Donation in lieu of Wedding Favors??

BrookeDavisRon

I would like to make a donation in honor of my Grandmother for ALS in lieu of any wedding favors for the guests.  Is this tacky?  Or should I make a donation as well as a small wedding favor?  Unfortunately money is tight, but the last thing I would like to do is make a major mistake in front of close family and friends.  Thoughts?

kmmssg

Ditto Mrs. B - perfect (as usual).

LesPaul

Ditto Mrs B.  Well said.

jamm2019

I have seen this done before...The way the person did it was they put a nice little note card on the table.  They didn't say in Lieu of.  They just said that a donation has been made in your honor.  Im sure you could elaborate on that.  You could make the note card in your wedding color's.  You dont have to do another seperate favor.

kbmeow

"  Instead of giving you a gift for your wedding  I am donating the money to a charity of my choice"  "Ps although I say it is a gift from you.  You name is nowhere on the donation. "  How would you feel about that given to you in a card on your wedding day?  You can do small inexpensive things.  Like buy a few bags of hersheys kisses  wrap them in Tulle from a craft store and add a colored ribbon .  I know the craft stores do coupons.  And a roll of tull ribbon is maybe $5  ribbon .50.  And almost everyone eats chocolate

michelle142

We did this - I made cards that read: "In honor of our guests, we have made donations to St. Judes Childrens Hospital and (local cancer research hospital) Thank you for sharing our special day" I attached the cards to Caramel Apple pops with some ribbon. Some people are against the whole donations as favors thing, but both of these things have greatly helped our families. So we saw it as another opportunity to give back.

IrishBrideND

Its tacky to announce it. Do it , but don't tell everyone you donated. Favors aren't necessary so don't worry about that part.

ffmaid

I think a donation in honor of your late grandmother is lovely. When it crosses the line into tacky is when you announce that it is in leu of favors. If you put in the program Bride and groom have made a donation to ALS in honor of Grandma R who can not be with us today then you are fine. When you try and claim it is in any way related to favors it crosses the line into preachy and self congratulating

MamaKin

if you must announce it, a note in the program is more than enough. you don't need a note on everyone's place/table telling them you donated in THEIR honor. it shouldn't be "we took the money for your favors and gave it here", even if that's exactly what you did. like others said, favors are unnecessary, you don't need an excuse of why they aren't present. people read the program, i agree with putting a note in there.

tidetravel

Agree w/ pps.  Although this charity is important to you, there are charities that are controversial.  Giving anything "in lieu of favors" on "in your (guests) honor" is telling guests that THEY donated to YOUR charity, perhaps unwillingly.A note in the program is enough.  You don't need to AW it to everyone present.  I also agree that small favors that tie into your charity is a cute touch.   

tidetravel

Stage - I don't think you're in the minority here at all.  If anything, you are the epitomy of doing it "the right way."

esteej9

I am considering doing this also for my "favors." I have looked around and found that some charities will send you cards to place on your tables when you send your donation.

MadamePiranha

diasagree with mrs b. I find edible favors tacky - reminds me of a baby shower not a wedding. I'd rather have money spent towards a good cause than a stupid cookie I likely wont eat or leave at the table after the wedding. If you girls feel a donation to a charity is wrong, your bridezilla tiaras are on way too tight.

kmmssg

Sounds like piranha is going the donation route, announcing it and is getting a bit defensive.