One last fling

temerityjane

I don't know about him, but I have absolutely no compulsion for one last fling. I already broke this one in. He's accustomed to dealing with a day or two of leg stubble and knows I'm not going to put on make up every time he sees me. I long ago stopped sucking it in, and don't remember the last time I used a hair dryer. One last fling would require way more effort than I feel like exerting.

louisvillebride21

TJ, you put it best. Forget all my morals and the fact that I love him. Not much competes with not having to worry about all that shiit anymore.

temerityjane

LVB - I didn't even get as far as thinking about morals and cheating when thinking about flings. I got as far as "eh... that sounds like a lot of work."In seriousness, he and I are in agreement that serious desire to have sex with someone else requires a conversation about whether or not we should even continue our relationship.When it comes down to it though... yeah, I meant what I said - on top of it being wrong, I am way too complacent and settled in to put in the effort required to land a new sex partner, especially one who I would not know well enough to feel comfortable exposing the fact that my boobs totally fall into my armpits when I lay on my back. I mean, that's one of the main benefits of monogamy, aside from the emotional connection and lack of risk of disease - never again having to hide this jiggle or that unfortunate freckle or the fact that I am "blessed of thigh," as we put it the other day.

Night_Sprite

I'm glad that even though there are media constructs about valueless society that people aren't generally taking their husband/wife and deciding there are no rules associated with that kind of relationship anymore. 

louisvillebride21

That's very, very true. And I'm sure that might be a little depressing to the guys, but hell, they got shitt they don't want to hid anymore either. It's a total win-win.

NuggetBrain

Honestly? Sometimes. But I have only ever been with my fiance. I've never even kissed another guy besides him. Hell, I'd never even been on a date before I met him. So I think it's only natural to sometimes see a hot guy at a bar and think "Hmm...." I wouldn't act on it though. Unless it was Simon Baker or Zac Efron. Then all bets are off.

ootmother2

No, I've done very little flinging for my age.  Even after my divorce I waited a long time to even date anyone more than a few times.

NuggetBrain

Oot, I totally thought you said you'd done very little fingering for your age.

e_jakiela

Me - definitely not, I got enough flinging in my earlier 20s FI - HELL NO... he knows that I would find out and that I was cheated on, and that it would mess everything up, as I would not be able to forgive... He also said he lost faith in humanity when he came back from his friend's bachelor party where a few non-single dudes went to a "rub and tug" place... he came back super shocked!

AlexiaANDRobert

No way, no how, not ever. H feels EXACTLY the same way. Also, I never viewed the Bachelor/ette Party as a last hurrah or the end of freedom. I always saw it as a night to celebrate with the guys/girls flying solo.  Robert went fishing with my Dad and my brothers and his brother in law.  I went to the beach with my sisters and my cousin. No stippers, lap dances, or dollar bills involved.

jamm2019

No we got all of our flinging out of the way before we met.  We are both fine with being each others last fling before the ring and after the ring.