Which is rudest?

ricksang

It so does. I also hate it when people make eye contact with you and you smile and they don't smile back. I think those people suck real bad. OMG YES! And then you feel like an a$$hat for smiling.

banana468

4 and 1 are really close.   I have to say that it would be a deal breaker if you invited me somewhere and not my spouse.  I'll suck it up and deal with 1 if that's 'the area' but I think it's beyond messed up to assume that I'm so into your love for your honey that I should leave mine home.I'm not a fan of gaps either but I know that in several circumstances it's really hard to manage them.  

ricksang

Okay for serious I think number 4 is the rudest.

Golfer'sLady

4. Not inviting significant othersThat's the worst for me. It's beyond inconvenient for guests, it is plan rude. Also high on my list are invites for the wedding ceremony but not the reception, or just the end of the reception but not dinner.

missy68

I'd say S/O being left out. FI told me at lunch yesterday he'd rather have a cash bar than no alcohol at ours. I about fell out of my seat. He was horrified to hear I had a dry wedding the first time around to save money. I told him I suspected there would be some beverages at our after party this time, and he said, "heck yeah, 'cause I'll be hitting up the ABC/Target/where ever you buy the booze"..... sigh - sometimes they need our help.

MeaghanandMichael

I think not asking significant others and having cash bars are unforgivable wedding sins. Everything else falls under the umbrella of facepalming and shaking my headcould not have said it better myself East... except to maybe gag a bit in my mouth again at cash bars