For the bored- BSC on the Bump

lilgina64

This post just set my biological clock BACK about 10 years.... seriously, my uterus hurts

Mrs.C-To-Be

How come it's always people like this that have a shiit-ton of kids?You read my mind.

SarahPLiz

Umm. so the new kids get to call the new dad "daddy" but everyone else calls him Robert and she wonders why her kids are confused. WHen they get older they are going to have serious issues with her and their soon to be siblings because thier daddy lives with them and the older kids dads do not live with them. I come from a family that blended when I was in college, but my little sister was 8. SHe calls my dad "daddy" and my step-dad either "poppa" or "Mr. Adam". His grandkids from his first marriage call him "poppa", so we all picked up on that. I do it too sometimes. Point being, maybe there are different fatherly type names she can use to differentiate without confusing. *****Another pet peeve is that she is letting her children address an adult by their first name without the proper prefix of Mr., Mrs. miss, etc. My XBF's little girl has been calling me Miss Sarah since she could talk, (she is 6 now) and he wouldn't imagine having her call me just Sarah. Its a sign of respect. Apparently she has none... for hersef, her children, or any of her husbands.

kate51485

SarahPLiz -- I think that may vary somewhat by region?  Growing up all of my friends and I called each other's parents by first name, at their request.  However, where I am now, I've noticed more of the Mr./Miss First name.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Holy crap! Someone can't see the forest for the trees. She has way more problems than her freaking 22 month old twins calling the male figure in their lives "daddy." You already have 5. You don't need IVF. Bingo! I also agree with Expat. WTF does she need more kids with husband number 3? And boy, does she work fast. I wonder if she got divorced while she was still pregnant. Which is why she's getting married this time while she's pregnant. At least he'll still be around when the baby arrives!

SarahPLiz

Maybe so, Kate. Sorry if I spoke out of turn on that.

Mrs.C-To-Be

Another pet peeve is that she is letting her children address an adult by their first name without the proper prefix of Mr., Mrs. miss, etc. My XBF's little girl has been calling me Miss Sarah since she could talk, (she is 6 now) and he wouldn't imagine having her call me just Sarah. Its a sign of respect. Apparently she has none... for hersef, her children, or any of her husbands.I don't fully agree with this in regards to family.  My step-mom was in my life from the age of 5 to 23, and I called her Katie.  Never Miss.Katie.  I was brought up to be very respectful towards adults, and have always been taught to use yas ma'am, no ma'am, and so forth, so I 100% agree with manners and using the proper Mr, Mrs, Miss, etc, but when it comes to family and someone you will be living with and sharing a family with, I would say I think the rules differ, IMHO.

kate51485

SarahP -- you're fine!  I didn't take offense to it, just was pointing out that it may not be the norm.  I'm curious to hear other people's habits with this, too.  I lived in a really close neighborhood growing up which was my family's main social circle, so I'm sure that it differs from other situations.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Another pet peeve is that she is letting her children address an adult by their first name without the proper prefix of Mr., Mrs. miss, etc. My XBF's little girl has been calling me Miss Sarah since she could talk, (she is 6 now) and he wouldn't imagine having her call me just Sarah. Its a sign of respect. Apparently she has none... for hersef, her children, or any of her husbands.I think that varies by region. There were very, very few of my friends parents we would address by their first names. And their kids would address my parents by their first names. I can think of, like, one example right now. But mostly it was "Mrs. Jones" and it was certainly "Mrs. Jones" until they said differently. And even then, I might not be comfortable with it.It's pretty common to address step parents by their first name. But at first I thought her kids were addressing their father by his first name. Which I think IS disrespectful.

SarahPLiz

Like I said before, I am sorry if I spoke out of turn. We always used the title Mr, Mrs., or Miss, Aunt, or Uncle, for any adult we encountered, and that was common practice where I grew up. Heck, I even called people Aunt or Uncle when they werent related at all because they were close to our family. My other point stands, though. She should expect her kids to be confused and resentful if they each get to call a different person daddy. The ounder ones will wonder why the older ones call the husband RObert instead of Daddy and the older ones may be resentful of the fact that someone named Daddy lives in their house but it isnt their daddy. There are so many other names, pop, poppa, father, etc that she can use for each of them... but then again they are always going to be confused because she has had 3 husbands..

Mrs.C-To-Be

SarahPLiz - I think I was typing my original comment when Kate posted hers, and I didn't see it, so I wasn't trying to get you with a double whammy.    I agree with everything else you said though.

ootmother2

FUBBa new meaning to who's your daddy!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Oh wow.If you read all the comments, you'll see that ex-husband number 2 left her 14 months ago and moved in with some other woman. This girl doesn't know what her daughters call this woman and ex says he "keeps her away from them." HUH? I'd sure as hell know/meet/be comfortable with whomever was going to be around my 22 month old kids.

blenderdance

And to add to pp--husband #2 says it is not serious with the gf he is living with.  Um, I don't know, but I usually think of living together as more than just a fling...particularly when your 22 month old kids are going to be coming over.  Poor kids.

bbyckes

Sadly, this chick is on my club board.

[Deleted User]

nobody needs ivf. it's a blight on our society.

jamm2019

My daughter calls her pre school teachers Miss. XXX she has 3 of them.  For my friends she either calls them example.  Aunt Tina, or just Tina or Uncle Jeremy or just Jeremy...When I was growing up I always called my step mother by her first name.I also wanted to add that this women does not need anymore children.  What is she thinking?