Orange Post It Poll

temerityjane

This is a poll about your individual feelings. There are no points awarded for the "correct" answer, nor are there any points awarded for making others feel as though their answers are "wrong." There are also no "cool points" awarded in any case. So, you know, please be aware of that.The background: Recently Buddy and I started hanging out with another couple on dog park dates. Buddy works with the male of the couple, and they are men, so they talk about stupid stuff. Come to find out, the reason the female of the couple was giving me the cold shoulder recently is because I go against her moral values.- Said male is not permitted to watch porn in the house, because she feels it is against her moral values.- Said male "takes matters into his own hands" in extreme secret because she doesn't approve of that.- I go against her moral values because I accompany Buddy to strip clubs on occasion which not only go against her moral values simply because of what they are, but I specifically am non-moral because I watch/allow strippers to touch my fiance.The poll is as follows:What are your general feelings on each of these items:- Your significant other watching porn- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsRemember that when answering these questions that answers along the lines of "I don't get why anyone would even CARE" don't make sense, because some people obviously do care. We are having a lovely Friday, please don't give me a sad by beating down others for differing opinions.I like to add lots of poll disclaimers, here is the last one - Don't be butts.

diva1397

- Your significant other watching pornOk with me!- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"Also ok, but he actually doesn't do it- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalI would be uncomfortable with it unless I was there as well- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsI would try it once...always been curious

louisvillebride21

- Your significant other watching pornI don't care-prefer him to watch it with me though, that way I get in on the fun too- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"Again, don't care in the slightest. I don't plan on stopping once we're married, so why should he? I would hope it would decrease a little though, since we'll be living together vs. LDR- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalKinda falls into the 'why would he want to'? But I'm assuming there are nicer strip clubs than we have around here. I'm cool with it if I don't feel like he would get herpes just walking in the door.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsIf we find one that doesn't creep me out, I would totally be up for going.

J&K10910

- Your significant other watching porn I expect it.  It doesn't bother me in the least.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" I'd rather he do that than screw another chick.  Doesn't bother me.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general Strip clubs are fine.  I'd rather not have him in the "VIP room," and I don't like the "strippers" that come to your house/hotel room/etc.  They make me a little nervous.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs  I've gone once, I wouldn't mind going back if he wanted to.  But it has to be a nice strip club, not a hole in the wall.

mandysmear

- Your significant other watching porn don't care as long as he's not wasting a significant amount of money on it.  free porn's cool.  he barely has time anyway.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" i don't care.  if he was doing that and then declining sex when i wanted it then maybe we have a problem.  he's a 20something guy.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general i don't care.  - Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs my H and I just went to a strip club a few weeks ago.  it was my bosses going away lunch that lasted 12 hours and we ended up at the strippers.  it was a blast.  we sat on perv row and threw loonies together.  came home with 4 posters and a magnet all dedicated to "Mandy and Mike (insert dirty joke here) Love, stripper's name"We threw the posters in the garbage, but we had a blast getting them

brittjoy84

- Your significant other watching porn - As long as we are having a  healthy sex life, I do not care- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" - This is normal and healthy for everyone- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general - Eh, for special occasions I am okay with it. I would not want my FI to frequent the strip club- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs - We have done this and it was fun, I wouldn't make a habit out of it.

gkb0910

- Your significant other watching porn I have no problem with porn.  I see it more as entertainment than a vehicle to turn a person on, but if he wants to watch it, go ahead.  Random porn story: We used to have cake and porn parties in college.  Only rule-no white frosting.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" This is something I think all guys do.  He doesn't broadcast it, but I'm certainly not going to tell him to stop.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general I don't like the idea of some other woman in FI's face whether it's her job or not.  I don't want him to go to strip clubs.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs I don't know if I'd go with him or not.  I probably would just so I could see what it is I don't like the idea of.  FI isn't really into strip clubs anyway, so I don't see this coming up.

Nebb

- I know he does and I dont care if he watches porn. He doesnt do it often so its no big deal in my mind. I like naked people, he likes naked people. - I know he does, Im not sure how often or when but I know he does. I also have no problem with it because I do it too. - He has never shown an interest in it, but I dont think it would bother me if it was once in a while. If it was a regular habit I would start getting annoyed. - As much as I like naked people, im not really interested in being in close quarters with them.

