Just Kinda Down...

bbyckes

I need a hug.  I really do.  It's just be one of those weeks where not a whole lot has happened, but none of it has gone right.  I don't know if you've ever felt like that.  I miss my close girlfriends.  I haven't made many connections here and I think it has finally taken a toll on me. FI and I don't even feel like friends anymore. I'm just really sad.  He doesn't understand how I feel and so I've just been keeping these to myself. I'm not a complainer or a whiner really, but I just feel so lonely right now and I'm just reaching out.  I'm not expecting you to understand, but I just needed to get this off my chest.

DanielleLovesZach

*HUGS FROM TEXAS*I'm sorry that you are feeling down & I really hope things get better for you. I know everyone has felt the way you're feeling once or twice in their life, especially me, but things will turn out the way they are meant to

kschwedic

I know how you feel.  I've had a horrible week.  I've been feeling borderline depressed.  It's mostly just an overload of stress I'm having to deal with and I'm not handling it so well.  And people are just generally ticking me off these days at work. I have been here for a very long time, but I don't have many close friends.  All of my really close friends have all moved off while I've stayed behind.  It's hard to talk to FI about it sometimes, because he doesn't really get it.  And I have snapped at him a few times this past week and he doesn't understand that I'm just tired, stressed, and upset.  But I'm hoping that a weekend of relaxation will get me out of this bad mood.   I hope everything starts to get better for you And you don't look a hot mess in your siggy pic

ggmae

I felt this way when DH was deployed and I felt like I had no one to talk to. In my mind, no one would or could understand and so I just kept all of my feelings to myself.I'm sorry that you are feeling so down - things will get better, but I know it's hard to imagine that at the moment. If I could, I'd give you a great big hug! Hang in there.

TnJBonnell

Well heres a **HUG** I know how you feel. I've gone through this too. I moved from Miami to New Mexico and I miss my friends so much! Especially now, I'm planning a wedding so far away and none of my bridesmaids are here, so they can only do so much from 2,000 miles away. =(I hope things get better for you. Just keep positive and keep your head up!

bbyckes

It's hard to talk to FI about it sometimes, because he doesn't really get it. And I have snapped at him a few times this past week and he doesn't understand that I'm just tired, stressed, and upset.It's this, exactly.I appreciate the hugs, I really do.

missamory

I am sorry you feel bad. I miss my girlfriends too. I think I know the feeling- We moved to a new state in July. I feel lonely a lot. But I am kind of a loner. Though I do miss my girlfriends. I hope you feel better. I asked my hairdresser out, if that makes you feel any better? I made a hair appt and she was really cool and i slipped her my number. it is weird making friends at my age. (i am 30) we have hung out and are going out tomorrow, so far so good:) work has been a place to make friends for me but now i work from home.it is 7.45pm on a friday night and fi is still not home from work, i am having a cocktail ALONE.it does get old.good luck.

anna.oskar

Cheer up Beautiful! The "down" times ill help you appreciate are the wonderful "up" times to come.  If you need to talk, feel free to shoot me an email at anna.oskar @ yahoo.

LesPaul

::hugs::  I've felt like there's a dark cloud over this week too.  Layoffs coming at work, but we don't know how many or who, and DH is gone to visit his Mom until Monday.  I have so much to do to get this house ready to sell, but I don't want to do a single thing all weekend.  And my stupid dog ate StepSon's camera, so now I get to buy him a new one.  Super. Try to have a good weekend, Capri.  Next week will be better!

angelandlibby

big HUGS and you look awesome in your new pic

ann&cesar

Awww, it will be okay. /hug I kinda get how you feel...a lot of my friends moved away for college so I don't go hang out with girlfriends that much. Sometimes it really bothers me because I feel like I have no friends and I just mope around the house. :-/ Maybe rent a good girly movie, get some yummy ice cream and give yourself a pedi for a pamper yourself night? I'm sorry you feel this way.

Bubbalub

Big HUGS to you Cacoffer. I totally understand. I really hope things turn around soon and you start feeling better.

sucrets4

Oh, honey, I totally understand.I've been annoyed with DH just because I get so moody and gross feeling at night and I hate that feeling.  I'm lonely, too...only 1 of my friends here knows that I'm pregnant.  I'm slowly getting to be better friends with people from work, but we're not telling anyone else.I also hate that I'm over a thousand miles away from home while growing this baby.

sarah0725

*big hug*I've missed a lot of news lately - did you recently move to be with your FI?I totally get how you feel - sometimes one just gets down and it is hard to explain why, and a lot of guys don't seem to know how to respond to it because there's nothing to go and fix exactly. At least FI has trouble when I get this way. He's been listening to a lot of crap lately because between missing him terribly, making it through the semester, and trying to deal with whatever is going on with my parents, I've been pretty down. But those are my problems...Hopefully you will start to feel more comfortable soon. In the meantime, there's always P&E.

