Just Kinda Down...

sucrets4

katie - we clearly need to have a gtg and get lunch or dinner sometime.  Even though I'm an old fogey, lol.

LesPaul

I know what you mean - almost all my friends are co-workers.  I just don't know how to connect with other women sometimes.  But I do enjoy all of you!

kschwedic

I was going to say the same thing, Danielle

bbyckes

Missy, I feel like I've gotten shyer too since moving here and I don't like that side of myself.  I am usually outgoing and talkative and I just feel like I've changed and I'm not liking it too much.

mmdpm

cacoffer I feel your pain.  Hugs from Missouri!  Making new friends stinks and FI hates it when he can't "fix" me.  But sometimes you just feel "meh".

sucrets4

ca - that's just because you're not comfortable.  I'm SOOOO different with new people.  In my little lunch group I'm pretty shy and quiet.  With my older friends, I feel like I'm completely different.You're still the same person inside, you just haven't had a chance to use that side of your personality in awhile.  Don't worry, I'm sure it's still there! 

sucrets4

katie - what's your schedule like?I'm staying after school on the 27th until 5 and Bryan teaches that night, so we eat dinner separately.  If you're around, wanna meet up for dinner?  Senor Picante maybe?

ann&cesar

Not to steal a thread....but I totally know how the 21 year old PP feels. Im only 21 too and I have a hard time making friends my age since I live a quieter lifestyle than the average 21 year old. Yaaay for old fogie 21 year olds!

kschwedic

The 27th is a GREAT day for me! I'm stuck in classes on Monday nights, but that's a Tuesday so it would be great.  And I live right here in town, so that definitely wouldn't be a problem.  And I loooooves me some Mexican food

blenderdance

Hugs...and I completely get it.  I haven't moved recently, but my best friend recently moved to Spain, to a boat no less, so phone is basically out and internet is spotty at best, so communicating with her has sucked. A couple weeks ago I was super b*tchy with DH...we got in a couple nit-picky fights.  He finally said, "What is this really about, because I don't know what I've done.." and I completely broke down sobbing.  I ended up saying, "I just miss Kim.  I can't vent about you to you...I hate not having her around."  It is tough not having close girlfriends nearby...the fact is that you talk about different things with them than you do with DHs/FIs...

sucrets4

Woot!  It's a date, lol!Senor Picante is one of my fave places to eat in Lonoke.  Do you have my real email?  If not, write to me at sucrets4 at aol and I'll write ya back from my real one.

kschwedic

It's the only decent place around here anymore, that's for sure.  I don't know if I have it or not.  I think I took mine off of FB, but it's katielynn188 at gmail dot com

missy68

Capri, yeah ..... mine's partly a result of losing that "barrier" I'd always had, partly just moving away from my comfort zone.Problem is, I've moved bunches. I haven't lived near true girlfriends in probably 12 years. I moved back to Charlotte, and one by one, they moved away/got married/had kids.At 41, almost 42, I shouldn't care, about fitting in, should I??Sometimes I feel so sorry for guys, when we're in our "basket case" modes, you know? They want to swoop in with a literal (or figurative) hammer and nails, and "fix" what's wrong. When we want to talk, it's so hard for them. Then I just want to smack 'em and say, DAMMIT! Hug me, stroke my hair, and tell me you love me - that's what I need!!!! Our brains just aren't wired the same way. And, I'm rambling.......

bbyckes

Sometimes rambling helps.  I feel a lot less alone right now.

Moneypenny424

I completely understand how you feel--it can be such a lonely experience.  Hugs from Boston and I hope you feel better soon!

MeaghanandMichael

I am late to this but I wanted to tell you I am sorry to hear this as well. I feel really displaced from my girls as well and I know how hard it is to do without good old fashioned hen fests. Anyway, just give it time. I know it feels like so much time has passed already, but sometimes the best thing to do is nothing. You will get through this. ::hugs::

Moneypenny424

And I should mention that that feeling is the main reason I haven't been looking for jobs in a lot of places.  I know that you find friends in random places, but until then, it can be so tough.