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veronabrit

yeah meth will eff anyone up. Once you go meth, it just ruins your entire life. easy choice indeed.

bbyckes

I' still friends with my first love (my son's father).  We dated when I was in high school.  He's a great guy and an even better father.  In fact, he is coming down to celebrate my son's bday and will be staying with us.  He and FI get along really well - I call them Laurel & Hardy when they're together.The other one married the chick he cheated on me with.  I will admit that the news stung a little bit.

3plus2=5

I can't say that my exH sucks.  We ended up not being the best partners for each other but he's still a good man and a great father.  We certainly have differences of opinion when it comes to the kids at times, but we manage to move past them amicably.  He's moved on, I'ved moved on and we both understand that.  There's no lingering feelings that either of us clutch to.Now, FI's ex on the other hand is just BSC.  She uses his son as a pawn and it just infuriates me. 

mandysmear

You know it Verona!  He actually just messaged me on FB a couple weeks ago.  He finally made it through rehab.  I guess he's been in and out a few times over the last 5 years or so.  Got a gov't grant (he was always soo smart) and started school at the beginning of sept.  So, that's good I guess.  I figured he contacted me to make nice as part of his 12 steps.

notquiteblushing

Eh my two most serious exes are great people.  We still talk a bunch and one of them is coming to my wedding.

Brie2010

My ex, who I was together with for 2.5 years, is just a huge douchebag.  He claims he's not going to get married until he's at least 45, then gets into serious relationships anyway and leads the girl on.  He also skipped my college graduation (towards the end of the relationship) to sail in a regatta.  He was just a jerk--he told me once that he was embarrassed to be seen with me in a swimsuit with all his friends and their skinny, hot girlfriends around.  Ugh.  I hate him so much.

NuggetBrain

I don't have an ex. I'm one of those disgusting people who's marrying her first boyfriend. Noodle's only got one ex, and while there was some wierdness at the beginning of the relationship (they had just broken up 6 months before we started dating) everything is super kosher now. We went to her wedding and she's invited to ours - she's a cool chick.

sarabellam

My ex-husband left me for my "best" friend. When they decided to get married, he had to balls to ask me if I would make their wedding cake. Most recently, he quit his job, moved halfway across the country, and still doesn't have a job. Going to be a bit difficult to pay your child support when you don't have a job, you fuckturd.

Audrey_03

My exH isn't totally awful. I just wish he'd get a job and keep it for awhile so I can stop supporting him -- which I'm only doing because he's my little one's dad and I don't want to put him in a position where he can't see the kid or spend time, etc. FI has been remarkably tolerant, but it's getting old and I know it bugs him. The job thing is a good chunk of why I left the ex in the first place. It's one thing to claim you're a SAHD, it's another thing when the "SAH" part means sitting around playing WoW, Fantasy Football, and looking at p0rn. It really wouldn't have been as big of an issue if he was cooking dinner once in awhile... maybe cleaning a little... grocery shopping... leaving the house... bathing.... little stuff that women who SAH can handle but apparently he couldn't. vent over. sorry.

cbkeni

My "ex" told everyone we were together even though I told him we werent really (we were "party partners", we were always together but we never went on dates, never bought presents for each other, never slept with each other) and he would get PISSED and start fights if he saw other guys talking to me. But while all that was going on he would take his ex girlfriend out to fancy dinners and let girls sleep in his bed with him. So he was basically cheating while he was in a made-up relationship..... Also when my fiance and I started dating we were all at one of our parties and he got drunk and kept crying on me and sloppily trying to kiss me in front of my new REAL boyfriend. Then when he found out my fiance and I slept together (I was a virgin till I met my fiance, despite "ex"s best efforts) he started IMing me ALL THE TIME asking me how the sex was and telling me he couldn't wait till my fiance and I broke up so he could try all these new positions on me.........just weird.

Bubbalub

My ex-H is a total douchebag. We were together for 6 years, met when I was 19. Well, I grew up, finished school, got a job, met new people. He couldn't stand that I wasn't a malleable little girl and went apeshit. He tried to tell me who I could be friends with (basically, no guys. Never mind I work in a male-dominated industry so most of my coworkers are guys), or go to lunch with. He would call me 50 times a day and freak out if I didn't answer or call him back immediately. He would follow me to work to 'make sure" that I was actually going to work and not to some random guy's house. I begged him to go to counseling with me and my counselor refused to see him after a couple sessions because he scared her and followed her home.In ended in a standoff with the police at our apartment when I had left him and was moving the last of my stuff out. He had a psychotic break and locked himself in the house with a lot of guns. He held me in the house for about 5 minutes right before that and I thought he was going to kill me then kill himself.Then he got taken to the psych ward, I got a restraining order and I went through a lot of therapy. Whee! All better now!Right before I started dating FI I was casually dating this guy (all after my divorce, of course). He still calls me, we are on friendly terms, a couple times a year. He'll tell me all about the girl he's dating and how he compares her to me and she'll never measure up. (Wha? Like I'm so freaking special.) Then he always asks whether I'm married yet. My FI hates this guy for that.

flamingo.love

My first college boyfriend was BSC....I never knew he was bi-polar until the day after he broke up with me.That night he took me out to dinner to meet his grandmother, got me flowers and basically treated me like an 18 year old princess. He broke up with me that night saying all sorts of horrible things that made me super insecure until I met FI.The next day he calls me, tells me he's bi-polar and forgot to take his meds....yeah...I don't fall for that stuff. I believed him that he had the medical condition but I know enough not to stay involved with a binge drinking bi-polar guy!

katiewhompus

Well...we lived with his grandmother for 8 months to save money, after the first 3 months I wanted out because the woman was bsc Alzheimers and mean as the devil. After listening for 4 months to how I suck and am the worst person on earth I told the ex that we needed to move. After 2 more months I told him that we would not be in the house by my birthday. 1 month after that she tried to kill my cat by taking her outside and putting her on the street (Very busy street, a neighbor found kitty and saved her for me. She said the lady literally carried her out, kitty scratching the whole way, and dropped her onto the road). At that point I told ex that the cat and I were leaving and if he chose he could come with. Demon came to work with me every day and I slept with the bedroom door locked.6 months after we moved into our new apt he decided that it was more important to be a good guild leader in WoW than have a job. I put up with paying his portion of the rent (1k/month working as a retail cashier) because "I just can't find a job, I'm working on it" until I finally said enough and kicked him out.And that's just the major stuff! I don't have enough character space to get into the mental games he played and the mental damage he did, as well as creating a lot of self esteem issues.