pearl necklace

jillzlee

My mom bought me a pearl necklace this past Christmas to wear in my wedding. I tried it on the other day with the dress and the earrings and the veil and it just doesn't look right. I feel like the necklace makes me look like Im playing dress-up. Should I suck it up and wear it? Or ask her if her feelings would be hurt if I chose not to wear it? I dont want to hurt her feelings.Thoughts? Ideas? TIA

nda_roxybabe

Could you incorporate it another way? Maybe wrap it around your bouquet...Regardless, I'd talk to your mom about it.

MeaghanandMichael

Why not wear it to your shower or rehearsal dinner? Or maybe you can wear it for just the ceremony, take it off later and tell her you wanted to be a bit less formal for the reception?

AmeliaMarie

Did you already have your dress when she gave you the necklace?  Maybe she just thought a pearl necklace would look good with anything and if you try it on for her, she'll see for herself that it doesn't work.

jillzlee

Roxy- Thats a great idea actually! I was trying to wrap it around my wrist but it looked a little wierd. Thanks!

crfische

I'd have to see pictures to give you an honest answer.

nda_roxybabe

Haha I was going to suggest wrapping it around your wrist but didnt because it doesnt always work.

Mrs.B6302007

Am I  the only one who giggled at the title?  ;-)

jillzlee

I actually did wear it to a shower and was contemplating the RD too. Thanks girls for your advice!

jillzlee

I thought the title was rather "catchy" myself!

jajph1974

Haha ... my mind is in the gutter.Anyway, talk to your Mom. Just tell her you don't think the necklace looks right with the dress and ask her if she'd mind if you wear something else. Better yet, ask her to help you shop for your wedding jewelry. Make a day of it. Mom's love that stuff. Good luck.

Pirata13

My first thought was wearing it to the rehearsal dinner as well. And I like PP's idea of having her go shopping with you for something new.

ExpatPumpkin

Something similar happened to me, but ON my wedding day... I had planned to wear pearls - necklace and studs - as they matched the broach on my jacket. On the morning of the wedding, my dear MIL came to my room and presented me with a wedding present from her and my FIL. A diamond pave necklace and earring set... The set was beautiful and I appreciated the present, but I already had the pearls planned out. So I told her that I'd feel more comfortable wearing the pearls during the day since they were more demure, and that I'd change into the diamond set for the reception. Since I wouldn't be wearing the jacket at that point, the pearl broach would no longer be an issue. If you look carefully at my bio, you'll see the change. If I hadn't worn them at all, it really would have hurt their feelings... So, is there anyway you can compromise so she doesn't feel bad?

megk8oz

I like the idea of wrapping them around the bouquet, or possibly just wearing her necklace for the reception or something ... I'd be able to give you a better opinion if there were pics. You shouldn't just "suck it up", I'm sure you can find a really good solution that makes everybody happy.Oh and, Expact, I honestly WOULDN'T have noticed before you said to look for it.

MissSarah786

I wrapped Tim's grandmother's pearls around my bouquet for the ceremony and then my MOH gave them back to her after that.