Inviting Friend's New Nasty Husband?

jemmini6

Yeah, this guy sounds like a total d-bag, but unfortunately, your friend must not think so otherwise she wouldn't have married him (I don't care how badly you need health insurance).  If he's as controlling as you say, if you didn't invite him, I highly doubt he'd "let" her go either.  The farther you push him away, the farther you are pushing her away too.  Like you said, she stuck by you when you were in a difficult time and whether she realizes it or not, she is in one now and will need you more than she knows.  If saving her from him means inviting him to your wedding, then it's a no-brainer.

NOLAbridealmost

She responded, yes, he uses her photo to masturbate.  (Not nude though). 

LisaChris2011

He masturbated to your and others' photos?  That's disgusting.  How could one even look at him in the eye at her wedding?  And what is with these women who stay with these creeps??!!

NuggetBrain

Maybe this got answered on the other thread but are you one of the people whose photos he's using as his own personal porn stash?

ETA: nevermind, I saw it does.  I'm sorry, if this makes me a horrible person so be it, but I'm not inviting someone to my wedding who uses a picture of me to wack it and who spies on people having sex.  Period.  Not to mention that if Noodle knew about the pictures he'd probably punch him square in his face at the reception.  If not sooner. 

NOLAbridealmost

She responded, yes, he uses her photo to masturbate.  (Not nude though). 

mica178

My only suggestion right now is sting operation to get him caught as a peeping tom.  Then he won't be able to attend your wedding because he'll be in jail.  (Or could you have your sister file a restraining order against him so that he cannot attend your wedding without violating the order?)

(Disclaimer: this was all written in cyan comic sans.)

kandibaker

My friend was telling me how unhappy she was Monday night! She's not happy, or she's lying to me about being unhappy which wouldn't make much sense/ But  hell, marrying him didn't make much sense either.

NOLAbridealmost

  I'm sorry, if this makes me a horrible person so be it, but I'm not inviting someone to my wedding who uses a picture of me to wack it and who spies on people having sex.  Period.  Not to mention that if Noodle knew about the pictures he'd probably punch him square in his face at the reception.  If not sooner. 

This.  A lot.  Thank you!  Sometimes the rules of etiquette just HAVE to be broken.   There's no way in hell I'd invite this guy.  And I'd be extremely worried about my friend who is married to him because of his other behaviors.