Cheap friends

Nebb

Ive gotta be honest, if I had guests who didnt give gifts I would be a little pissed off too, I think its a natural reaction. Doesnt make anyone a brat, but whether youre entitled to gifts or not, weddings are (to most people) a gift giving occasion. I dont think its so strange to be a little shocked when people dont give one.

thesequel

When I read this post....the first Harry Potter movie ran through my head....especially the part of Dudley's birthday party because he didn't get enough gifts!  He portrayed a child....hopefully you are not that.  

Gifts are not expected.  They are a lovely addition but no one is required to buy you anything unfortunately.  

I suggest you move past this and enjoy your new marriage.  Good luck!

tmwanyo

For me personally if I can't afford to give someone a nice wedding gift I will decline the RSVP and send in a card what I can afford at that time. I just feel that this couple has put so much time and effort and money into planning that it is unfair for me to go eat the food that now a days can easily be $100 a plate depending and to then only give $20 in a card. To me I feel embarrased to then only be able to afford to give that when it costs so much for food/drinks. That is my personal opinon sorry it is offends anyone.

Now to expect gifts(or costly ones) I dont agree with that. To be a little dissapointed I can understand, but not mad or angry.

bethsmiles

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cheap-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:13473c43-fe78-49fb-bd64-ff0021ca347aPost:895ef5b6-3ebc-477c-b86d-0f553bb43f68">Re: Cheap friends</a>:
[QUOTE]For me personally if I can't afford to give someone a nice wedding gift I will decline the RSVP and send in a card what I can afford at that time. I just feel that this couple has put so much time and effort and money into planning that it is unfair for me to go eat the food that now a days can easily be $100 a plate depending and to then only give $20 in a card. To me I feel embarrased to then only be able to afford to give that when it costs so much for food/drinks. That is my personal opinon sorry it is offends anyone. Now to expect gifts(or costly ones) I dont agree with that. To be a little dissapointed I can understand, but not mad or angry.
Posted by tmwanyo[/QUOTE]

I would be so sad if one of my friends did that. I'd rather have them come and celebrate with me than decline because they can't cover their plate. The bride and groom choose how much they want to spend on their wedding, guests should feel zero obligation to cover their plate when they had zero say in how much it would cost.

Weddings aren't about getting gifts they are about celebrating the love between to two people who have made a commitment to spend the rest of their lives with each other.

Ghoti

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cheap-friends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:13473c43-fe78-49fb-bd64-ff0021ca347aPost:08912d79-c2fd-4f36-9cb8-1c3fbae00c7f">Re: Cheap friends</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cheap friends : <strong>I would be so sad if one of my friends did that.</strong> I'd rather have them come and celebrate with me than decline because they can't cover their plate. The bride and groom choose how much they want to spend on their wedding, guests should feel zero obligation to cover their plate when they had zero say in how much it would cost. Weddings aren't about getting gifts they are about celebrating the love between to two people who have made a commitment to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]
This!!!

katieisawesome

I am surprised at even the few pps who seem to think that the wedding gift is something a guest gives to reimburse the host for the cost of their attendance.  I have never heard that in my life nor ever even considered the idea.