (black tie venue, budget concerns).  1 and 6 I hate, but I know there are areas where nobody bats an eye at it.  5 depends on the context.  If a parent has mentioned giving money before, it doesn't really bother me as a "hey, uh, so about that vague offer...can you clarify?"  But if we're talking Chelsea situations...no.

aerinpegadrak

I think that gaps, asking parents for money, and not inviting serious significant others is flat out rude, probably the last one most of all.  I think cash bars are a pain especially if I don't know about them beforehand, but not too terrible, and I wouldn't have known including registry info in the invites was a bad thing before the Knot.

ricksang

Not holding the door for someone when they are are walking right behind you.

MissSarah786

TLV, Tim and I have gone to 4 weddings in the last 2 years and all of those invites we got had registry info printed on a card inside the envelope. Based on that, we included registry info on a card with other info like hotels, addresses, and directions.

mocha beans

Not inviting significant others.  Dress requirements a close second.  All the others don't bother me that much, I've seen most of them and it never really bothered me until I came here.

SwedishChick2011

7.  Other - being invited to the ceremony and not the reception or vice versa - hasn't happened to me but that would be the epitome of rude

MissSarah786

What form of significant others? I invited my mom's second cousin (mom, dad, + 2 adult kids). Even though both of those adult kids were in college and had BF/GF, the SO's were not invited. I had never met them before, they aren't living together, and the kids were invited with their parents, not alone.

flutgrl1

2 AND 4

[Deleted User]

Not holding the door for someone when they are are walking right behind you.This happened to me last night and it made me want to commit a violent act.

kkchisholm

gaps

colleenspencer

They're all rude IMO except dress requirements.  If you are having a formal wedding I think it's reasonable to let your guests know that jeans and cowboy boots are not acceptable. Some things liek cash bars and registry info may be common practice in certain regions.  Asking parents for money is very rude, but depends on your relationship  with them.  Not inviting SO's for me is the worst of these offences.

ggmae

Coco - Good one! Just like on Masters of Reception. I would have been so pissed.

ricksang

This happened to me last night and it made me want to commit a violent act. It makes you feel so unworthy, doesn't it?

bobbileighb

7. Other - being invited to the ceremony and not the reception or vice versa - hasn't happened to me but that would be the epitome of rudeThis one is so true my boss was just invited to an OOT wedding and only invited to the reception and not ceremony.  My friend is wanting to do a ceremony for 40 and reception for around 100 all at the same location and I am trying to find a way to talk her out of this!

[Deleted User]

It so does. I also hate it when people make eye contact with you and you smile and they don't smile back. I think those people suck real bad.

veronabrit

cash bar (IMO)

tlv204

Yeah coco that's a good one. Definitely rude. I guess none of them actually bother me that much.  I kind of want to change my answer to dress requirements, but I didn't mean like black tie, I meant like you must wear a mask to enter.   Or maybe asking for money if it's clear they can't afford it.  I would think it was weird if DH weren't invited to somewhere, but I'm already going to 2 weddings in the next 6 months without him because he'd be awkward and I would rather spend the time with my friends for those particular events.  I think I picked registry info just because I've never seen it in real life.  Odd because gaps (which I still think are fine) and cash bars are very common to me. I'm bad at my own poll, I can't make up my mind.

eastunder1

I think not asking significant others and having cash bars are unforgivable wedding sins.  Everything else falls under the umbrella of facepalming and shaking my head.