Trifury2007

The poll is as follows:What are your general feelings on each of these items:- Your significant other watching porn - No problem with it at all.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" - No problem with it at all.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general - No issue her either.  It isn't where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home. (My sister's best advice to me.)- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs - Not really a lot of interest there but not due to any moral reasons just not an interest.

ac_in_dc

What are your general feelings on each of these items:- Your significant other watching porn -No problem as long as it doesn't interfere with our sex life.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"Same as above- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalNot crazy about it, but I'd be OK if he wound up going occasionally- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsHe hasn't expressed interest in going since we met. I'd probably go with him out of curiousity (I've never been) if the opportunity came up.

mandapanda78

Manda's stance on:- Your significant other watching pornAll for it. Both with and without me. Actually, we subscribe to Sugar DVD, which is like Netflix but for porn. It's awesome.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"FI travels ridiculously and almost always without me. The man should starve himself? Same goes if I fell asleep before him. Or,  you know, whenever. - Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalI'm not a fan of strip clubs personally and neither is FI. But if he wanted to go I wouldn't care. I certainly don't feel that my relationship is threatened by strippers.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsIf he asked me to I certainly would. I appreciate the female form as much as he does and I think we could certainly make a date of watching some boobs together. He would LOVE if I got a lap dance and I would totally be willing to do it (if he paid, heh)

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

1. I don't really care if he watches porn. Which he knows. But he still tries to hide it, which is what annoys me. If I don't care, why hide it? It makes me wonder what else he's hiding (even though I know he's not hiding anything, and he's not very good at hiding the porn watching). 2. I think that's healthy for both people. Sometimes we need some alone time. Now, if he were always choosing that over being with me, I would have issues. 3. I don't like the idea. I don't know if I consider it cheating, but I would be pretty upset if he went to a strip club. 4. IF he was going to go to a strip club, this would be the only way I would feel semi-okay with it. I wouldn't be left to wonder what's going on, and hopefully he would be respectful. I went with a former FI once, and he left me to get a lap dance behind the curtain. I found that to be disrespectful, and honestly, it was the beginning of the end.

ricksang

Your significant other watching porn We watch together, but I don't care if he watches alone. - Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" I don't not allow my H to do what he wants so he has free will, No need to sneak around. - Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general My H works at one but I would not be happy with him getting lap dances. - Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs We have gone to a couple togther. It's kind of boring.

MeaghanandMichael

- Your significant other watching porn: don't care, I know he doesn't any more really since leaving college. We actually watch together from time to time.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" again, don't care. I love our sex life. If he needs to do that I am totally fine with it. He feels the same about me, which does in fact probably happen more than him doing that.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general I can't say this is my favorite thing but I really would never protest. I know H isn't ever going to do anything. He got a lap dance on his b-party. I guess what makes me uncomfortable was more the other guys were so over zealous. They got rub and tugs. UGH.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs Not my cup of tea but if every one was going for a Jack and JIll I would def go without hestitation.

panda&squishy

- Your significant other watching porn -- no problem, we watch it together sometimes. - Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" -- he can go for it if I'm not in the mood. - Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general -- sketches me out a bit, not gonna lie, but he doesn't go them so it's all good. If he did I would be bothered that he's "wasting money". I am 100% opposed to lap dances. - Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs -- maybe someday if they ever stops sketching me out.

missy68

Your significant other watching pornEh, go ahead. It makes me laugh; they're mostly pretty goofy.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"I'm okay with that. I must confess; finding out about it made me feel inadequate, but I understood (I'd been sick for a while).- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalGo for it. He knows he can go if he wants to. Not so keen on the lap dance thing - that's a lot of money with someone all up in his face.  However, I don't see it happening anyway. The one thing I drew the line at was the "Bunny Ranch" in NV when we were out there.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsI might. I've been before, with my all-male coworkers. It was highly amusing. It was amateur night (seriously - I could have gone up there) in a tiny town in southern Arkansas.

LarissaAnn

- Your significant other watching porn *Fine - Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" *Fine - Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general *Fine (but no touching) - Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs *See #3

LarissaAnn

I also would never shun anyone for their choices in this regard.

txmom21

What are your general feelings on each of these items: - Your significant other watching porn I'm not ok with it. Porn was the beginning of the end of my first marriage.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" Like others, as long as it doesn't affect our time together, I don't guess it matters. - Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general Not ok with this either. Same reason as the first one. Thankfully, it's not something he's interested in, so I don't worry about it. - Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs Since he wouldn't go, I don't have to think about. But for the record, I wouldn't go.