bbyckes

Anna Oskar thanks for the offer! It is hard making friends after 30 I think.  I'm all awkward with it. Maybe I should try the hairdresser route.  I volunteer at my son's school, neighbor's aren't really that friendly, and I was a member of a book club that disbanded  - all in hopes of meeting new people.  It's resulted in a big fat zero thus far though.  I keep trying to make friends and try to stay positive.  ksch and les paul - very sweet, ty

punkyb2b

I know how you feel.  Ive felt that way many times over the past few years (and in the past when moving around).  It sounds like you need a "date" with FI.  Play a board game, cook a meal together, throw a dance party with you and FI, roll the naughty dice :)Sometimes I go to Barnes and Noble and get a starbucks and read for hours.  Sometimes it makes me feel better just being around people.Tomorrow is another day.  It hasnt happened yet, think of all the potential it has :)oh and I was gonna write in the annoying TK post that I like your new pic.  You look really pretty in it,and you and FI look adorable.

sucrets4

Oh!  I forgot the most important part!:::big hug:::

bbyckes

Sarah, we moved to GA from CA a little over a year ago.  I'm still adjusting, I thought I would've been fine by now.  I'm still working through things.  Yeah, FI gets upset because there isn't anything to "fix" and I get frustrated because I don't need him to fix anything, just to listen and kinda be there, ya' know?

J&K10910

I know how it feels.  I'm going through sort of a funk myself right now, and I understand it sucks.  And FI just doesn't get it.  I wish there was something I could say or do to make you feel better, but all I have is I'd give you a hug if we lived closer!

scoetto

Chin up, sexy lady!

punkyb2b

and ditto on making friends after 30. everyone i know has babies or is living the sleazy single life. Its an awkward life phase. Its hard too (for me)shuffling between 2 different cities.  Volunteer in more places,  host a parent night at your house, throw a meet and greet with the neighbors?

bbyckes

Punky, thanks!  But, that's David Alan Grier, not FI!!! That made me laugh... thank you for that.  DAG is one of the actors from In Living Color from back in the day.

bbyckes

::hugs to you all as well::One great big P&E group hug.

J&K10910

Making friends SUCKS.  I'm recently out of school, and I've never had a problem making friends.  Now I'm in a new city, not in school, unemployed, and have no friends.  I can definitely sympathize with everyone who is making new friends. 

missy68

Capri, I so get the part about missing girlfriends.I feel like I haven't even truly had girlfriends in many years. I thought I did, but I'm realizing we've grown apart. I've become so introverted and shy over the years, it's very hard for me to get out and meet people without John. I'm scared to - plain scared to. And I'm so bitchy sometimes; I don't even want to be friends with me.I just fessed up (that doesn't sound right; we were just talking) some crap I did before I met John, and I really thought he was upset about it - he wasn't, but it upset me, because it reminded me of some awful decisions I made in my past. I think its something in the weather....(((((((((hug))))))))))  (((((((((((hug))))))))))))

sucrets4

ca - I remember talking about this last year since we were in the same boat.  It sucks, but I am so grateful for P&E and the 'friends' that I have made on here.  I really do consider a lot of people good friends and you guys certainly know more about what's going on with me than some of my NY friends!

notquiteblushing

Hugs from me too!I really know how you feel.  I used to feel like I had so many friends and lately it's just FI and me most of the time.  I would say try joining a club but that would seem meaningless as I haven't really tried that myself.  I hope you feel better.

saschaduran

Big hugs. I know, it is hard making new friends. It's hard for me to feel really comfortable around people until I have known them for a long time,so the early stages are always awkward. It sounds like you are trying different approaches though, so that is good. There is actually a thing in Vegas called Girlfriends or something of the sort where they throw dinners and such for women who are trying to make new friends. Maybe they have something like that there to meet other women in the same situation that are new to town.

kschwedic

It's hard for me to make friends right now, too, and I'm only 21.  I think it's because most people my age are all wild and living completely different lifestyles than I am--I've been working at the same place full time since I was 18 and I just started going back to school last year.  This past April, I moved out on my own.  It sucks sometimes because all of the people my age are super carefree and are still able to go out and have fun because they have their parents that they can fall back on.  But then, when I think about how their life is and then I look at mine, it makes me SO happy because I feel like I'm really mature for my age (although I do have my moments) and I KNOW what it's like to be out in the real world and they don't. I guess that explains why the few friends that I DO have are so much older than me.   (sorry for going off topic a little, but y'all's comments on having a hard time making friends made me think of that)

sarah0725

GA to CA is a huge move, and I'd imagine a bit of a culture shock! I can see how that is hard.I know I'm only on here at certain times what with being busy, but often even when I'm not posting I'm lurking, and I'd just like to add to the big group hug in this thread. This has been a really lonely semester for me, especially in the last few weeks, and knowing I can come and hang out with you guys has kept me going in a lot of ways.

bbyckes

Sucrets, yes, I do remember.  I remember talking about this last year since we were in the same boat. It sucks, but I am so grateful for P&E and the 'friends' that I have made on here. I really do consider a lot of people good friends and you guys certainly know more about what's going on with me than some of my NY friends!You've captured my sentiments exactly.