Ok, who IS here...

amazg

I live in Bay City... I am not a ture fan of either Spartans or Wolverines But if I had to pick it would be Wolverines only because my dad went there. I went to CMU (i'm a special ed teacher)

sarah0725

Woohoo! Fuckwit fuckwit fuckwit.I think that I would maybe be more hesitant to bring things up when we were together so as to not spoil our time together, hence causing issues. Does this happen? It happened a lot when we first started our LDR. I was sad all the time about missing him, and feeling pathetic about it, and wanting to talk about our issues but freaking out about spoiling our time together, etc. After a while I realized we would have to get over that. It's come gradually, but I think we're in a good place now where we really communicate well with each other. And every once in a while, we have a visit that doesn't go as well, but I don't let it bug me because all couples go through cycles of being more or less happy with one another. I think we've learned a lot about ourselves and each other doing this.

J&K10910

Apology accepted Joy.  In all fairness, I asked for lurkers towards the time it was winding down, so a lot of them probably didn't even see that!LDR fighting was the worst.  You're right, it would be a tough choice, because I hated fighting with him over the phone (I never felt like it was resolved because we couldn't hug.  To me, a hug is essential for ending an argument.  Plus I always felt like he wasn't really listening to me on the phone.), but I didn't want ruin time together either.  We had a pretty crappy LDR towards the end, he sucks at talking on the phone and it made me really angry a lot.  I don't know if we would have survived another year of it, I was getting pretty fed up.

sarabellam

J&K, I have your basic 12 year-olds fascination with swear words. Add to that the fact that I cannot say these words at work (teachers are frowned upon if they swear in class, especially those who teach the superintendent's grandson), and I can't swear at home because I don't want my spawn to hear/use those words, and my only outlet is P&E.

amazg

Oh i forgot to answer POP soda sounds weird to me

kate51485

Hmm...to be perfectly honest, Jay and I are both VERY stubborn.  We sometimes have totally different ways of getting there but we usually reach the same conclusion.  During the "getting there" we may stumble over each other a little but it's nothing major.  I'd say give or take maybe once a month we get in a "fight" where we actually disagree on something -- probably when I'm PMSing. As far as doing the distance thing, we've done it so many times that I think we've figured out how each other responds to different things.  He knows when I'm feeling needy, I sense when he's ready to get off the phone, etc., so we usually are able to avoid bickering on the phone.Fische, sometimes I feel that way when he's home for the weekend, like, he's only here for this amount of time so it has to be perfect, but I found that putting that kind of pressure on myself actually led to more spats than if I just let things flow.  That was a very good realization to have.Amazg: I'm from Okemos.Joy: You can also set it to send you an email each time there's a new post to the thread.  That's usually what I do.

rhodesign

Greetings party people in the place to be!Just woke up, and we're trying to finalize our play list for the wedding. Then I need to shower, go to Walgreens, and get ready for my rockin' b-party today! It's an all-day affair starting with bowling at 3, then dinner and lingerie party (with margaritas!) then more fancy cocktailing, then dancing the night away! I'm gonna party like it's 2001 (when I turned 21). =)Hi lurkers! *toasts*

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Sara - I do love your swear words. Fucktwit is a fun one.

J&K10910

That makes perfect sense, Sara!Rho, that sounds like a great b-party!  Have fun!

squirrly

About surrendering the bed to FI - he was super nice last night & put up with my very drunk BM (we all went to dinner & a comedy club and she got trashed FAST).  She ended up having to stay here last night and her husband came to get her about 45 minutes ago.  After all that, I figured he deserved to sleep in. 

rhodesign

Thanks!It's unseasonably nice here today. high of 68! crazy! Maybe I can wear my dress without boots and tights tonight. =)Fishy--how hard is it to learn to golf? I keep telling FIs dad to take me sometime, but he says I have to try a driving range first. psh! whateva! I can rock it. maybe. probably not.

AdeleDazeem

Refreshing inside the post doesn't seem to work for me.  It keeps routing me to the May 2011 board.  Weird.Thanks for the all helpful advice, though!  Can I just throw a curse word out there for fun?  Biitch.  Nice.

SarahSmile23

i'm here!!! today is a great day. one of my best friends (spower5) is getting married today AND the breeder's cup classic is today. i'm pretty much on cloud 9!i can't freakin stop sneezing, though!ooooh the cats are chasing each other through the house. run sophie, run!random enough for you?

sarah0725

Oh man, golfing. FI took me to a driving range once, and he was awfully frustrated by the time we left, especially by the fact that being bad at any sport that involves hitting something with another thing always gives me fits of the giggles.I am surprisingly good at shooting guns though. I never expected that would be true.

AdeleDazeem

oh, I just want to say hi to Sarah0725 (I think those numbers are right).  When you first started talking about your fiance and said he was a skater, I honestly thought he was a skateboarder.  I clearly didn't read well.Then I saw he was a speed skater, which just made infinitely more sense to me.  That's a pretty cool sport.I'm also a graduate student (but I'm nearly done) so I feel your student pain.  I really like your new siggy picture and I'm in Philly.  Phew.  (I swear - I don't stalk you)

WildRumpus

I guess I could've answered the fight question-we really don't fight that often. I can think of maybe 4 major fights (yelling/crying) in our entire relationship. We get snippy with each other once a twice a week, but we're generally pretty laid back.

singing_sea

I'm here! My husband is golfing right now It's too cold outside for me though or I'd be with him.

squirrly

FI and I fought a lot when he first moved in.  Not so much now.  Most of our fights are about 2 things - either WoW (we would play together, but really he'd just wander off and not say anything OR he'd drag me into situations that were over our collective head & I got tired of dying all the time) or how much stuff we have/where it is/etc.  The house was pretty full (and fully furnished) when I lived here by myself.  Merging our stuff made it crazy full.  He randomly just wants to throw my stuff away if he doesn't know what it is, how often I use it, etc.  I don't really play much WoW anymore, and we've thinned our stuff a lot so we don't fight so much anymore.

crfische

Golf isn't the easiest sport to learn, but it is a sport you can suck at and still have fun. Most people on golf courses suck at golf. True story.My friend is in an LDR and she totally dodges dealing with issues befcause she doesnt want to ruin their time. ANd I kind of want to puke when she says it. So thank you for enlightening me!

sarah0725

*waves at Joy*If I am being stalked, that's okay with me. I never thought of myself as much of a P&E celebrity.Please don't put skateboarding into FI's head! Worrying about him skating around a track at 30+ MPH all the time is scary enough, but if I had to worry about him flying several stories into the air, coming down, and landing on his head, I don't know what I would do. :)That's awesome that you're almost done with your Ph.D.! I bet it is going to be a huge relief.

sarabellam

We don't fight all that often, especially considering how big of a ragin biitch I am, especially 1 week a month. The last one was about money (or lack thereof). Both of his parents wanted to give us money to cover his car payments. I REALLY didn't want to accept it. And thanks to the lovely ladies here for convincing me that I was on the wrong side of that one, and giving me the idea that taking it with the intention of paying it back was a nice compromise. I swear, I'm not stupid. Hard-headed? Guilty as charged.