Mrs.C-To-Be

- Your significant other watching pornHe doesn't watch it, so I can't really say...but I don't think I would care- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"I know he does it every once in a while, and it doesn't bother me.   - Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalHe's not too big on this either (kind of goes along the lines of porn), but I don't mind if it's a random guys night out, or for a Bach. Party.  I wouldn't really like it to be like an every day thing.  That is borderline addiction, IMO.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsI feel a little out-of-the-loop, but I've never been to one.  Given that, I would go with him for the experience.  I think it would be kind of fun/funny.  Maybe I'm weird?!

georgia_bride09

- Your significant other watching porn: the only time he's watched it since we've met has been with me, at my request, so clearly I don't mind.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands": he claims that he doesn't need to do this, but if he does it undercover in the shower or whatever, I don't care. If you need to rub one out, you need to. End of story. - Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general: I wouldn't have a problem with him going, but he feels that it would be disrespectful to me and thus, doesn't go anyway. We've even dropped some of his friends off before and gone and picked them up. - Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs: As I said above, it's more him than me that doesn't really go for it, but if he wanted to, I'd be down for it. I honestly think that we have a mutual respect for each other, and if the situation ever arose where one of us went to a strip club due to a group event, it wouldn't be a problem. My husband could go tonight and it wouldn't bother me, and the only reason it would bother him if I go is because he sort of has low self-esteem. As if I'd leave my perfect husband for some random stripper with a better body than me.

goheels05

- Your significant other watching pornas long as we're watching it together, I'm fine with it.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"have at it, Hoss.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalWould be fine with it, but he doesn't like strip clubs.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsAbsolutely, if he were into it.  My boyfriend's fraternity in college went to a strip club for someone's birthday and brought all their girlfriends along.  We had a blast.

cengle

- Your significant other watching porn: not a problem, as long as he's not doing it when I'm in the same room; that might be annoying. And as long as it's not affecting our sex life- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands": No problem at all.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general: Honestly, I'm not thrilled by the idea, but if it's only occasionally, such as for a bachelor party or something, I'm okay with it. If it was a regular occurrence, that wouldn't be cool with me.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs: I've never been to one, but I would be willing. 

alixzafiris

- Your significant other watching pornNot an issue. It's just tv.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"Also not an issue. It's normal.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general.I go to them on occasion, so he can too. He has no desire to and has never been to one, but I don't have an issue with it. - Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs.Haven't done it with DH but I've done it with exes. Don't have an issue because in general, it leads to a fantastic rest of the night. And they usually have cheap beer and good wings.

ootmother2

- Your significant other watching pornHe didn't watch it often I didn't care one way or the other- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"Hey, he's a guy- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalwith friends out after a game or at a bach party no problem at all.  I would wonder if he was going alone on his lunch time- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsI never did with my ex.  I did go to a strip club on the way to the beach with an old boyfriends and a couple of his pals.

calle28

-Your significant other watching pornI'm torn on this one and not quite sure how I feel about it. I don't think my husband does, but I know he has before. What we watch affects our thoughts and our thoughts affect our actions. I don't really see it as helping our marriage and I don't want to take the risk of it hurting our marriage somehow. -Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"No problem with this whatsoever. He grew up thinking it was wrong, so he feels guilty when he does it. I tell him over and over that there is nothing wrong with it. -Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalFor a special occasion, like bachelor party or birthday, I'm ok with it. But if he went just to go, I wouldn't like it at all.-Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsI wouldn't do it. I have no desire to go with him and I'm sure he has no desire for me to go with him.

cmhershey

What are your general feelings on each of these items:- Your significant other watching porn It doesn't bother me at all.  As long as it doesn't become a serious addiction.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" HaHa again doesn't bother me.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general I'm fine with it.  Its not like H goes all the time.  - Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs I've never been to one, but wouldn't balk if H asked.  To be honest I'm kinda curious on what they're like.

SarahSmile23

- Your significant other watching porn  A-Ok with me!- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands" I wish he did it more often. It would make my job easier.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in general He never has. i tried to make his gm take him to one for his bach party, but the jehovah's witness gm said no so they played video games at his house instead. fail.- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubs. i'd do it!

kschwedic

- Your significant other watching pornI don't mind it as long as our sex life is okay.- Your significant other "taking matters into his own hands"Have at it.- Your significant other going to strip clubs/strip clubs in generalHe's not into it- Accompanying your significant other to strip clubsI might if he asked me, but he's not into it, so...

ricksang

OMG I just got the take matter into his own hands thing. Yeah, I don't care.

ac_in_dc

He grew up thinking it was wrong, Calle, my DH is the same way. He didn't rub one out 'til he was 21 (I think he may have already lost his virginity at that point). Unbelievable. Luckily, he's had plenty of years to get over whatever guilt was instilled in him as a child.